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cmv: Women who strive to be with one man for life (aka marriage) are as rare as HVM, which are about 1% of the population.

September 6, 2022
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Most men know how rare a man that makes 6 figures, and has great connections among his network. It's my belief that women who have a desire to find one man for the rest of her life is just as rare. Most women simply dont have the desire to be with one man for the rest of her life, and that is perfectly fine. Just like average men are perfectly fine. The problem is that most men and women dont realize that the women is NOT looking to settle for one man for the rest of her life.

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strive- make great efforts to achieve or obtain something.

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Title cmv: Women who strive to be with one man for life (aka marriage) are as rare as HVM, which are about 1% of the population.
Author _Duriel_1000_
Upvotes 17
Comments 104
Date September 6, 2022 4:35 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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[–]Noodles_R 14 points15 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I think most want to in the end.

They just don’t want to necessarily marry the first guy they date.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I think most want to in the end.

Noticed how the OP says "strive to be".

[–]Noodles_R 8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Notice how I disagree and say most.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

want and strive are not interchangageable.

[–]Sad_Entertainer6312 9 points10 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

I disagree, the vast majority of my friends are happily married, and I have both a niece and a nephew that got engaged in the last 6 months.

I will agree that many younger people seem to be shunning the idea of marriage, but many seem to think they'll still be with their partner long term.

[–]decoy88For the love of God, please touch some grass, just a blade of it 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep. And many of those young people today are gonna end up wanting marriage when they’re older.

It’s less a Gen Z thing as it is a “young person” thing

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] -1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

but many seem to think they'll still be with their partner long term.

"long term" != one man for life (aka marriage)

[–]Sad_Entertainer6312 5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Okay, so you're in agreement that it's not only 1% of women who want marriage or long term commitment?

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Okay. Do you agree that "long term" does not equate to *striving to be with one man for life"?

[–]Sad_Entertainer6312 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

That part yes

[–]8m3gm60 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

and I have both a niece and a nephew that got engaged in the last 6 months.

Ah, the beautiful Southern USA.

[–]Sad_Entertainer6312 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why is this stereotype okay, but other stereotypes are not?

[–]no_usernameeeeeee 25 points26 points  (25 children) | Copy Link

This isn’t true. Us women are taught about prince charming and living happily ever after since we were toddlers. Most of us seek that to some level. I have a feeling you just made this statistic up or you just don’t know women in real life (who are in relationships esp). I know so many girls literally waiting for their partners to propose & start a family with them.

Plus, wanting marriage and wanting a long term commitment with one person are two different things. I am sure many women also fall in that category.

[–]h1shmanAdonis Pilled 29M 9 points10 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

I’m usually not the cynical one in PPD but take away the ceremony aka a woman’s “day” as well as the ring and I’d be curious how many of those women would still want to get married.

It’s as you stated, there can be a difference between wanting marriage and long term commitment.

Women since childhood are more often sold on the fairytale of love than the reality of marriage.

[–]A1DilettanteShrewish Sweetheart 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If they did their research, they ought to get married if they want to build a life as a couple without consulting lawyers. Marriage is one hell of a legal bundle deal for family planning.

[–]januaryphilosopherWoman/student/UK/radfem/makes first move/healthy BMI/bi/taken 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So many women hate the idea of a ceremony (which is for the bride and groom). I wonder how many would just do a courthouse wedding without external pressures. Rings are currently falling back out of style.

[–]no_usernameeeeeee 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I’ve been to like 3 weddings over the summer and most of my friends want it at some point. So for me, i know many; i am not just pulling this out of my ass. Women are taught this and depending on your upbringing they uphold these beliefs. Being taught of the reality of marriage is one thing, but it doesn’t mean someone doesn’t want it if they haven’t been taught about it.

[–]h1shmanAdonis Pilled 29M 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

My point was more so that in my experience women want the wedding day and ring for clout. I have serious doubts almost any man cares about spending 10-50k dollars on a wedding so people can come to their party. Same goes for the ring. Most men wouldn’t buy one if women found that acceptable, at minimum though many men might buy an inexpensive band as a symbol.

