A man who demands that his partner stops using sex toys is accused of everything from being insecure about his size to being an abusive partner, yet women who police their partners use of porn are seen as reasonable, proactive, and victims in the situation. Why?

September 11, 2021

247 upvotes

It’s funny, I browse PPD and I see terms like “pornsick” mentioned whenever porn use (by a male) in a relationship is brought up. It implies that the use of porn is genuinely enough to cause a physical condition, and that it is on the male for using a form of escapism instead of acknowledging the situation at hand.

It seems like the concerns of woman on this topic are viewed legitimately, while men are accused of being insecure almost all the time.

If a woman posts about her husband viewing porn instead of having sex with her, the tone of the thread is nearly always sympathetic towards her. He can be completely unsatisfied with the frequency or quality of sex, but his concerns don’t matter. Even though he is the one who has to resort to an alternative, she feels like the victim in this situation because she doesn’t feel desired.

When a man can’t provide for his woman, she uses sex toys to satisfy herself. This is absolutely fine, but what’s interesting is what happens when he doesn’t like it. He is called small dicked, a loser, insecure, and controlling when he asks her to stop. He feels insecure and undesired, and in this case she is ….. also the victim??

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Title	A man who demands that his partner stops using sex toys is accused of everything from being insecure about his size to being an abusive partner, yet women who police their partners use of porn are seen as reasonable, proactive, and victims in the situation. Why?
Author	yoooooooooooodaddy
Upvotes	247
Comments	486
Date	September 11, 2021 1:11 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	/r/PurplePillDebate
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