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[–]belil569 25 points26 points27 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
And you are banned for many other subs just for posting here. Im sorry to hear about what happened but reddit as a whole is not the area to expect much help for male issues of any type. Most folks here are pretty good about it and a few other mens subs. Past that you have to censor youself and just not use genders as much as you can so no one belittles you for having a penis.
[–]AVAtistar 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
This are the kind of things that will kill reddit eventualy. It's just a matter of time till some other more free plataform take it place. Probabli using much of reddit source code.
[–]belil569 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
kind of like voat maybe.
[–]AVAtistar 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Voat is to much of a reddit clone. The next platafom must be something better and with more features. Otherwise people won't migrate.
[–]belil569 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tones of people already did migrate to voat with everything in the last two years.
[–]Tedesche 6 points7 points8 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yours is an excellent example of how society is biased against men. I'm really sorry for all you've experienced, and I would definitely recommend finding a therapist you can trust.
If I were you, I'd consider messaging the admins about your treatment on the rape sub. Subreddit mods are typically given a wide latitude in how to moderate their subs, so it may not result in any action, but I'd still give it a shot. This is just straight up wrong.
[+]JebberJabber -10 points-9 points-8 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Unfortunately a rape sub has to be careful who they let in because of the rise in trolling on that subject and the extreme vulnerability of some of the members. Also the sophistication, dedication and callousness of the intruders has increased a lot since Gamergate and the expansion of the MRM into the schoolboy demographic.
Due to a previous raid anyone who has posted in KiA is autobanned and has to message the mods if they want to join. I imagine they also have alerts if a user who has posted in TiA, MensRights, RedPill etc tries to join. To clarify suspect cases they might have automated google searches set up to check for phrases like "free speech", "white knight" etc.
Men involved in the MRM who need support for rape will always be treated with suspicion or simply blocked, you can't fix that because you can't control the assholes who think it is clever to go onto a support sub and start using it as a political soapbox, or do their Just Asking Questions / Free Speech stuff to vulnerable people. And you can't magically give the mods more time and energy to sort through the bullshit.
The answer is to use a separate account for support subs, and don't do anything which would cause the mods to check your IP.
It sounds like it is too late for you. They will be upset about your supporting guys who want to override the bodily autonomy of women they have impregnated, that wouldn't be a popular opinion on a rape sub but it seems like a huge overreaction if that was the only problem.
Other subs that might be relevant are /PTSD, /depression and /anxiety. And /SuicideWatch, which has very variable quality support since it has got so big.
Many therapists will work by Skype. You can pick a therapist from anywhere in the world, with a time zone to suit your schedule and a currency exchange in your favour.
Be careful, PTSD can bite very hard. I've seen a lot of stories of people who thought they were handling things well, then something activated the memories - maybe an unwary counsellor, or a small incident that wouldn't normally be a problem. This can happen decades later.
Best of luck, and PM me if I can help.
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[–]InBaggingArea 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ahem...quite!
Spectacularly dishonest, isn't it.
[–]JebberJabber 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
True. The way it is described makes it sound like that is what happened here.
[–]InBaggingArea 27 points28 points29 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't be surprised. They don't care about truth.
[–]oshmkufa2010 25 points26 points27 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hypocritical twats. For all they know they just sent a suicidal man directly into his death. And they didn't even care. Not a single fuck was given on that day. And then they probably pride themselves on helping those who really need it. Yeah, right. Aren't they saints?
[–]belil569 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
One might say their subs are a complete cuntastrophe.
[–]garglemesh42 22 points23 points24 points 7 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
What is this?
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[–]cld8 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Reddit needs an option to disassociate from your comments.
Just make a new account every few months.
[–]cottonthread 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I just delete all of my comments a day or two after making them so people can't comb through my comment history.
That sounds like a lot of work, wouldn't it be easier to just have a PC account and a non-PC one or something? (Or do you use some kind of tool to make it easier?)
[–][deleted] 13 points14 points15 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm sorry to hear about your troubles and after reading your story I think I can offer advice on dealing with your online threats (I work in IT, have dealt with similar things in the past). tl;dr: you need an IP address so the cops can issue a subpoena to the ISP to link your harassment to a physical address.
