Before I start my post, let me clarify my title, I'm NOT saying that you cannot be friends with a tradcon, or that all tradcons are bad people. I have no problem with someone living a tradcon lifestyle if they really want to! But it is clear that their beliefs are not concurrent with our beliefs. Allow me to explain.

Despite feminists and tradcons seemingly having polar opposite views of gender, both of them are two sides of the coin. Despite their reputation, tradcons don't HATE women. They don't want women to be killed, they don't women to be beaten up, or imprisoned, or deported. You don't see tradcon men campaigning to bar women from coming to UK or USA or wherever (like some of them do for immigrant men). You don't see tradcons campaigning to have women killed/imprisoned (like they USED TO do for gay men). You don't see tradcons starting campaigns that were funded by the government to have women lynched just for walking down the road or entering a restaurant. You don't see tradcons running gestapo style investigations to find out if any man is hiding a woman (or even a feminist) in his attic. Even though tradcons might dislike feminists, the vast majority of them don't advocate for women or feminists to be killed, raped, assaulted, or imprisoned, like a lot of revolutionaries had to go through. Some of them even believe you should be a gentleman to feminists even if they don't ask you to do.

For example, I'm a feminist (in that I believe men and women are equal and women should be free, I don't believe in patriarchy theory) and my boyfriend is a tradcon guy, but he doesn't think that women are bad or evil, he believes that men should be the head of the household, but he also believes that men should provide for and protect women and not hurt them. Most tradcons believe it.

Despite this, the view of tradcons is that they hate women and love men. This is not true, they uphold gender roles for women, that some women might disagree with but they don't hate us. They believe women should concentrate on taking care of her children and home, and men should buy them a house, give them money, treat them kindly, and protect them. They idealize women and see mothers as tiny angelic figurines, which is not the same as hating them. To say tradcons see women as slaves is insulting to all the people who had gone through the hideous blot of slavery.

So, why am I saying tradcon beliefs are not concurrent with our own? Well, they believe men should be protecting women and working for them, even dying for them if they can. This is more akin to slavery if I am being honest.

For example, PragerU's video on marriage for men said the advantage is that men worked longer hours, spent less time with friends and earned more, AKA become a hubby so you can be a disposable worker bee.

Matt Walsh and Steven Crowder disagree with full paternity leave, thereby ignoring the fact that men can be loving parents and spouses too, and depriving men of precious moments with their children.

A page I follow on Instagram called Tradcon living USA regularly idealizes the crusades, a horrible war that resulted in the deaths of thousands of men and harmed thousands more. After men are done almost getting bombed to death, they can come back home and work for several hours a day being a worker bee for their wives because Tradcons believe men should be the main breadwinners (aka women are too precious to slave away at a desk for ten hours)

Do not be fooled, tradcon gender roles are not good for men.