CMV: It's not fair, but a man that "just gets it" is going to be a far better lover than a guy that has to be told what to do

Pilling_it · 2021-06-20T17:49:32+00:00

I was bad, I did bad, then I got good, now I do good.

In that order.

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-06-20T14:38:40+00:00

There is no man who “just gets it.” That’s only how it looks from a woman’s perspective who never saw how that man was built up, similar to people watching athletes compete. They weren’t just born yesterday and started above everyone else.

We only come with a basic set of instructions, like how to breathe and other similar things. We don’t come with an inherent ability to know how to have “good” sex. This is learned from a combination of seeing or hearing about it and actually doing it.

So, from women’s perspective, it’s great for them when a partner just knows how to make them feel good because they don’t have to put in much effort at all to feel good themselves, but the question is really a matter of them also being an active party and pursuing their own pleasure instead of leaving it up to the guy. A lot of guys aren’t going to pick up that baton and will just seek out their own pleasure instead.

monked80 · 2021-06-20T15:37:48+00:00

A case of everyone wanting the results but nobody wants to teach or even talk in this case. Then there is going to be fewer and fewer men that can achieve the woman's desired results.

PoliticsIsBroken · 2021-06-20T16:56:40+00:00

I think there are a few studies showing physical attractiveness being a major factor in spurring orgasms in women. "Getting it" may just be being hot rather than some technique.

In my experience, most girls don't orgasm from PIV. Or at least say they dont. Its not clear to me if this is them trying to be nice, or I'm not hot enough for them to orgasm from PIV.

A minority of girls I've dated take a proactive approach and literally just tell me what gets them off. And then we do that. And it's that simple and its super hot to me. Not sure why more don't do this.

Hoopy223 · 2021-06-20T17:48:45+00:00

Guys don’t just “get it”. Its a learned skill plus physical attraction.

At least in todays society you can go on the Internet and look up a how-to guide so theres that.

As for women plenty of them are “dead fish” who blame guys for everything and/or chase after that one guy who got em off that one time behind the bar or whatever.

passepar2t · 2021-06-20T14:27:28+00:00

It's not always so black and white. I understood some things intuitively and had to learn others. Over time, I incorporated them and now I'm not that different from someone who intuited everything.

Timmy721123 · 2021-06-20T17:08:13+00:00

The guy who just gets it probably practiced a lot and asked the first couple of times.

Its called experience.

throwaway3649_ · 2021-06-20T14:26:55+00:00

There is no view to change here, I think everybody agrees. You can flip the genders and this will be true as well (albeit less special because the male orgasm is far easier to achieve)

You decide if you're good with being an ok, forgettable lover or the guy she never forgets.

Is it really that simple? No man is born with the exact knowledge of how to make a woman orgasm, its a learned process.

Psychological_Wear_7 · 2021-06-20T14:43:52+00:00

But let's be clear. The guy that can take control and knows all the right moves and can tap into both the emotional and physical without being told how is going to alpha widow this poor girl. She's going to remember this sex forever.

This is assuming all women are wired the same and have similar preferences in bed

Which just has no basis in observable reality

Naus1987 · 2021-06-20T20:17:01+00:00

I’d argue that you can boil it down to just the concept of empathy.

Both genders benefit in a relationship when people have empathy.

It’s the guy who chases a pretty face with no empathy behind it that gets scorned. And a woman who chases a fat wallet with no empathy behind that who also gets ruined.

People should be chasing emotional empathy—and not surface level features.

However with the incredible rise of mental illness—empathy has become an exceedingly rare trait. There are so many people who struggle to see beyond their own point of view that they’ve completely forgotten how to empathize with anyone else.

mistresswhat · 2021-06-20T18:53:43+00:00

Am woman, have had a bunch of sex. The guys who asked me what I liked always ended up with the best results. Which makes sense, because sexuality is diverse and being generally good in bed doesn't mean you automatically know what works for any one person -- although it probably does mean you're better at reading reactions and adjusting accordingly. Which is just a less efficient non-verbal version of the "what are you into?" conversation anyway.

Knowing what someone likes won't take you instantly from awkward to incredible -- although, given time, it might. It will take you from good to amazing, though.

I s2g none of the nerds here have actually had sex because every post I see about it is some weird fantasy that doesn't actually have much bearing on reality.

Laytheblameonluck · 2021-06-20T22:37:16+00:00

Sex should be about the relationship, not the individual.

