The article below discusses two long term relationship studies (I also included links to the published research it's based on that I could find, Gottman has four decades of research on the subject). They found kindness and generosity were key in lasting relationships, and aggression, hostility, and selfishness were common in relationships that didn't last. The way many red pillers describe relationships fits more with the context of the latter, i.e. have perspectives that based on this actual research will result in failed long term relationships. The research findings are pretty much the opposite of what red pillers advocate, to not be kind - "Being mean is the death knell of relationships." Unlike the red pill belief that all humans are manipulative and self focused, it appears that most people in successful long term relationships are kind people, that really care about the needs of their partner, i.e. are not self centered. Being self centered is toxic to long term relationships.

So, if you are red pill and you care about long term relationships what are you thoughts on the article and the research results it discusses? Do you advocate frequently meeting the bids/needs of your partner, i.e. kindness? What's the difference between a bid and a shit test, in your mind? What's the difference between acting calm (when inside you are not) and holding frame? Do you agree it's bad to be self centered if you want to maintain a relationship?

http://www.businessinsider.com/lasting-relationships-rely-on-2-traits-2014-11
full text of referenced studies -
http://www.johngottman.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Long-term-marriage-age-gender-and-satisfaction..pdf
http://www.johngottman.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Emotional-behavior-in-long-term-marriage.pdf
http://www.johngottman.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/The-influence-of-age-and-gender-on-affect-physiology-and-their-interrelations-A-study-of-long-term-marriages.pdf
http://pni.osumc.edu/KG%20Publications%20(pdf)/109.pdf