As Muslim men we are expected by society and our upbringing to get married by the ages of 23-32, while we are still young. And that's what many guys tend to do because they think that's what they are "supposed" to do as everyone else they know did it that way too.

So what they do is, they go on the Muslim marriage apps (the worst place you can look for a spouse btw) and start swiping around only to find that the kind of matches they are getting, if any, are not their type. Maybe they are attracting out of shape women, maybe older women or divorcees, or just plainly someone they would never see themselves marrying in a 100 years. So now these young men find themselves stuck between a rock and a hard place, they were told by society that marriage is only once in a lifetime. Yet the kind of women they attract they cannot even see themselves sharing a room with for 10 seconds let alone a lifetime. So what do they do? After countless months of searching, these are the only women they seem to attract time after time again, and they are forced by their family and their young raging hormones that don't know any better to at least pick someone. So they humbly say bismillah and they go ahead and lower their standards and take a pick, and eventually end up settling for a mediocre marriage where they find out actually, I was a lot better off being single. Now they are stuck with a woman who they are not attracted to and they don't really like, but that's the decision everyone encouraged them to make at a young age not realising this young man's true value and self worth.

You see, as a man you should not get married in your 20s and early 30s when you're still young because you still haven't reached your full potential in the marriage market. As men our value and self worth only goes up as we become older. As men, we age well, we look better, we develop muscle on our body, we become more financially settled into our career, we go onto start our own businesses, we invest, we acquire assets and our overall value in the marriage marketplace goes up the older we get, peaking at around the age of 50. The same cannot be said about women, where we know the older they get the more sexually undesirable they become in the marriage market, but this is not true for men. As men we only get better with time.

So as a man, don't sell yourself short and marry while you are still young and developing as a person. Rather focus on developing your life first, go to the gym and get in shape, focus on your career, get a nice house and a nice car. Build yourself first and then you will see that instead of attracting all these mediocre women you were once attracting as a naive young man, now you will be attracting the younger, more attractive women instead who have a lot more to offer you as a man and consequently you will be a lot more happier in your marriage alhamdulillah. And if you decide not to get married, then still alhamdulillah because now you have built for yourself a nice life from all your hard work that you can actually get to enjoy.

So, don't be afraid to be single and go your own way brothers.