In it's simplest form marriage is a consensual contract of support and commitment. you are not being forced, you actively choose to enter it.

Now to many of us (myself included) marriage represents an incredibly "bad deal" and so I wont be signing that contract and entering into marriage unless it is changed. if enough people feel the same way, then en mass enough men do not get married and those wanting marriage need to do something to entice the buyer back into the deal (better terms)

the men who are complaining about marriage now are the people who have sold you guys out in the past, since they have lowered the market by "selling out" and accepting shitty terms/deals rather than actually staying firm and standing for what they think is fair.

Its simple supply and demand, if a woman wants to get married and she can easily find a guy to accept a shitty deal, there is no need to change the system in her eyes since the market gives her what she wants/needs.

If men didn't accept shitty deals so easily and readily then there would be a collective need for change since marriage itself would be in such heavy decline those wanting marriage or pro marriage would need major reforms.

Those complaining about Alimony or unfair terms today are not your ally, they lowered the market for you by accepting shitty deals and not holding out.

Much like a union strike or boycotting a product. if people "just accept it" they are no longer victims, they are active in allowing this shitty system, so don't come complaining to us whining about how "unfair it all is"