CMV: Being nice to women is the golden ticket to pussy

Mrs_Drgree · 2020-10-31T11:48:12+00:00

Removed for OP abandonment

iny_m · 2020-10-31T02:57:21+00:00

There is a catch.. And i’ve learned this from experience..

I’m mid-twenties. I’ve dated 30 year old women and most of them had dated asshole men and had traumatic brain damage / personality disorders that will never go away.

I stayed with one of these women for a year or so.. guess what ?

They get bored and tired of you because you’re a nice beta buxx. They start to go back to craving the asshole chad and want an alpha with better sex and everything that comes along with. They start to not respect you as a man anymore.. AKA dual-mating strategy.

So, as for your point, it’s half true. Women do get eventually tired and want to find a nice beta guy. But after a year or so, they go back to their roots and want that Chad Chasing rush again.

Anyone else notice this ?

trueorfalsedmitry · 2020-10-31T02:27:09+00:00

I understand your reasoning here, to a point. But, it is far more complex than you make it out to be.

Women love assholes. No matter what kind of rationalizations you see bandied about here, there is no reasonable way to deny this. One of the most popular ways to try to sidestep this fact is to say that "doormats" and "losers" mistake confidence and not being a doormat for being an asshole. No. That's simply not it.

Women like men who take up space: physically, socially, mentally, and dominance-wise. The only way for a human being to be all this in modern society is to be a first-class asshole. Someone that no rational being would want to associate with or be around, unless they have to (or feel they have to). That's why assholes have "friends."

But, yes, women respond by melting around men who are assholes to "the world," but are nice to her. Works like catnip. This niceness to her is not authentic in the least and is completely performative. But, it is kept semi-private and is not ostentatious.

Unless you are a sociopath, walking this bizarre tightrope is utterly fucking exhausting. It requires so much effort. But, it will get your dick wet.

So: yes, acting nice to women after you've been a complete asshole is worth it.

SteveSan82 · 2020-10-31T05:04:27+00:00

Bullshit. Any guy who is married can tell you women hate even that shit.

I have to act like I dont care just so my wife will stay interested. The moment I start acting like I care about random shit, she gets distant and bitchy

throw-away-1709 · 2020-10-31T03:52:27+00:00

Eventually women get tired of being treated like shit, like options, or a wet hole. THAT'S when they make the switch to preferring nice guys.

....Conveniently around age 30 when their looks are in the shitter and their fertility is declining.

Around age 30 when their looks and fertility starts declining rapidly and their biological clock ticks, that’s when they start scrambling for a beta (who they would never have given the time of day previously) for commitment and stability for a better child rearing environment.

If women’s good looks lasted till age 50, they’d spend ages 18-50 chasing Chads and only settle for a beta after age 50

The fact that women go into beta hunting mode around age 30, which is the very moment when their looks and fertility start to decline, confirms this.

So no, her preferences didn’t change, her options did.

Women love the emotional rollercoaster that assholes give. They’re not tired of it at all. The prefer it. They only switch to nice guys for the reasons explained above.

SeemedGood · 2020-10-31T04:36:56+00:00

Yes, women do tire of being treated indifferently by the men they truly lust after and some (maybe most) even eventually settle for a man who is nice to them.

But they never lust after that man.

Is that the guy you want to be?

If so, more power to you. But that guy’s life, sucks.

Cimorene86 · 2020-10-31T03:38:14+00:00

AFTER they love assholes. This is simply another form of AF/BB.

Eventually women get tired of being treated like shit, like options, or a wet hole. THAT'S when they make the switch to preferring nice guys. After they have become bitter and damaged from past relationships.

Older, and thus uglier, AND more psychologically fucked up? Sounds more like an outcome to be avoided!

throw-away-1709 · 2020-10-31T09:57:05+00:00

Women are into winners.

Nice guys finish last. Everywhere.

The bold ones win.

KirthWGersen · 2020-10-31T07:34:54+00:00

You can be an arsehole and also be nice.

I really like people, some more than others. Especially people who are quite different to me, take risks I wouldn't take, see the world in a different way. So I have many friends, men and women, and I genuinely care about them, engage intimately with them and help them out when I can.

But I often also get called an arsehole. Women call me that when I won't do what they want right now, when I make my own decisions on my own terms. It is frustrating for them, but that frustration creates sexual attraction.

I learned this from my mother: the less compliant I was, the more she respected me.

It is all part of being coherent as a person: being kind but not being a walkover. Your efforts only have value when you do them because you want to, not out of fear, obligation or guilt.

