TLDR Bad Boys aren't successful with women. Nice Guys think they are because Bad Boys have what Nice Guys want: Fucking multiple women at once.

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Edit: And commenters are still believing "Badboys have more sex partners. That means ALL WOMEN want bad boys" instead of realizing these men go after particular women or strictly get women in sexual situations where they have positive traits that have nothing to do with his douchey criminal traits.

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This post goes hand-in-hand with two other topics.

  1. How people define "Bad boy".
  2. Certain people confusing their confirmation bias with "Objective observations".

Going by the consensus of what a bad boy is: Asshole, deadbeat dad/boyfriend, criminal record, hyper sexual.

............The vast majority of women do not find these traits attractive.

"But I see alpha Chad bad boys gets girls all the time! Women never go after the nice guys!"

Oh yes, the typical "Nice Guy" cry that "Nice Guys Finish Last" and "Women want men who treat them like shit".Which brings back to point #2: Seeing what you want to see.Just because Alpha Chad Bad Boy gets a bunch of women doesn't mean that's most women. This also touches on the problem of Nice Guys seeing men as diverse but women as a hive mind. I'll get into that problem in a later. Most men do get a loving girlfriend/wife that they have sex with on a regular basis. (as implied with Table 5 and 10). Thing is, that's not what "Nice Guys" want.

"Nice Guys" don't want don't to be wholesome men, with a wholesome wife, raising a wholesome family. They want to be fuckboys. Hence, they don't pay attention to decent respectable men finding love. They pay attention to fuckboys juggling multiple women at once. **Multiple women sharing one man is NOT a female fantasy. This is, however, a MALE fantasy.**The other flaw is not seeing the difference between "Nice Guys" and ACTUAL good decent men. ACTUAL good decent men wouldn't want the women Chad gets, because he notices red flags with these women (The "Pick Me" Girls, Bimbos, sluts, and even minors). Meanwhile, nice guys just think "Wow! Chad sticks his dick in all of them while I suffer from blue balls!" and leaves it at that. It's a quality vs quantity topic.

The most important thing: Good men are good because of their MORAL CODE, not because they hope being nice gets them laid. Absolutely no woman told men that being nice would get a man laid. Nice Guys told themselves that. Nice Guys heard women list off what they wanted in a lover and assumed that's the same thing she cares about in a fuck buddy.

"Women never go after the nice guys!" is FALSE."Women never have noncommittal sex with men solely because they're nice to her" is TRUE.

Anyways, back to fantasy. I was going label Chads and Bad Boys as "Male Fantasy", but that's not right. Men only fantasize as being an admired Chad, not the douchey asshole variety. In fact, in male-targeted media, douchebag Chad is typically an enemy/rival to the main character, or the father of the male protagonist who left his mother a struggling single mom. The male fantasies are usually being brave, overcoming impossible obstacles, and having a female recognize his heroism then falling in love with him. Nice Guy Fantasy is like the anime Harem Genre. The protagonist is useless and boring, but because he's super nice to a bunch of one-dimensional girls, these girls fall in love with him. Male Fantasy is about getting maximum reward for maximum effort. Nice Guy Fantasy is about getting maximum reward for minimal effort.

I'll go more into the female fantasy in a future post.

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