Women on FDS and PPD talk about “effort” and how men do not put that much effort into dating women. But one thing women do not answer is why some men have to put in more effort than others. Scenario: You have been dating this woman for one month and you have paid for every date, and have not pressured her for sex or brought it up at all because she claims “I do not like to sleep around”. You are thinking about starting a relationship with her but you “find” out she had sex with a guy she just met through a casual encounter no effort needed on his part.”

A lot of women will say “it was just a casual encounter I found him attractive and he found me attractive and we just had sex, that’s a petty thing to argue about”. But it’s not because from a mans perspective what your telling him is that with all your “efforts” to pursue me it means nothing because since this man has better SMV than you my rules do not apply to him, but they apply to you. Hence the saying “women make rules for betas, break rules for alphas”. This is the scenario where that statement comes from, we do not sit in a basement and just make this stuff up. So by following this logic it makes sense why a lot men are cheap on dates “low effort=low risk”.

A lot of women will argue, “well if you were really looking for a relationship why does it matter if I sleep with a guy while your just courting me I’m still considered single”.

That is a valid argument, but that comes down to the fact that both parties need to be “honest” with each other beforehand about what they really want so issues like this do not happen. We know we are not the only person you are seeing, following that we know there are better looking men in your dating roster and vice versa, but both parties owe it to each other to be honest about there intentions.

The point that I’m trying to make is that if you do not reward the men that play the dating game correctly your setting a bad precedent for the future women these men meet. Your in a sense creating the “low value” “low effort” men that you despise, because they don’t want to get there time wasted or their feelings hurt. For men that just want to date you short term and leave will probably not care about this, but the men that do want you long term will because it shows that you are serious and not giving it up for anyone. When I say “reward” I’m not implying you have to sleep with them what I’m implying is just that you don’t fuck over the other party.