and on top of that men are biologically programmed to prefer virgins, idc how much that offends u or how much u don't believe it, i promise that's how the male brain widely across the animal kingdom works. (comment)

A male poster was explaining that men desire "female virgins" and women need to accept that.

IME, women do innately intuit that men desire that.

Unfortunately for that poster, women don't overly stress themselves that men with whom we don't know are obsessed with our vaginas and/or men we do know feel neurotically and delusionally retroactively cheated on because of what we experienced before him.

It's creepy to us and will always be primarily creepy to us.

I think it "offends" men that women find the "virgin obsessed" creepy, but ya know. It is what it is.

Growing up, the only men I noticed who were obsessed with "youth" and "well, how old are you actually," were the men who would know the "sexual consent laws" per region. That's creepy. I know that word ("creepy") triggers a lot of men, but the actions that lead to that word being used "triggers" a lot of female children and female teens and little boys/ male teens -- it essentially triggers anyone who has been uncomfortably leered at and accosted sexually, and primarily by someone who is lusting after them because of their young age and/or the perceived naivety/neoteny.

I don't have a "solution." It's simply dimorphism at play.

But yes, women are aware that men desire "virgins." However, it rarely benefits us to structure the trajectory of our lives around the sexual desires of a man we haven't met. Plus, something about "my 'virginity' is for the sexual pleasure of someone else" just feels gross to me. I can't shake that.

For starters, it might help you to know that I am Catholic. We believe that the highest calling for humans is virginity, allowing one to focus on God alone and carrying out his ministry. Marriage is also an option, though the highest calling is celibacy.

I preserve my virginity first and foremost because I have chosen to live in accordance with the Catholic faith, and we believe that virginity is pleasing to God. Who knows, maybe I'll be called to remain a virgin, never marry, and devote myself solely to the faith. That is a legimate vocation, though I know many Protestants see it differently.

"It's for your spouse, it's for your spouse" in excess takes the focus off God and makes it about pleasing another human. Because humans are fallible this is dangerous territory.

I thought the bolded part of that comment from a Catholic female poster summed up my feelings on it quite well.