This is something I noticed in a Reddit thread where men were asked what it meant to them to be a man.
There was only one response, which could probably be summed up as, "meh".
And I honestly think this is how a lot of men feel.
You are yourself first, but also you're a man, if you'll even admit to it.
Women on the other hand seem to be proud of their gender and actively celebrate their womanhood. You see this in popular media and on places liked Twitter. And it even shows up in psychological association tests. Women are associated with traits like "good" and "valuable" whereas men are associated with traits like "bad" and "worthless".
Men are never told that they can be proud of who they are. And many are made to apologize just for being alive. Instead of celebrating men, we attack and demonize them on a daily basis. And I think this difference in treatment and identity has an overall negative effect on their mental health.
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