This is something that I think TRP either gets wrong or doesn't push enough. It's the difference between not caring and being okay with caring.

I haven't completely thought through this idea (so bear with me) but I'd like your help in doing so.

What I mean by not caring is just that - "IDGAF if she likes me or not".

What I mean by being okay with caring is a bit different. Instead of IDGAF, it is caring but being okay with things not working out your way. "I like her but if she doesn't like me back, that's cool".

I imagine that being okay with caring is necessary for a happy relationship to exist, because if you don't care then you can't really reap the shared emotional happiness from the relationship.

So the question is, how does one become okay with caring?