In today's family court system, they're probably more ducked if they leave...
An abusive person is mentally ill. A mentally ill person becomes a nightmare in court. Court favors mentally ill people who have no problem lying and seeking destruction of their "Target". Court also favors women. Mentally ill women have a very good chance of ruining your life in family court.
Eloped with "dream girl". She physically/emotionally abused me for 2 months. Queue the false accusations of DV. $15,000 later charges were dropped. She moved to a different country, hired sleezebag lawyer/forensic accountant and manipulated my small business income to over 10 times it's actual amount for child support.
I ended up with temporary 100% custody when she showed up high to trial. All professionals involved in case think I should have primary custody, but in order to get it, it would cost about $100,000 in trial fees.
Length of marriage = less than 2 months Length of divorce = 3 years Cost to me $200,000 Cost to crazy woman = $0
men and women are interchangeable, gender roles are bad, women can do man things and men can do women things, people can be genderqueer and genderfluid, but
only men can perpetrate DV and only women can be victims of it
I absolutely don't doubt that there is roughly parity with people hitting each other, but is there research on the physical intensity of the abuse?
Government are available to demonstrate this. From this infographic, it would seem about 40% of DV homicide victims are male and 60%. If memory serves, one woman is killed in Australia by their intimate partner every 7 days and one man is killed by theirs every 10.
Doubtless you can find similar figures for other countries. The UK British Crime Survey would be a good place to go although that might not include homicide data.
FWIW, it's not parity. There's no doubt that more women are the victims of DV and IPV etc, but the difference is not all that much. It probably varies a bit, but the ratio is probably in the vicinity of 30-40% male victims as reported. (Underreporting is a big problem for both male and female victims.)
However...
Not saying violence is ever okay, I just think scale of violence matters, too.
I rather think that this is more the point. Homicide is bad, but it is not so special to warrant ignoring other forms of violence — particularly where it comes to public policy.
She likely tells herself that it's ok to lie and distort because her goals are so worthy.
I've never been able to work out whether the likes of Spillar have persuaded themselves so convincingly of their own politics/PR that they don't realise that they're lying, or whether they know full well that they're lying and do it anyway.
I tend to the former, because I'd have thought that any sane person would guess that, eventually, they'd be caught out in their lies. But perhaps that's naïve: liars lie all the time, even knowing that they are bound to be found out.
I'm a former police officer and personally dealt with dozens of domestic dispute calls.
Just curious, did you ever feel that your actions were coerced by policy against your better judgement on the scene? I'm thinking jurisdictions that have/had primary aggressor laws which require the arrest of the "most likely culprit [without regard to the evidence at the scene]", viz. men.
As a quick anecdotal summary of the many DV incidents I was involved in, I never once saw a woman who needed obvious medical attention. I saw two guys carried out dead on gurneys though, both stabbed with kitchen knives.
Thank you for saying so.
It's one thing to know this happens in the abstract, but it's quite another to hear it from a source close to the business, as it were.
I have been beaten up many times. Punched in the head inside my car, slapped many times by the girl i am currently dating. Been with her for 6 years and 99% of the time she is great but when she gets jealous or confrontational I don't know what to do. I am a student doctor right now and hope things will get better. I don't know if i even love her any more because of everything that has happened.
It's important to note that women commit a huge proportion of domestic violence, and men are frequently victimised. The fact that men are typically more physically robust doesn't mean we should trivialise this issue.
That said, the majority of female victims of domestic violence report feeling afraid and unsafe, whereas the majority of male victims don't report this. While both are important issues, they shouldn't be equated, and concern about the under-reporting of male victims shouldn't distract us from the fact that domestic violence is one of the biggest issues facing women and is an area of inequality between the sexes.
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In today's family court system, they're probably more ducked if they leave...
An abusive person is mentally ill. A mentally ill person becomes a nightmare in court. Court favors mentally ill people who have no problem lying and seeking destruction of their "Target". Court also favors women. Mentally ill women have a very good chance of ruining your life in family court.
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Eloped with "dream girl". She physically/emotionally abused me for 2 months. Queue the false accusations of DV. $15,000 later charges were dropped. She moved to a different country, hired sleezebag lawyer/forensic accountant and manipulated my small business income to over 10 times it's actual amount for child support.
I ended up with temporary 100% custody when she showed up high to trial. All professionals involved in case think I should have primary custody, but in order to get it, it would cost about $100,000 in trial fees.
Length of marriage = less than 2 months Length of divorce = 3 years Cost to me $200,000 Cost to crazy woman = $0
Great system...
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Government are available to demonstrate this. From this infographic, it would seem about 40% of DV homicide victims are male and 60%. If memory serves, one woman is killed in Australia by their intimate partner every 7 days and one man is killed by theirs every 10.
Doubtless you can find similar figures for other countries. The UK British Crime Survey would be a good place to go although that might not include homicide data.
FWIW, it's not parity. There's no doubt that more women are the victims of DV and IPV etc, but the difference is not all that much. It probably varies a bit, but the ratio is probably in the vicinity of 30-40% male victims as reported. (Underreporting is a big problem for both male and female victims.)
However...
I rather think that this is more the point. Homicide is bad, but it is not so special to warrant ignoring other forms of violence — particularly where it comes to public policy.
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I've never been able to work out whether the likes of Spillar have persuaded themselves so convincingly of their own politics/PR that they don't realise that they're lying, or whether they know full well that they're lying and do it anyway.
I tend to the former, because I'd have thought that any sane person would guess that, eventually, they'd be caught out in their lies. But perhaps that's naïve: liars lie all the time, even knowing that they are bound to be found out.
Just curious, did you ever feel that your actions were coerced by policy against your better judgement on the scene? I'm thinking jurisdictions that have/had primary aggressor laws which require the arrest of the "most likely culprit [without regard to the evidence at the scene]", viz. men.
Thank you for saying so.
It's one thing to know this happens in the abstract, but it's quite another to hear it from a source close to the business, as it were.
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my ex wife stabbed me
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I have been beaten up many times. Punched in the head inside my car, slapped many times by the girl i am currently dating. Been with her for 6 years and 99% of the time she is great but when she gets jealous or confrontational I don't know what to do. I am a student doctor right now and hope things will get better. I don't know if i even love her any more because of everything that has happened.
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Anyone know where this can be watched online or downloaded? I have been wanting to watch it but no showings in my area.
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It's important to note that women commit a huge proportion of domestic violence, and men are frequently victimised. The fact that men are typically more physically robust doesn't mean we should trivialise this issue.
That said, the majority of female victims of domestic violence report feeling afraid and unsafe, whereas the majority of male victims don't report this. While both are important issues, they shouldn't be equated, and concern about the under-reporting of male victims shouldn't distract us from the fact that domestic violence is one of the biggest issues facing women and is an area of inequality between the sexes.
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My uncle went through an abusive relationship. Women who think that only men can be the abuser are part of a big problem
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