If the woman doesn't want to open up and work at sex in the relationship, if she has this dichotomy where she considers men as either good or bad at sex, the man should just leave the relationship.

The man who gets this is going to be in a better relationship than the man who doesn't.

Due to hook-up culture and the dating market, quite a lot of women these days do have this dichotomy, so be warned.

honey-bundy-88 · 2021-06-20T16:06:52+00:00

I swear some people on this sub stay looking for reasons to be hopeless. Women are literally telling you what they want in bed by saying “just listen to your partner” and some people have to find a way to make that a “beta move”. This is about comparing yourself to other men.

A man who knows what he’s doing is a nice surprise. But every sexual encounter is different. So a partner willing to listen each time and deliver exactly what you wants in that moment is a godsend and definitely leaves an impression. There is no standard strategy you can apply to each time.

If you’re one of those people who really cares about looking “alpha” in every given situation then be prepared to live a neurotic, miserable.

TLDR: A guy who knows what every woman wants every time is a either a myth or a liar.

BarestBranch · 2021-06-20T14:57:46+00:00

I disagree. I think being open and communicative in a non-judgmental way makes for far better sex than "just getting it". Someone who is interested in their partner's pleasure and isn't afraid to talk about it can still do everything right without talking about it later after all.

SomeSadBoi123 · 2021-06-20T18:19:28+00:00

Well woman don’t want to fuck me because I’m ugly as fuck, so tell me, if I get laid how am I supposed to be good?

Imagine a man having to be good at sex, but the woman gets to lay there.

Ask_For_Cock_Pics · 2021-06-20T19:51:39+00:00

I agree with the general sentiment, but it seems like you're equating a good lover with someone who is good at getting women. That's not true at all.

In my 20s I was obsessed with learning how to please women and got good at it, but I was still confused when women who I made cum hard would seemingly move on to guys who didn't try and didn't care.

Its a whole completely different set of skills

masterdarthrevan · 2021-06-20T20:42:16+00:00

I wanna say they're aren't that many that just "get it" on the first try and it has to do more with experience. . Attractive/alpha guys tend to get more experience, and that also tends to improve ones confidence. Which doesn't hurt to have either.. also what works for 1 girl doesn't work for all of them. So yeah being told what she wants can and will definitely improve how satisfied she will be.

MrIrishman1212 · 2021-06-20T20:44:46+00:00

Think of it like sports, natural skill can only get you so far plus each partner is different and requires different stimulation/pleasure. The man who is empathetic, willing to communicate can get better over time with practice. Maybe won’t be the best mind blowing sex person for that one night stand but will be way more likely to have a continuous good sex life.

If we are talking about who are the most natural lovers for women, women are the best lovers for women. I believe need to stop solely focusing on penetrative sex and use other methods.

just_a_place · 2021-06-20T21:35:28+00:00

I agree..

If a woman is solely responsible for her own orgasm then I won't feel as good about myself when I manage to get a woman to orgasm, and I mean REALLY orgasm, not her just faking it.

The way I manage it is just by knowing her. There is no "trick." Each girl is different. Some are very physically sensitive other girls require long foreplay and to build them up emotionally to get them to that proper headspace for them to cum.

And there is also the aftercare, so that she remembers and the experience; and also to just to make sure she doesn't feel any emotional vulnerability or insecurity afterward.

Like I said, each girl is different, some girls feel energized after sex and they're like: "lets go." Other girls get an oxytocin rush and want lots of cuddles, kisses, and to feel reassured that you're there for her. This isn't hard, just pay attention to your girl and that's all that they really want. They want you as a man to just focus on them, make her feel important, that she matters, and that she is valuable to you. And don't just bullshit her, genuinely show her what she really means to you both in and outside the bedroom.

Think ahead and buy her a little present that you know she will enjoy and give it to her after sex. If you know she gets hungry after sex cook her something, have it all ready beforehand.

I don't know why so many guys struggle so hard with this. It's like, do you actually care about your woman or not? If they do then THINK! Stop being a chump. Take initiative, take the damned wheel, because that is what she actually wants.

This is why the old saying exists: "faint of heart never won fair lady." It means timid and tepid men who pussyfoot around NEVER satisfy women in any way. You gotta be invested, take initiative, be bold, take her for a ride, pay attention to her and explore all of her.

But here is the catch...

