Over the quarantine i’ve kinda gotten addicted to tiktok to pass time, which is unfortunate because the app is an absolute cesspool. On the app, girls constantly shit on guys (it’s where the whole kill all men movement originated after all) to the tune of hundreds of thousands of likes. When it comes to dating specifically, i’ve noticed that a lot of the complaints from women on tiktok seem to be pure projection.

It’s a common saying among women that the “bar is on the floor” for men. Meaning that women are too easy on men in the dating market while men are unfairly picky. In reality, the exact opposite is true. Take the infamous tinder market study, which found that the top 78% of women in terms of attractiveness are competing for the top 20% of men. If tinder was an economy, it would be one of the most unequal economies in the world, and that is almost entirely driven by women. Numerous other studies have continued to reinforce that women are far more picky on men then men are on women. Furthermore, women are also more picky on men than gay men are on men, which negates the counter argument that maybe women are just picky because men are trash.

I’ve also seen women on the app complain a lot that men are “colorist” and only go for white girls. They seem to believe that it is men who are mostly responsible for racial bias in the dating market. In reality, however, there are tons of studies that have found race is not a statistically significant variable men consider when finding a partner but conversely, it’s a strong factor that women on average consider. Here’s one of those studies Overall, the scientific consensus has found that race is important to women moreso than it is to men in dating. I’ve also noticed that women have spent tons of time and posts talking about how black women are disrespected in the dating market, yet spend zero time addressing how asian men are nearly just as disrespected in the dating market as black women.

Overall, it seems to me that a lot of the time, when women complain about men and dating, it’s nothing more than just pure projection.