Crosspost "Suddenly self conscious about my appearance. 22F." from /r/MuslimMarriage:


Salaam,

These are some random details about my body, not necessarily sex but it feels pretty intimate.

I mentioned in another post that I am 22 and recently thinking more and more about getting married. For the last few years, I've never really been self conscious about my appearance. I more or less feel like Allah made me the way he did.

I have some mild insecurities, but they feel pretty "normal" to me.

- I'm a little on the heavier side, my built is a little heavier ( bone structure, despite me being just under 5'4"), but I'm really just curvy. My stomach is a little flabby but I really feel like it's normal and makes me look like...me. I lost weight once due to some health issues and had a flat tummy , I didn't really like it. Made my shoulders look to broad, and I like being soft.

- I have a lot of unwanted hair, but so does every South Asian woman. I thread my mustache, bleach the unwanted facial hair. I wax/shave everywhere else but in between removals I have some hair. I feel like that's so common and I think most Desi guys are aware of it. I have some rosacea on my arms and back but again, nobody has perfect skin on their whoooolleee body.

The one thing that's bugging me:

My breasts. The rest of my body is pretty " curvy" ( thighs/bottom ,etc.) , but my breasts are just so flat. I'm a 36B, but I have this awkward breast shape where they are far apart ( not tubular breasts), so they just look so small looking forward. Sometimes when I stand on the mirror I look like a 12 y/o. I just feel breasts are a big thing for men and I feel like a potential man would find that un-impressive? I never really thought about it because I only recently though about getting married and a man seeing me without clothes.

Anybody care to weigh in?


Posted by Mei_Flower1996 | 2 June 2020 | Link