I had this discussion with a friend. She says she would prefer to be a second wife ten times over being a first. She thinks she would be less jealous joining rather than having someone else join (obviously she's not thinking if he took a third). She also thinks he's going to pay a bit more attention to the second wife than the first but ultimately its about how she would feel joining his family.

Would you be freaked out if a girl said this to you or preferred you took the first wife and then her? (if you were set on polygamy)