If the harassment is over email:
if the harassment is through social media:
There's always the chance that they're using an anonymizer system but given the persons history and recent release from jail I'd put my money on them not knowing anything about this kind of tech. If you have questions let me know and I'll do what I can to help.
[–]jtaylor73003 9 points10 points11 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree that you comment history should reflect on what you might post on their sub. The only behavior that should get ban from a sub is not following their rules.
Sorry to hear about your issues. I would suggest looking for a male center therapist even one in your town. There is not shame in seeing a therapist, and they can be extremely helpful. I am disable disable vet, and help a lot when I saw a therapist who actually specialized in pain management.
[–]TheSummerain 18 points19 points20 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Name and shame them.
If they are proud of thier behaviour and feel they an defend it then there is no problem.
Protecting them just continues to the problem. You are Condoning thier actions.
[–]intensely_human[🍰] 6 points7 points8 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This website: http://www.7cups.com/ offers free online therapy. Please note two things (a) I don't believe it is professionally administered - people who are there to listen receive a small amount of training, and (b) it is chat-based, so it's a little less cathartic than actually talking to a human face to face.
However it is a place you can go to get someone to listen to you without being judgmental.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Make sure to keep a record of any threats made against you. It's very important that you have these if you need to contact the police further.
Given that the trial was posted in a newspaper, why are you concerned with seeking help from a local therapist?
[–]Imnotmrabut 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You have Three (3) issues here, when previously you only had only one. No wonder you are feeling the need to vent!
Up until a short time ago you were just a survivor. Then this guy is released and your a survivor and a possible target. Then to add to that your now being stalked... of course you need to vent. You wouldn't be a fucking human if you didn't!
Mods are a pain in the arse and generally so far up their own arses they abuse by default. I know this as I have been a Mod on many sites and services. I am very experienced in Mod behavior.
From where I'm sitting the most relevant and urgent issue is that you are being stalked via social media. Depending upon the nature of the threat and where it's coming from it may well be an FBI issue if your in the USA. If he's over the state line ....
18 U.S. Code § 875 - Interstate communications Current through Pub. L. 114-38. (See Public Laws for the current Congress.) * (a) Whoever transmits in interstate or foreign commerce any communication containing any demand or request for a ransom or reward for the release of any kidnapped person, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than twenty years, or both. * (b) Whoever, with intent to extort from any person, firm, association, or corporation, any money or other thing of value, transmits in interstate or foreign commerce any communication containing any threat to kidnap any person or any threat to injure the person of another, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than twenty years, or both. * (c) Whoever transmits in interstate or foreign commerce any communication containing any threat to kidnap any person or any threat to injure the person of another, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than five years, or both. * (d) Whoever, with intent to extort from any person, firm, association, or corporation, any money or other thing of value, transmits in interstate or foreign commerce any communication containing any threat to injure the property or reputation of the addressee or of another or the reputation of a deceased person or any threat to accuse the addressee or any other person of a crime, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than two years, or both.
I'd have a chat with the FBI as they do have some useful resources and ways of tracking ex cons and abusers.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So sorry to hear about your past trauma, bro. My deepest sympathies. And fuck those mod cunts. Vile abortions that they are.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There are many help groups online. Please google and look them up. There is support available, even for males. I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm glad the person was caught and charged.
[–]Kizrock94 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn, this sort of treatment should never be allowed at all
[–]equiposeur 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm so sorry that you were treated that way. Obviously, those mods are cruel and their prejudices completely deprive them of empathy.
[–]Flame_fanner 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What Subreddit is it?
[–]renagadefish 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All of what you said is awful. What happened to you, the current abuse you face, and the lack of support being shown by those who make it their business to help those in your position. I hope you can find a decent outlet that is less judgmental.
[–]cymrich 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
nothing uncommon there... and you really don't need to out the mods, any one who has been around here a while already has a good idea or could spot them in seconds if they tried.
obviously you already spoke to the police about this if they have no idea where he is... but how is he harassing you online? that may be traceable. I'd love to say that chances are he's just trying to scare you, but if he served his full sentence and starts harassing you the day he gets out then I'm not so sure.
[–]cld8 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
PLEASE see a local therapist. Their job is to help you, and their services are confidential. You wouldn't rely on Reddit for medical advice, you would see a doctor, right? This is no different.
[–]Akesgeroth 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And now you know why this sub exists.
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