The saying "you should never hit a women" is cringe AF . Guys have been justifiably beaten up doing wayy less than what some women get away with.

Nathaniel66 · 2021-11-08T05:57:29+00:00

It is very simple. Those who say "men must never hit a women" justify it that men are stronger, theforethey should hold themself. Ok, but if i hit a guy twice as big/ strong as me society will say: "you saw he's bigger/ stronger than you, wtf were you thinking?"

As marriage/ relationship rates droppes i truly believe the law will change and in the future we will get true equality. For now, we need to stay united.

McSmarfy · 2021-11-08T05:34:54+00:00

I will protect myself against anyone. Anyfuckingone. That said, I'll try to get out of the situation with as little trouble as possible. So I'm not just going to beat down anyone that's pestering me if I have options. But a woman (or man) that is determined to hurt me is going to get whatever I can give them to change their mind. I carry, so up to and including dirt nap is on the table. I hope it never goes that far. I've had to pull on people twice and both times pulling was enough.

Frank_Bianco · 2021-11-08T06:38:54+00:00

There is a huge perception difference, with men being the 'stronger' sex. If a big strong man open-palm slaps a poor defenseless woman, he's an abuser, and going to jail. Women use weapons. If she beans him with a cast iron frying pan, as the old funny joke goes, it's laughable, justifiable, and he must have had it coming.

Being mocked and ridiculed is a big part of why men don't report domestic assaults. Too many men show up to emergency with defensive knife wounds; because they put the knives in the dishwater before doing the dishes, or hit themselves in the back of the head by accident, etcetera. Also pretty tough to report it if you're dead.

With no DV support for men, they're just heading straight back home to these monsters.

There really isn't justification for violence from either party in a domestic relationship. But it happens; and it happens from both sides. Which is why awareness of DV towards males is the most important weapon in combatting it. There's no consequences if it doesn't exist. Talk about it.

dtyler86 · 2021-11-08T03:27:50+00:00

It be like that. Buddy of mine tripped over a girls endlessly long dog leash a very crowded outdoor restaurant; no place for a fucking puppy. He nearly fell and barely caught himself. The girl shouted at him “I’d you hurt my dog I’d punch you in the face!”

He, being a bit of an overly apologetic and startled guy, apologized profusely. It wasn’t until after the fact I became livid. It’s amazing how if this girl shouted at another girl, she might get slapped. A guy shouts this at another guy, he’s likely get punched in the mouth. But this girl knows she can make violent threats like this and literally no one would back him up. Maybe even kick his ass when she starts crying and claiming it’s his fault. These double standards are fucking ridiculous.

No one should hit anyone. I think it goes double for women, since they know they have the advantage of the law.

Disciple_Of_Cheesus · 2021-11-08T04:59:04+00:00

"Concerning nonviolence, it is criminal to teach a man not to defend himself when he is the constant victim of brutal attacks."

— Malcolm X

CanniBal1320 · 2021-11-08T02:56:21+00:00

I suggest a simple solution, dont throw a punch if u cant take one. I personally dont like to hit anyone, especially women coz I dont want to be in any kind of trouble. But I wont be afraid to slap the shit outta one if she even remotely dares to cross the line.

Brokepapa321 · 2021-11-08T10:31:43+00:00

"I said no, because she has kids to take care of", With respect...This statement only reinforces the perspective you are arguing against. Would you refrain from pressing charges against or hitting another man for the same reason? Actions have consequences. Press charges, have her kids taken by the state, send her to jail. Men are not allowed to defend themselves against a female assailant, our only recourse is to use the law to its fullest. When we don't we perpetuate the current status quo.

Kaio_00 · 2021-11-08T07:03:48+00:00

I'll be honest.. and also say that I make no excuses for bad behavior or my own trauma as a kid.. but I used to get beat by my step-father from the age of three until around twelve, when my mother finally divorced him. When I was three, I was beat so bad I fell unconscious, and when I woke up, I stuttered. That was thirty-two years ago.. and I still have the stutter. Though, it's more under control nowadays.

Anyway.. I don't like violence or people putting their hands on me in anger. The one and only time I've ever shoved, not hit, a woman was in my twenties. A coworker got in my face and poked her finger in my chest. There was no thought.. I instantly shoved her back, and she flew across the production floor. She was scared.. I was scared. I never knew I had that in me. This shit can traumatize a person.. and you never know, unless you ask, what the other person has been through. Since then, I avoid violent people.

Even being in relationships is tough, since I'm actually gay. I'm not a coward, but men will hit other men.. and I'm not having it. Luckily I've never been assaulted, but, I've never really dated anyone seriously. Violence fucks with people.

Anyway.. kind of off-topic, but you made good point. Just wanted to share.

itchyotcthy · 2021-11-08T07:45:14+00:00

(This means she tried to file charges against me)
Not such a bad thing that you didn't press charges as it could suck up your life but just shows that while you were considering 'her' she was not considering you... but people go crazy now a days... I'm saying a lot now: it is if we are all under some sort of Spell!!!

