I was reading a few of the previous post here and it got me thinking about the epidemic of sexlessness. Less and less people are having sex, and entering relationships compared to previous generations. No one seems to believe there is a solution to this without doing something crazy like forcing women to date undesirable guys. But I believe the solution is simple: Millennials need a new form of social space to cultivate friendships, relationships, happiness and community.

Past generations had church/religion, malls, bars/pubs, and work. The biggest social space for millennials is online... "social media" is where we congregate. This is problematic and I'll explain why later. You might be wondering why I included some of the places I listed, so I'll explain:

  1. Church - Millennials are the least religious generation ever. We can't meet at Church because so many of us no longer believe in God.

  2. Malls - Malls are becoming obsolete and more and more are closing each year. Online shopping is becoming the new norm.

  3. Bars & Pubs - Bars are still very much a thing but Millennials don't drink heavily. I will concede that it is still a social space and you can meet new people, but compared to the past it isn't as effective because less people frequent these establishments.

  4. Work - Yes, you can still meet people at work, but the #Metoo movement has made it incredibly risky to do so. Less people are willing to take that risk.

So what does this all mean? We are lacking in places to get our social needs met. Thus leading to a more reclusive, lonely, depressed, and socially awkward population. We dont have to force women to date certain men or do anything else crazy, we just need an environment that allows men and women to meet, chat, and cultivate friendships. That will fix everyone's problem.

It helps women by removing the shitty aspects of online dating. Interacting with someone irl tells you much more about them than a profile, and stops one girl from being inundated with hundreds of guys at once.

It helps men by exposing incel-y types to women and showing they aren't as bad as these fringe online groups make them out to be. It allows average guys to compete and most importantly it let's them all build social skills and their mental health.