In today's society you will often hear Muslim women say things like "he's controlling , manipulating etc". At the same time a man who does not control his womenfolk is considered a dayuuth in Islam and we obviously we follow the rules of Islam.
Women need to be controlled, if not they will cause havoc and allow fitnah/corruption to spread through society. This is why Allah will punish a man severely if he allows his womenfolk to do as they please.
A women is weaker and more vulnerable than a man in almost every single way, physically, mentally, emotionally and even more deficient in deen as rasullullah saw said(they sometimes cannot pray or fast due to menstruation) .
Think about it, Allah never made a single messenger/prophet a woman and this is because they aren't not capable of carrying and dealing with the burden a messenger/prophet would have to go through.
In Islam a woman is also not allowed to travel without a mahram and its because of what I've mentioned previously, they are also not allowed to marry a non Muslim ahlul kitaab or not.
The thing is we should control our women and Allah has also given us guidance on how to control our wives behaviour in a marriage “As to those women on whose part you see ill conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great”
[an-Nisa’ 4:34].
Allah is informing us this advice because it WORKS, Allah knows the nature of women as he created them.
I've read on so many forums that when a woman has displeased her husband and he withholds intimacy from her, it drives her crazy and makes her feel very guilty. She then understands what she's done is wrong and learns her lesson she may sometimes return to being disobedient but it's important for him to remain diligent.
The thing is you need to have strong imaan to follow this advice and most simps won't be able to do this as they'll be scared she'll resent him or leave him but we as muslim men should trust Allah and understand this is the only way to control women.
When you put a women on a pedestal she senses you are needy and she sees that as a sign of weakness and loses respect for you. When she loses respect for you she will no longer feel attraction to you or want engage in intimacy in fact she'll be repulsed.
Brothers the only women you should put on a pedestal is your mother remember that.
We as men need to be the leaders in the relationship and because we have a higher authority respect needs to be shown to us and we should should show care, love and kindness to our wives.
When you treat a women like a "queen" they don't know how to react to it and it turns them off, because they were made to be submissive towards men and that is their true fitrah.
Some people may say my advice is manipulative or controlling but this is the true nature of women, think of them more like children and things will make a lot more sense.