If you told a woman you want neither a ceremony or ring that would be a deal breaker for more than a minority of women.

So back to my original comment. I’d be curious how many of your friends wanting to get married want a long term commitment and what that really entails vs the ones that are sold on the idea of a grand wedding, ring, fairytale love etc. Statistics says the later

[–]CanYouTieThemInABow 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

My mother was the one demanding the ceremony with all the guests.

I'm still jealous that my sister got married during COVID and didn't have that demand. Party planning sucks.

[–]no_usernameeeeeee 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Honestly grooms do want that as well?! And the families too. One of the weddings i went to was actually a guy friend and he spent like an hour telling me about what they had planned and it was easily the best wedding i’ve ever been to. It’s a celebration like any other. Some people prefer small weddings, other big ones.

The couples i know have been in healthy long term relationship for 3-6 years before the wedding so they already knew what they were in for as far as commitment. You’re assuming women are just these shallow beings who have no idea of what the value of mariage is and don’t know what commitment means but this may just be the women you personally know. I also know a friend who didn’t even have any type of wedding and just used the money to buy a condo with her husband, they just did the small court wedding. Everyone is different.

[–]OfSpock 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have serious doubts almost any man cares about spending 10-50k dollars on a wedding so people can come to their party.

I was going to do the 'small courthouse wedding and spend a lot on the honeymoon' but my dad paid for the entire wedding so he could invite all his friends and relatives and show off.

[–]Main-Leek7908 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I got married in my living room over zoom and I wear a silicone ring that cost like $10. I still very much enjoy having a spouse and a life-partner.

[–]blueberrypie02 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Come on, we’re all sold on the fairytale of love and not the reality of a marriage. The situation is a bit different if you come from an unstable family

[–]decoy88For the love of God, please touch some grass, just a blade of it 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Marriage still has is status, social proofing and tax benefits even without that.

Don’t underestimate the strong desire for the ability to say “my husband” instead of saying “my boyfriend” to many women.

Women have been brainwashed since the age of 5 to want this shit.

[–]8m3gm60 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Women have been brainwashed since the age of 5 to want this shit.

At some point we become adults and become responsible for our choices.

[–]decoy88For the love of God, please touch some grass, just a blade of it 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Sure. That means fuck all though.

[–]Backyouropinion 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sure they seek marriage, but first time marriages end overall at around 50% in divorce. Some places like Orange County, CA is 72%. Also, 70% of divorces are initiated by women.

Let’s just say that if you were going to jump out of plane and there was a 50% chance the chute would not open, would you jump?

This is the feeling many young men have today.

[–]melody_of_Islamic Women Were Right About PPD 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This isn’t true. Us women are taught about prince charming and living happily ever after since we were toddlers

Men (mostly older generations such as millenials) also taught the same meme but you can see how its died in the last 20 years.

[–]boring-shenanigans 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I think in this day and age women want to experience things and are afraid of missing out on opportunities. I don't hear many of my friends talking about marriage and lifetime commitment, or if they do is with someone tall, dark and handsome AND extremely good in bed and possibly dangerous (new version of the prince charming).

[–]no_usernameeeeeee 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I hear many… as a matter of fact i’ve been to 3 weddings this summer. People who have the same views often hang out together, so perhaps this difference in experience is because of your entourage. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist or is that rare.

[–]boring-shenanigans 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You're right, it is not rare or non existent, but in my group of friends I'm the only one who actually wants to get married/be committed. Maybe it depends on your age, it could be that finding prince charming got simply postponed.

[–]no_usernameeeeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am in my mid 20s, the friends who got married are a little older (27-30)

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] -4 points-3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Us women are taught about prince charming and living happily ever after since we were toddlers.

This means nothing.

Most of us seek that to some level.

No. You either strive to be with one man, or you dont. Lets not bullsh!t here.