VincentZ6 · 2021-11-08T04:15:30+00:00

As a man you should never hit a woman, fuck the ego and just run, unless you're alone with said woman who is threatening your safety/wellbeing and you are absolutely certain she will have no easy way of finding out who you are (you were intelligent enough to have used a fake name, have money for lawyers if it comes down to it, and live in a different city/state/country then said woman, etc... but were still stupid and/or unfortunate enough to be interacting with one).

Here are a few reasons why:

https://www.reddit.com/r/fightporn/comments/qoet4d/boy_jumped_by_mobs_for_defending_himself_against/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share.

https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/o3z9v5/boy_suspended_from_school_after_fighting_back/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Female privilege is alive and well, hit or face the risk of having to defend yourself from a woman even if she's trying to kill you means you might need to be prepared to face violence from literally everyone in vicinity. Yes, including the misandrist state you pay taxes to keep running:

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/qmw790/more_on_michael_craig_the_dv_victim_murdered_by/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Conclusion: Keep your emotions under control always when in a situation where you're being assaulted by a woman. Having cameras or recording devices (if legal, check jurisdiction laws) in vicinity can be very helpful if she falsely accuses you of assaulting her (remember the cops will usually side with her). They're also useful to have as in op's case where he had to restrain her and had he been in a position where he had no choice but to hit her (she was coming at him with a weapon) in self defense the footage and a good lawyer can go a long way to help him.

dukunt · 2021-11-08T01:17:35+00:00

Once bitten, twice shy

coloradocaniac · 2021-11-08T07:08:18+00:00

I had an ex hit me over a bad dad joke about how a bad blonde reporter got her job.

She also pulled my hair in a jealous fit along with hair out of my nose without warning or reason just because she wanted to.

Don't do that.

Pulling someone's nose hair out hurts like hell.

makosh22 · 2021-11-08T07:08:26+00:00

I believe that any person can do any physicals action to protect him\herself.

Mythandros · 2021-11-08T07:27:31+00:00

"You shouldn't hit anyone." is what I go by.

Those gendered sayings which favor women are a strict no-go for me. I refuse to elevate someone because of their genitals.

a_posh_trophy · 2021-11-08T09:54:40+00:00

Treat others as they would treat you. Equal rights, and lefts.

can_i_get_upvotes · 2021-11-08T06:28:19+00:00

Don’t hit a person if you know they won’t cause any damage to you, simple as that.

If a woman is weaker than you and throws a weak punch, sure it can mentally hurt, but don’t punch back, not worth it.

If a woman punched you hard enough to cause serious damage, punch back

Easy

210101210 · 2021-11-08T07:39:15+00:00

"you should never hit a women"

This is exactly what happens in a patriarchy. Those who say that just wants to uphold the patriarchy. It's really shocking that people who claim to fight the patriarchy also say these things.

Lord_Kaigen1982 · 2021-11-08T08:39:33+00:00

You did good with maintaining your composure while preventing further attacks to you, however, i think that you should have pressed charges. Just because she has kids does not get her a pass when she was reacting to things so poorly. Its obviously the only way she is gonna learn anything. Plus, she tried bringing you up on charges without any second thought to how it could possibly ruin your entire life. Ultimately, whether you are male or female, NOBODY is allowed be physically abusive to ANYONE EVER!!!! Its not right, not cute and its not a mature response to anything

BeNice_777 · 2021-11-08T12:12:18+00:00

You really should have pressed charges but otherwise it sounds like you handled this quite well. As a general rule I'd say never ever get physical with someone unless you are prepared for them to get physical back. Man or woman.

NewsboyHank · 2021-11-08T13:15:30+00:00

Where I come from, you would have been charged on the spot for restraining her.

Numerous-Secret3725 · 2021-11-08T17:38:54+00:00

If a woman charges you with a knife, you better believe that's a paddlin'

ImplodedPotatoSalad · 2021-11-08T23:44:29+00:00

Never dont press charges. So what if she has kids? Never dont destroy enemies, they will not be as lenient on you.

Fact_Trumps_Feeling · 2021-11-08T04:15:04+00:00

You don't hit an unarmed woman other than to defend yourself, for the same reason men's and women's sports are separate.

They're physically weaker, and only a neanderthal, thuggish, brutish bully hits someone weaker than they are.

At the same time, if a woman comes at me with a knife or a gun, then all bets are off.

ElegantDecline · 2021-11-08T10:11:43+00:00

imo physical violence is for wars. Everything else, you need to learn to deal with words like an adult.

BrotherZael · 2021-11-08T17:24:26+00:00

I don’t see gender when it comes to violence, but hey that doesn’t matter if it’s almost impossible to make you get violent (towards a human, inanimate objects are the acception)