Cimorene86 · 2020-10-31T09:33:06+00:00

As I've said before, every woman I know has been cheated on, or has had a toxic relationship in the past. Most women have had a bad relationship or two... or three. Eventually women get tired of being treated like shit, like options, or a wet hole. THAT'S when they make the switch to preferring nice guys. After they have become bitter and damaged from past relationships.

Really? Every woman you've ever known has dated assholes? Not a single one has been able to vet for that trait by date 2 or 3, before it turns into anything? None of them have ever had a good relationship as their first one? I don't know, man...think this is either bullshit or you were lied to. That sounds statistically impossible.

Listen, I know I'm weird/atypical but if even my autistic ass can figure out within the first couple dates if someone is an asshole or not, then there's pretty much no reason a normal woman can't do the same. And that's when you stop going out with them, not after a few months, irrationally hoping they'll "change" because that never happens. The entire reason I've had the same FWB for as long as I have is because he's a genuinely good person and one of us would need to suffer severe brain damage to change our relationship toxic.

The only way your assertion makes sense is if you're including ALL damaging relationships in a woman's past, not just romantic ones. Like, abusive/toxic/damaging "relationships" with fathers and stepfathers that occur during childhood and allow her to see very early on what a shit man looks like, so she knows exactly what to avoid as a teen or adult. Her involuntary/automatic familial male relationships are assholes, so when she has voluntary/romantic relationships she deliberately avoids any man with a hint of that stench.

In that case...then yeah, I'd say you're right. But if that's not something you're taking into account, and you're saying woman are actively, romantically attracted to assholes, then gonna have to say that's incorrect.

Throughawayman80808 · 2020-10-31T10:23:29+00:00

This is literally just AF/BB LOL. You've literally just said what most of TRP is saying but added that these nice guys will be rewarded, they won't. Not only are you going to see a lack of sex as a result of being settled for but also a lack of affection and intimacy.

thetruthishere_ · 2020-10-31T02:26:18+00:00

Correction. Broken women love a holes.

SaBahRub · 2020-10-31T03:11:52+00:00

Here’s the thing about nice guys vs assholes: women know you’re only nice to us to get pussy. So we don’t want anything to do with that, to avoid being accused of the dreaded “leading him on”

After all that conditional simping, grudging attention feels like a breath of fresh air.

We know men aren’t saints, and how can you prostrate yourselves for us when you don’t know anything about us? It’s ludicrous. We’re not queens; we’re flawed humans. That pedestal is scary

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801735 · 2020-10-31T02:29:16+00:00

Women love assholes, we know this.

Define age range, plz. Because it matters. Be honest.

Being a lame, beta, simp, without a backbone doesn't get you a girl either.

But, as theory goes, it does get a "grandma" a you, doesn't it?, according to fartticles written by shrivelingupeggsmales, no? Awwwwww. LOL

backbone

When was the last time you observed this IRL? How does it matter?

But if women love nice guys and assholes, isn't that contradictory?

Nope. It's sexonomics. How do you explain freezing eggs, btw?

but genuine concern for her physical, mental, and all-around well being

Define the point in time that "genuine" is being defined within. LOL

ATM - Attention, Time, Money

AF/BB

Is a currently "MSM"-ally soy-shall cuntstruck. Not to disparage decent (whatever that is) interaction, but what are you talking about? So "sluts" can freely "slut" until "where have all the good men gone"? How about "we kinda, you know, swam through the shit creek together, which made me and him more us, you know? I do my part, s/he does hers/his, and here we are."

But if women love nice guys and assholes, isn't that contradictory?

When was the last time you heard/read about the author of a fartvagrticle being severely publicly punished for their "work"? To compensate, when was the last time you read about a manosphere manrticle being NOT femtradbellished? What happened to the quotas?

So yes, being nice to women is completely worth it.

Nope. Being "nice" to exclusively yourself will drown you. XP talking. Femalespace is absolutely desperate, devastated. Take a look around IRL and you'll see ghosts and ghostesses.

To put it bluntly, the question "Where have all the good men gone?" question has been answered. I'll leave you to get to your own conclusions.

MACMUA · 2020-10-31T03:45:59+00:00

I like genuine men. The man who is the good guy even when no one is looking. These type of are almost ALWAYS nice.

It’s true nice men turn women on. some jerks really need to humble themselves. A lot of men are cocky and it’s a turn off

merlinscalculator · 2020-10-31T09:00:41+00:00

You guys complicate this too much. The ideal man is a hot nice guy. Next is a hot asshole. Next is an ugly nice guy. Finally an ugly asshole.

A hot simp who only simps for you is the goal

Title	CMV: Being nice to women is the golden ticket to pussy
Author	_Neon_Shadow_
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Date	October 30, 2020 8:25 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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