Communication is the other side of that coin. We are not mind readers. In order to discover what makes a girl orgasm we have to establish communication with her. So in the end women do in fact have to tell us, even if it's covertly or unconsciously, what exactly it is that gets her off.

A man has to do his homework on her and investigate. While exploring her he has to take mental notes and acquire a bit of muscle memory about her quirks and her turn ons so that when the moment of truth comes he will instinctively know how to make her orgasm by knowing how to read her mood, push the right buttons, rub her the right way, etc. All while making it look effortless because he has already acquired all this information from her by just interacting with her and learning all about her.

Women love subtlety, so as a man one has to collect all this information through personal communication with her instead of getting it all job interview style by asking her a series of questions. There is nothing sexy about an interrogation, expecting a girl to just hand over the instructions on how to make her orgasm is never going to work because this act in and of itself is already a turn off to the majority of women.

beeguy727 · 2021-06-20T23:07:21+00:00

And that’s the reason you shouldn’t ask women for dating advice because they only want natural alphas sexing them. So if you have to ask for advice you’re indirectly communicating to them that you’re not a natural alpha. That’s why women intentionally give bad, misleading advice to men who ask how to improve in dating. The best method to going about improving is to observe and study the behavior of Chads and do your best to emulate it. Otherwise you’ll hear women say something like don’t act like Chad did. He had sex with me then ghosted me after and I hate him for it! But the silver lining in that is he still hit.

NameGiver0 · 2021-06-20T23:29:40+00:00

It doesn't matter how much a man gets it if he's not top 20%. Sex is just better with hotter people, and women don't settle until after they hit the wall. And no man "just gets it". You learn it from experience. And you have to, because everything boys and young men are told about women are lies.

You can listen to what the woman who's vagina is currently full of your dick wants. But even that has caveats. She'll say she doesn't want things she's embarrassed to want. And she'll say she wants things that she thinks you want so you'll stick around, but she doesn't actually want them.
Do not listen to any women telling you want women want, except in the above case. If she's not fucking you, her opinion doesn't matter.

awealthypauper · 2021-06-21T01:52:21+00:00

Welcome to life. Why do you set up such narrow, proscriptive parameters in which to complain?

We're all good at some things, we all suck at others. Some things come easily to us, some things don't. Find your niche, find out who you are, find out what path life has laid out for you.

Why is this purple pilled? This is as blue pilled as it gets.

ProudRussianBot458 · 2021-06-21T02:08:12+00:00

As an employer, I only want to hire previously trained workers. They "just get it" while the newbies take months to get up to speed. Why can't I hire more experienced employees? Oh they already have jobs? Well, I guess I'm out of options, and I'll have to train some newbie.

When women start ~~casually fucking~~ dating an experinced "just gets it" guy, they assume they can keep him. If so, great! If not, well what's the famous saying? "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result"

If "just gets it" guys pump and dump you, then date non-"just gets it" guys. If they LTR you, great!

Sage_Planter · 2021-06-20T14:32:54+00:00

There seems to be a misconception here that all women can remember every detail of their sex lives. Somehow years later, we can vividly recall every intimate detail like it was yesterday. Like we keep journals that document every man, his skills, his size, etc. After every sexual experience, we careful compare it against the others and decide if this man is worthy of us or not.

We don't.

Sex for me falls into three buckets: great, good, and bad. No man is great all the time. Even with someone you have incredible chemistry with, sometimes you just have a mediocre day. No man is bad all the time either. I can tell you the men I've slept with who have been great-good, and I can tell you the men I've slept with who have been good-bad. I cannot compare the men who have been great-good against one another. Years later, I can barely recall any of the details of our sex lives just "oh, yeah, he was pretty good in bed."

Someone who asks for directions and listens to feedback can be great in bed. Most rational people accept that sex won't be great the first few times. Just don't fall into the good-bad category by consistently under performing.

drew8311 · 2021-06-20T18:27:21+00:00

This isn't that surprising, women should still teach their guys how to improve, then one day they can be the best for some other woman who isn't her.

