As men, we are raised to be mere cogs in the grand machine that is society. From the oldest of our memories, we remember girls being kissed, and loved, by the teachers, whereas, we boys, used to get all the detentions and sometimes even physical abuse at the hands of teachers. From the youngest of ages, we men have been told to shut up and not cry, to instead bottle it up, and thus lead to depression and isolation. Front the youngest of ages, we men have been treated as "potential rapists", to be feared and stayed away from.
What does this do to a human mind? It causes depression, isolation, and loneliness. Combine this with the general apathy of society to male issues, and the general hostility strangers have to men (compared to women) and you can see where this goes.
Perhaps the most prominent of these issues is touch starvation. Most guys rarely if ever have physical contact with anyone apart from handshakes. I as a guy in college, have not hugged anyone in almost 3 months, the last time I did was with my dad when I left home for college. This isn't just me, it's basically almost every man. We are so touch starved and depraved of basic human (non-sexual) intimacy, that we no longer know what it is to be a human. All we know is that we have to earn money, and provide for our family.
I look with envy and sadness whenever I see girls hugging, kissing and touching each other platonically. I wish sometimes, how must it feel to be treated with care and love? For all I know, I've never been treated like a human by the fellow humans that I am surrounded by. Why? Because I was born with the "wrong" genitalia.
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this has been me to a fault with every relationship I ever had. they couldn’t understand why I was the way I was. just wanted to hold their hands & feel their skin on mine or hold them close to feel safe & grounded. my worst trait is I always end up picking someone who comes across understanding & affectionate only to discover once they’re my partner that they’re really not like that & im branded as being “too sensitive” when all I wanted was to feel love & secured
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Start hugging your friends more often when you see them. Instead of a handshake, give them a hug.
When a co-worker is sad about something, give him a hug, an arm around him, a shoulder to cry on when there’s some really bad shit going on.
And fuck people who think that’s gay or girly, it ain’t. It’s bro-mentality.
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Feminist here, and I definitely don't call all men that. That was a pretty bitter generalization.
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You literally said "what feminists call all man."
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dont you have friends? hug them..
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Yeah girls these days are fucked up
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As a woman I deeply understand the envy of platonic affection. Or any affection, honestly. I was never able to have it with other women because they saw me as gay, and I didn't feel comfortable touching them because it might mean something different for me as someone who likes women too. I now associate all touch with sex, I can't remember the last time someone touched me that wasn't a doctor, which I either sexualize or it just feels like nothing because I know they don't actually want to touch me, obviously. Do any men have this issue too, the inability to see touch from a woman as nonsexual?
Even my ex didn't want to touch me :/ pillow princess things. She was so obsessed with me fucking her and being dominant that that's all we did... I'm sure she did touch me, must have... but I can't remember it at all.
I know physical contact can be popular in certain male circles. Roughhousing, bro hugs, ass slapping, shoulder touches, and such. It's obviously not the gentle loving affection of a woman generally, but it's definitely there.
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