[–]no_usernameeeeeee 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

you clearly don’t understand my comment.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Okay. Well, you can rephrase, or tell me what I got wrong. I'm not perfect.

[–]Financial_Leave4411 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I don’t think it’s that the majority of women don’t want to get married to one partner for life; I think it’s that women are looking for a good partner if they’re going to be with just one for life and they’re not finding one.

Most men don’t want to settle down and commit to just one woman. Most men seem to want a main chick to have their kids but then they still want to spin plates on the side too.

This is making a lot of high quality women who want to be with one person for life thru marriage run away from dating completely as it’s safer to stay alone than risk being lied to. More women than ever before have completely given up on ever finding a spouse and as such no longer go on dating sites or out to clubs/bars which is why you don’t see them anymore and assume all women want to play the field.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think it’s that women are looking for a good partner if they’re going to be with just one for life and they’re not finding one.

looking for a good partner != striving to be with one man for life.

Seems like many women confuse this. Saying that "I want a car that is going to last" is vastly different than saying "I want one car for the rest of my life". One verbally gives the option of getting a new car when the last ends.

to add, your point makes it seem like women will change their behavior based on the man they are dating, which delusional; similar to an obese person saying they will change their behavior when they find a food they like.

[–]Exciting-Necessary-5 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most men don’t want to settle down and commit to just one woman. Most men seem to want a main chick to have their kids but then they still want to spin plates on the side too.

Most men? Really? Don't you mean men with options? Or men who need to sow their wild oats before settling?

[–]back_in_blyatRed Pill Man 5 points6 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

If that were the case then successful marriages would be 1% or less as well. The end.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (14 children) | Copy Link

Where is the term "successful" used in the OP?

[–]back_in_blyatRed Pill Man 6 points7 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

If only 1% of women wanted it, why would so many women stay in marriages? Doubly so given that there is every possible legal effort in play to borderline entice women into divorce? Your view is not based in reality or logic.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (12 children) | Copy Link

If only 1% of women wanted it, why would so many women stay in marriages?

80% of women file for divorces.

Doubly so given that there is every possible legal effort in play to borderline entice women into divorce?

see above

[–]Main-Leek7908 4 points5 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

The stat is that 80% of the times that couples get divorced, women are the ones who do the filing, not that 80% of all women file for divorce

[–]pro-frog 10 points11 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

What makes you believe this?

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

What makes you believe this?

reality.

[–]pro-frog 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Neato

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Neato

til reality is "Neato". lol

[–]Beneficialcattosser -1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

When men form an opinion on women based on life experiences, toxic women seek to invalidate the man by invalidating his experiences.

[–]pro-frog 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

"Life experiences" are what we in the business call "anecdotal data." One man's experience with women might make his position understandable, but it doesn't make it true.

[–]Beneficialcattosser -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

And this is the typical reaction I get from women when I share this stuff. Usually it's followed by another experience and another one. Thing is women just flatly refuse to acknowledge the fucked up nature of women. And if I keep pressing it turns into "so what I don't care that other women do this stuff, I just want to talk about men" it's just something about the female brain where it refuses to acknowledge the evil nature of other women.

[–]pro-frog 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Breaking: Women Don't Appreciate Being Called Evil

Have you ever thought that maybe women are citing their own lived experience as a normal woman when they say it's impossible that "women's nature" is inherently evil? You just expect all women to say, yeah, I guess my nature is naturally selfish and horrible, good talk?

I mean, OP wasn't even SAYING evil. OP said "most women do x." When you say anything about most women, it is really important to think about why you believe it's most women. Is it most women in your life? What are the demographics of most women you interact with? What area are you from? What community do you live in? Are you pulling from experiences on dating apps? Clubs? Colleges? No one can live life getting a truly random sample of women, which means anyone's interpretation of "most women" is flawed. If asked I'd say barely any women even participate in hookup culture, let alone treat men like shit while they do it. But my perspective is really, really limited - the reason I think barely any women do it is because I don't interact with the women who do, not because they don't exist. That's something I can acknowledge, so I try not to make sweeping statements about what most women do or don't do.