Terrorinthecity1 · 2021-06-20T19:58:20+00:00

I disagreee 101% percent. There is saying, the bests enemy is the good. I wasn’t a natural like my friends was but I studied and learned and now I’m more successful than all of them and more or just as social

Guapscotch · 2021-06-20T19:59:51+00:00

Believe it or not, in general when it comes to sex the man is almost always going to be the determinant factor of how it all plays out. Biologically and instinctually men control the pace. It shouldn’t be difficult for some of you peons to understand, orgasm feels fucking good. If you can’t make her cum she will find someone who can, one of the easiest things to do is oral for her, but some can’t even bring themselves to do that

Megabyte7637 · 2021-06-20T20:05:35+00:00

dres_sler · 2021-06-20T20:15:07+00:00

Aren’t we being told to ask before trying something in the bedroom? That seems the exact opposite of what your suggesting

koolex · 2021-06-20T20:21:52+00:00

Why does it matter so much, in my experience women rarely seek out and stay with men who are amazing in bed, they care much more about other things. If women don't think it's that important why do men?

Alfredaux · 2021-06-20T20:22:33+00:00

Except that isn’t actually a thing. “Just getting it” can work for one partner and not at all for another.

Master-Edward-3 · 2021-06-21T02:24:37+00:00

It’s possible the man that just gets it had to be told what to do once upon a time too. Therefore someone with experience will of course be a better lover than one without experience. (told what to do)

There is also nothing new about when situations fall as unfair for men on their side of the scale that they just must be expected to deal with it or figure it out. In this way women who adopt this mindset are not viewing men as humans that learn and grow but as macho machines. So if women expect all men to just know perhaps what they need is a male sex doll droid that can be programmed from manufacture date to just know. 😼

billsull_02842 · 2021-06-22T04:07:04+00:00

maybe women are looking for good sex with well experienced bad boys. i dont think they get that way by lots of honest casual sex. sort of like judas iscariot at the last supper moving treacherously from chair to chair as in add another notch to my crotch. another proof that women are attracted to players while the other half of their mouth says men are dogs.

EfficientComputer5 · 2021-06-22T05:35:24+00:00

This post makes me appreciate walks in the park and riding bicycles.

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2021-06-22T18:17:14+00:00

As a guy whose been on both sides of this coin, I'm calling bs. Communication is the pillar of every good relationship, being able to communicate with your partner about any and all topics, including sex, is a testament to how strong the relationship is. I guarantee the couple that is able to communicate what they like and dislike will have much better sex than those who can't. Also, most guys are bad in bed or selfish, according to women. Trust me, being willing to learn and adapt will put you at a massive advantage compared to most guys. She'll remember your sex for several lifetimes.

StrengthAndHealth · 2021-06-20T15:01:56+00:00

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midwestufohunter · 2021-06-20T15:03:35+00:00

There’s only a 7% chance a woman will orgasm the first time w a new guy.

It’s not that some men “just get it” it’s that some men pay attention to their partners responses and do what turns her on instead of their normal script.

With time the sex gets better and better.

goblin_champ · 2021-06-20T15:18:18+00:00

Thats actually a strong argument for virgins.

psypD · 2021-06-20T16:54:06+00:00

You decide if you're good with being an ok, forgettable lover or the guy she never forgets.

When In doubt stick it up her butt and yell "Hallelujah!!!".

She will never forget for sure.

Mondholm · 2021-06-20T14:58:13+00:00

i'm perfectly fine with being a forgettable lover. not every ice-cream i eat needs to be the best in the world.

this over-analyzing and making your worth dependent on some chick is toxic to your psyche.

"oh babe, am i good enough? you won't forget this night, i'm so good, you'll never forget it".

SonicBackScratcher · 2021-06-20T15:27:21+00:00

This issue is making this a mans issue. This is for both, most women are not that great in bed either. I've had mind blowing sex very very few times in my life as a man.

Oh the orgasm gap blah blah shout women who are barely able to starfish.

All you've said is good lovers are better than bad ones or ones you need to tell how to do it, well gee really? Mind blown.

superlurkage · 2021-06-20T15:07:06+00:00

There’s numbers between 0 and 100

Pinning your hopes on being a mind reader is bound to fail

PMmeareasontolive · 2021-06-20T16:35:26+00:00

Your edit just contradicted your main post. But anyway, I agree with the edit, not with the post. One thing women often don't acknowledge, maybe because they don't realize it?, is how different they are in terms of what works for them. Women always talk about guys "knowing what to do" as if there were one size fits all for all women. There ain't. You can think you are the Master of Love with one girlfriend and the next will find physically and mentally abhorrent everything that the first girl liked.

edit: also, the male active role in sex often is pretty complex, especially if you are doing some complicated kinky stuff - but even if you are doing mild, not-very-kinky stuff. It can require experience to get comfortable with it, or even gaining other practical skill sets.

blueXcat · 2021-06-20T17:39:41+00:00

It's a bit of both. I shouldn't be explaining the basic. I shouldn't have to explain that I also need pleasure

BUT, I also need someone to listen when I tell them something is hurting me, even if other wome liked it a lot

Barneysparky · 2021-06-20T15:26:54+00:00

Women don't spend a great deal of time (or any) thinking about a sex act from the past. About the only thing I've remembered about past lovers is my first husband humping my leg every morning.

