On the nytimes.com
And people wonder why it's a mystery that birth rates in the US have been declining over the years?
IMO the old saying misery loves company applies here in regards to radical feminist. With #metoo they are accomplishing destroying relationships between women and men.
And then there are the memories of being brusquely, and without permission, pushed up against a wall — and loving it. In fact, those were the steamiest moments I could recall. I wondered if I would ever experience such an unscripted embrace again — and then immediately worried: Did my secret desires make me a traitor to #MeToo and what it stands for?
No, according to Michaela Boehm, a sex and intimacy therapist and psychologist; they make me pretty normal.
Her 25 years as a counselor have taught her what many women and men privately know, but are now too afraid to admit — the same truth that the success of “Fifty Shades of Grey” tells: Many women like to be dominated in bed. “Not in their lifestyle, not in their career, but in the bedroom, many women would like to surrender,” Dr. Boehm said. This may explain why, on Amazon’s list of best-selling erotica — a medium that, unlike pornography, is mostly produced and enjoyed by women — themes of male dominance tend to, well, dominate.
Theories differ on whether this preference is a result of societal norms or biology or both. But it’s interesting to note that separate research conducted by the sexologists Meredith Chivers and Marta Meana supports the idea that biology plays a supporting role. Moreover, a 2009 study by Patricia H. Hawley at the University of Kansas found that the more socially dominant a woman was, the more likely she was to enjoy fantasies of sexual submission.
The last thing a woman wants to be worrying about while in the heat of the moment is whether her arousal is an expression of her own distinct eroticism or a symptom of patriarchal oppression. Yet, in the #MeToo landscape, many 30-and-under women and men — including me — are finding it harder to untease the two as we navigate dating and fledgling relationships. In a surprising twist, what began as a very public airing of powerful men’s sexual misconduct has come to cast a certain sinister pall over private intimacies that once seemed perfectly O.K. to enjoy.
“After being exposed to so many accounts of different women’s sexual abuse or harassment, I was hyper-aware and hyper-sensitive about it,” said Jessica Tallarico, 30, of Toronto, a newly engaged friend of mine. “So on one occasion, playing around affectionately in bed, my fiancé got the tiniest bit rough and I had such an adverse reaction to what would normally be playful. Adverse as in, I became defensive, flooded with a bit of fear.
“This felt so strange to me because it happened with my partner who I love and trust immensely, and he did nothing wrong or really that out of the ordinary.
This has put young feminists like Ms. Tallarico and Virginia Rand, a 24-year-old writer and actress in Los Angeles, in a tricky situation. Ms. Rand recalled one recent sexual encounter in which her partner asked for verbal consent “every step of the way.”
A rape survivor, Ms. Rand is well versed in feminist theory; she understands just how important and vital a shift such behavior from a young man is when it comes to casual sex. Yet, in practice, she had mixed feelings. “It’s difficult because on the one hand you’re like, ‘Dude, if I didn’t want it, I would stop you,’” she said. “On the other hand, that can be used against you if it was assault.”
TLDR: Good article, google the title should come right up, on how #metoo is causing both men and women to second guess themselves and leaving them confused.
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It's going for the overall goal of radical feminism and/or far left, everyone has to behave, think and believe everything like they do.
That is from Wikipedia. I call bullshit on "However, Dworkin has denied this interpretation, stating, "What I think is that sex must not put women in a subordinate position. It must be reciprocal and not an act of aggression from a man looking only to satisfy himself. That's my point.""
Yeah thank you Captain Obvious for the point / clarification that sex must be reciprocal not to be considered rape. IMO she really does believe "all heterosexual sex is rape", because more times than not women are in a subordinate position, because they prefer to be in it during sex.
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"Ms. Rand recalled one recent sexual encounter in which her partner asked for verbal consent “every step of the way.”
And her pussy dried up faster than a drop of water in the Sahara.
Jesus Christ, I can't even finish this. Not very exciting is it?
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Then she will leave to go to some guy that treats her like absolute shit for a booty call. While the nice guy is walking home with his blue balls, the asshole is pounding her relentlessly into the mattress, for his own satisfaction.
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The ironic thing is that the "nice guy" routine is also "cheating" and our brains recognize it.
Mark asks Bob: "Hey Bob, I'm having a problem with calculus. Would you help me?"
Bob: "Fuck off Mark, you should have paid attention. Plus I'm playing D&D tonight"
Jane asks Bob: "Hey Bob, I'm having a problem with calculus. Would you help me?"
Bob: "Sure Jane. I'm available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to help you with your calculus. I'm really good at it and I love helping other people. I also like kittens, rainbows and performing oral sex on women. Most guys don't like that because they're neanderthals but I love it. How do you like receiving oral sex?"
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He's not really a nice guy. If he was "nice" he'd help Mark with similar enthusiasm as Jane.
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No. I'm not saying that at all.
Mark and Jane are friends of Bob. Bob is willing to bend over backward for Jane, in hopes that he can get pussy from her. He isn't interested in fucking Mark, therefore Mark doesn't get special treatment. Therefore Bob's treatment of Jane isn't "nice".
If being nice is an act, our brains recognize it and treat you as a cheater. If someone is genuinely nice, we recognize that as a positive trait.
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And that's OK, but its not what I'm talking about. Bob thinks if he helps Jane a couple times with calculus and other tasks, Jane will understand how truly a nice guy^TM he is and will give up her pussy and once the pussy is slayed, he can stop the nice guy routine, because honestly, he really misses playing D&D with his friends.
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