This is why it's so important to get non-anecdotal evidence when you're making a point about how frequently a phenomenon occurs. Your experiences are not universal, and your life is not a controlled environment. Anecdotal evidence is a great jumping-off point for discussion and to gather further research - for example, we could all theorize about the impact it could have on a man's psyche if he gets cheated on or dumped for Chad. Anecdotal evidence about how being cheated on affected other men could be valuable to that discussion. But if we're going to make a sweeping point about how most men react to being cheated on, we can't just use anecdotes.

[–]ruboyuri 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Counterpoints:

Twu Wub

Happily Ever After

Average wedding cost $28,000 + average divorce cost $17,500 = $45,000

What do you think we are —- made of money?!

[–]southern_dilettanteNo Pill 3 points4 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

I know women who are just like this, and I'd guess they're not that rare either.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

I know women who are just like this, and I'd guess they're not that rare either.

Give us 2 actions that the women do to strive to be with one man for the rest of their lives.

[–]southern_dilettanteNo Pill 4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Being loving partners, being loyal, trying to actually use communication skills instead of monkeybranching to the next dick available when things get bad...

It all happens. I don't mind being branded as a bluepiller for saying this too.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] -2 points-1 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Being loving partners, being loyal, trying to actually use communication skills instead of monkeybranching to the next dick available when things get bad...

Whores are loving, and loyal, and they also communicate as long as you pay them.

Please be more specific.

[–]southern_dilettanteNo Pill 5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Well, we're talking about romantic relationships and not about paying a whore so she can suck our dick and pretend they don't feel like throwing up while touching us, so...

[–]Main-Leek7908 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

1.) pick one man

2.) marry him

3.) don’t get with other men

[–]Valuable-Marzipan761 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

So do the rest get married by accident? Why would marriage be so common if this was the case?

[–]FlyV89 -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Divorce is also common.

What's your point?

[–]Valuable-Marzipan761 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

that much more women get married than this post claims want to get married.

[–]Bekiala 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

It would seem that the 50% (more or less) success rate of marriages would somewhat argue that some women want to have a life long partnership.

I may have a skewed vision as divorce is super rare in my family.

[–]DreysunTheOne 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

50% sucks though, that's a failing grade

[–]Bekiala 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yes, but still more than the 1% OP was arguing.

Also couples who marry older with a college education have a better rate of staying married.

[–]DreysunTheOne -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Op said "strives to be with one man for life" which also would disqualify many post college marriages since many women do sleep around, even if only sparingly in college.

I personally don't agree with op either I'm sure the percentage of the very specific set of women he is talking about is higher, but in this case he is talking about women who specifically marry as virgins, go above and beyond to find a good partner who they will then settle down with until one of them literally dies.

Men who want this are exceedingly rare as well ofc, but the current marriage stats aren't really against ops claim. He didn't say women who want to get married, he said women who want to have a single partner for life.

[–]Bekiala 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Okay thanks.

I tend to think people who marry want one partner for life but for sure some of these are doing it for other reasons than a value of one partner for life.

[–]TodTheRod01 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Are we saying, good looking women, who are under 30, not on some ho shit behaviour (online and in real life) who are looking for a long term relationship/marriage are 1% or you just mean ANY women looking for marriage?

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] -2 points-1 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Are we saying, good looking women, who are under 30, not on some ho shit behaviour (online and in real life) who are looking for a long term relationship/marriage are 1% or you just mean ANY women looking for marriage?

No. As in any women who is striving to be with one man for life (aka marriage) is near 1%.

[–]TodTheRod01 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

then no id disagree. 1% would be only the ones mentioned...plenty of avg and ugly women want 1 dude long term

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] -2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

.plenty of avg and ugly women want 1 dude long term

Why do women confuse "long term" with "marriage"? They are NOT interchangeable.

[–]TodTheRod01 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

1 im not a woman

  1. for some cultures and women individually they dont believe in marriage or just dont really practice it that much...especially when you have common law spouses...