This "alpha widow" crap is about guys comparing themselves to other guys, not women comparing the guy they are with to the guy they used to be with.

_lemazaki · 2021-06-20T14:42:34+00:00

I agree.

And that is why women choose men and have higher standards to have sex. That is the same thing for others aspects of life like business, career, money, social and etc...You are just supposed to "just get it / do it".

They don´t want / need to know the effort you had to put in and that is how nature works. They would lose precious time waiting for a characteristic to be developed. They are not wired that way and of course, they will prefer the guy who is ready and already know how to do stuff / how to get it.

If the contrary is true, they would fuck with anyone and be responsible for their own orgasm or they simply buy dildos. And money ans status would fall in your lap.

xXx_FireHydrants_xXx · 2021-06-20T15:29:53+00:00

This can be solved if everyone married as virgins and stayed strictly monogamous until their death.

angels-fan · 2021-06-20T15:45:43+00:00

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SaBahRub · 2021-06-20T14:41:09+00:00

I guess humans are unable to learn things. How sad

throwingwearethrowin · 2021-06-20T19:35:54+00:00

On a side note, when you first have sex with a guy and you are gauging his skill and he has non and the options are “teach him or get a higher n count, slut!” Makes me realize how unfair sex is for women. No matter how much you teach him, it won’t be mind blowing. It’ll just be okay, but still ranked below the vibrator.

Dario_02 · 2021-06-20T17:45:33+00:00

I think it’s perfectly fair as thats the way men and women are wired. Men who “just gets it” were the one who had sex and passed on his genes. Life tends to be unfair but it’s quite beneficial for the species.

cunningcaring · 2021-06-20T15:05:19+00:00

This is completely untrue.

reluctantly_red · 2021-06-20T14:45:36+00:00

women should tell you what she likes

HELL NO!!! What kind of guy wants to be "instructed"? That's sissy/beta shit.

Women are notorious for not actually knowing what they want. A guy who takes charge and does things his way is going to best obsequious simps every day of the week.

Icy_Consideration905 · 2021-06-20T20:11:15+00:00

why most people are so astonished by how passive women are??

it's a known fact in any archetype :men are presence and female are absence , women dont actually exist they have 0 influence on the real world! i dont want to bring it here but even at work women dont solve problem they go looking for a man to solve that, i observe this phenomenon every day

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PhaqThat · 2021-06-21T00:39:08+00:00

ok. from your posts, it's clear the man was trained somewhere along the line. No men just "get it". There are no 100% naturals.

once upon a time, he was a guy that needed to be taught- and instead of responding like he knew it all, he took it in, and learned.

THAT's what makes him a better lover. his willingness to do something besides pound and drill. Clits are different than dicks. basic anatomy. not all men know that, or even know what a clit is. So yay him. i'd rather fuck him, than a guy that's in his thirties, that's been fucking since he was a teenager, that STILL fucking has to be told (A- GAIN!) wtf feels good, what hurts, when it's too much, etc. fuck that lazy deaf asshole.

Sid_Insidious · 2021-06-21T01:14:32+00:00

Women expect men to hit their ever-moving sexual target that is all over the place depending on her moods, her friendships, the moon, the stars, the tides... She expects him to be "in tune" with her in some magical way, using these magical forms of communication beyond basic intuition into the realm of "sensing things" and "feeling energies".

It's really all psycho-babble bullshit all up in her head.

Men: if you can't sync up with her sexually, it might not be you... at all.

Perhaps it's just her not even know where the hell she is and what SHE wants on any given day.

