A lot of men around these parts seem to think that a man who can get casual sex is "Alpha."

While he may be more sexually attractive than you, imo, that isn't the definition of "Alpha."

I say this because perhaps I live in a weird bubble, but I'm surrounded by men who can get casual sex.

To me an Alpha man can get what he wants.

What I mean is that I've witnessed on too many occasions to count, men agreeing to FWB situations with women thinking they found some cheat code to life only to find themselves falling for the chick and her only using him for sex on her terms - whenever she calls.

These men find themselves with a coterie of women who don't view them as boyfriend material.

Seriously, I've had to counsel so many male friends when they're talking about some FWB chick they were falling for who is now engaged or in a serious blissful LTR to another man.

Some guy on Twitter had a funny Pepe the frog crying meme, "When you thought you were mutually wasting each other's time and you get an invite in the mail to her wedding."

An "Alpha" can get the casual sex, but an "Alpha" should also be able to get the girl he wants as his girlfriend if he decides he wants a committed relationship. If a guy is unable to get what he desires out of a situation, he is not "Alpha."

Note: I don't necessarily subscribe to these labels, this is more of a thought experiment for those who do and who claim Alpha = Having NSA sex.

Edit:

There should be no question mark in the title.