I recently wrote a 12 page paper in my college writing class on misogyny and misandry. I used trusted sources from academic journals and got an A on my paper.

I truly believe that many women, especially millennials and gen z women, are doing evil things. I believe the same for men. I believe that some of these things that I see as toxic femininity are driving toxic masculinity and vice versa. I have come to the conclusion that both of these ideas are false. There are bad people and good people. Right now there are more bad people than ever before.

I believe 2 main addictions are feeding this hate and evil in today and they are linked and feed each other more and more. Women are addicted to validation and this comes in the form of social media. (Trusted source proved that women are more addicted to social media than men) Men are addicted to sex and this comes in the form of porn. (trusted source says men are more addicted to porn than women.) in the end both women and men want relationships but these are addictions that will keep them out of them. you will see men addicted to social media and women addicted to porn, but this is the important trend.

Which posts get the most attention on social media? Most girls and even some men will say their sexually provocative ones. Validation in the form of likes and follows is a drug. As a woman (or man) gets more likes then they are incentivized to make more of it and maybe even more intense forms of it. Men are liking all these bikini and booty pics and girls like the validation.

Both men and women take it to the next level. Men start watching porn and women start making onlyfans. Now women are getting validation AND money...and men are getting “sex” and a fake “relationship”. These are things both men and women want, but it is not what either of them TRULY want. We all want a REAL romantic relationship with someone who truly loves us for who we are.

Porn is a bad addiction but social media and posting pictures like this can be just as bad. Neither men nor women are to blame. We all are. We need to fix ourselves individually. If men didn’t watch porn then women wouldn’t make onlyfans. If women didn’t agree to make porn for money and attention then men would have to watch less porn. Sure maybe they need the money, but men need money too and 99.9% of men can’t do that. No one would buy it.

Neither men nor women are getting what they really want from the opposite sex and it is making them both angry at each other. This is feeding both misandry and misogyny in today’s world. Thoughts?