_faithtrustpixiedust · 2021-06-21T01:27:38+00:00

You’re right that a guy that “just gets it” is best, I’ll still take the guy who is willing to learn over a guy who doesn’t care about my pleasure. Besides “it” is different for everyone - your just gets it might be my worst nightmare. It’s important for both partners to be receptive to feedback and learn the specific likes of their current partner

thedorchestra · 2021-06-21T02:40:32+00:00

I’m a woman and I slightly disagree. This makes sense for like a one night stand or whatever that I don’t partake in. However, in a committed relationship, you tell a guy what you like and he learns how to be a great lover. Then you have mind blowing amazing sex eventually. Better than you ever could with a hookup, even if he knows “all the right moves” from the beginning.

Flightlessbirbz · 2021-06-21T02:52:44+00:00

No man “just gets it,” and even those who understand women’s bodies and sexual response have to learn with each new partner because nobody is exactly the same. Okay, so yes there are men who are universally just bad in bed, and men who know what they’re doing. But even if a guy knows what he’s doing, the chances of the first or only time with a woman actually being the best sex of her life (or her having an orgasm at all) are slim to none. That’s typically going to happen after several months together, maybe even years, but that sweet spot when you’re learning each other’s bodies and feel more comfortable but are still in the fresh honeymoon phase, is most likely. This is one of the reasons I don’t really recommend that women have causal sex. I mean yes you can probably get yourself off while he is there, but might as well just use your vibrator really.

Twinseo09 · 2021-06-21T03:22:19+00:00

The guy that can take control and knows all the right moves and can tap into both the emotional and physical.

You can reach this level. You think CHaD ThUmDerCOCk can rock her pussy bells magically? You don't magically learn any of these moves. You actually have sex, communicate and see how her body reacts.

pubgmisc · 2021-06-21T05:57:02+00:00

Men are born less socially calibrated, have to learn the nature of women and build up their value to become what a woman likes. Women expect men to be born with value and 'just get it'

7incowboy · 2021-06-21T06:05:47+00:00

Yes I tend to agree with you, I did learn some and some was almost instinctual, having a slightly above average tool helped some but knowing how to use it accounted for most of it. Studies show most women don't O from PIV but most of women I knew had no problem having a O or multiple Os and those that didn't I knew how to take care of that as well. I think "just gets it" is wanting to give the woman as much pleasure as possible.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2021-06-21T06:08:59+00:00

Edit: "He just gets it" doesn't necessarily mean he was born a 100% natural. It might have been learned, but that's irrelevant. The point is he just gets it NOW.

Like when you don't qualify for your first job because you lack job experience. Hahaha.

I know for sure physical attraction plays a huge roll (and I mean HUGE) in women's orgasm. I've been with my fair share of women and I'm well dame sure I could tell the difference between a woman who is very into me and a woman who isn't. A girl once came as soon as I took her thong off. My now fiance doesn't even want me to go down on her cause as soon as I do it she comes and is done.

Every time I hear women complaining about the lack of orgasms I just can't thing in any other reasson that they are not attracted to their partners, because for me it's always been easy... But then, I'm quite good looking, so there is that too.

Guys that "just get it" are probably good looking to start with.

I believe that physical attractiveness is very Important when it comes to female orgasms, unlike men who are more easily pleased. I mean, I can bang an average woman or a good looking one and the sex is just the same (minus the view).

chubbybutt22 · 2021-06-21T13:55:19+00:00

I disagree to the extent that this take just seems to be: people who are better at sex are better at sex.

filthyburrows · 2021-06-21T14:09:56+00:00

but no guy just gets it or understands how a womans body works, they become more adept at these things because they could ask their partners how to please them better.

Of course no woman is the same. But if you learn how to pleasure a dozen women properly then it'll become much easier to please the 13th one that comes a long. Unfortunately, in relationships the first ones we wanted to keep around forever are really just the trial runs for the permanent partner we end up with.

IntegrityDJones · 2021-06-21T19:24:14+00:00

All women are different, which is the issue with your post. I can only speak personally and…. I agree with you. The best and most fantastic sex I had was with a guy who just “got it.” I’ve had great sex with guys I’ve had to give instructions too. But yea the guy who just got, I’ll admit it was mind blowing. And you are right, I definitely still think about it. It’s a shame he wanted me to see him as more than a casual sex acquaintance because I did not want to give that up, but had to. But I personally don’t disagree with you. However, my view doesn’t mean all women feel this way.

Whisper · 2021-06-24T01:22:17+00:00

Title	CMV: It's not fair, but a man that "just gets it" is going to be a far better lover than a guy that has to be told what to do
Author	angels-fan
Upvotes	92
Comments	371
Date	June 20, 2021 2:24 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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