[–]poppy_blumonogamous slut apparently 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

53% of Americans 25-54 are married. Add another 10% who are cohabitating and an unknown but likely sizable percentage in LTR.

This is pretty basic. What everyone wants more than anything is love. Companionship. Partnership. Someone to share your life with. Someone to be your cheerleader. Someone to make you stop being immature and experience the sense of purpose that comes from putting someone else first.

People will always want that. Always. Angry people on the internet aren’t going to change that.

[–]ClaraBow01 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Most women I’ve met want to find Mr Right and be with him for life.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most women I’ve met want to find Mr Right and be with him for life.

Most men want to be a HVM. Please read the title again (strive to be with 1 man for life)

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I have every intention of being with my husband for the rest of my life, though he isn’t the first man I have been with, to me that would of been dull.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

So, before your husband, you were not striving to be with one man for the rest of your life, correct?

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

When I was younger absolutely I was

Then I realised life isn’t like in the books, someone wasn’t going to come along and make everything alright, and I had some fun, got married far too young, because I secretly still believed in fairy tales. Got divorced, then decided long term relationships weren’t for me, joined online dating to have some fun, met one person and that was it

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

How would you describe "striving to be with one man" va not striving to be with one one, specifically?

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

When I was younger, I was hoping to meet someone fall in love and live happily ever after. The whole 2.4 kids and a Labrador. I got 2 kids a Labrador and a divorce.

Though before I got married the first time I started clubbing and slept around a lot, realised it was fun.

I started to do the same after my divorce and the plan was to not ever get close to anyone again, I planned to be a great mum when I had my children, and have fun when they were with their dad.

[–]Virtue_signaler2My personality makes your pussy wet 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Let's start with movies and fictions that have women as their target audience have that happily ever after component in it.

[–]FlyV89 -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You mean they are to blame for women's entitlement and delusional expectations?

Or is that women like those fictions because that's what they fantazise about?

I mean, porn doesn't give me any ideas you know what I mean? I was already a nasty motherfucker before smartphones.

[–]FlyV89 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Ok so all the women's posts here are saying they don't want to get married and that ceremonies and rings and pappers suck but they are eating my liber in another thread just because I said I haven't met any woman worthy of my bows if front of God...

What's the problem with women here?

You remember me all my exes who "were not looking for something serious, take it easy" and them bam "what are we?"

[–]anonymous-platypus1 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh hey funny seeing you here. You’re misunderstanding what some of these women are saying. They want to get married, they don’t want the expensive wedding that’s different.

Also, do you mean VOWs before god???

[–]FlyV89 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

OMG not you!

Also, do you mean VOWs before god???

OMG why english has to be so dificult sometimes.

[–]vanishingly-orca -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

1%? That's unfair. Most women will be happy in the top 5%.

Although sure, they'd love to get the guy making millions, they'll accept some poor shrub who only makes $250k and is only 6'1".

Women settle for that all the time.

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[–]warramite 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

They go with the flow... what the flow is depends on the man's value

[–]shydude92 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think there's two important points to be made here:

  1. The percentage is highly culture-, religion-, and socioeconomically-dependent. If you're living in a major city on the East Coast, looking for a white woman with a higher degree working in the corporate sector as an executive making 6 or 7 figures, you may be correct to some degree. If you're looking for a woman from a small town in the Deep South, who grew up in a religious household, wants to be a housewife and stay-at-home mom, and probably didn't go to a 4-year university where she would live in dorms rife with hookup culture and casual sex, nor makes that much money, your chances will be much higher. The same may be true if she grew up with an immigrant background, where mores on sex are more traditional and sex before marriage is not as common or accepted, or with strict parents, who instilled traditional values in her from a young age, etc.

  2. As others have pointed out, a far higher number of women start out with this view as well. Many women desire to be with only one man for life, and dream of meeting their knight in shining armour, but change their mind after life forces them to revise their expectations. Women who only want to be with one man are more likely than others to remain virgins later in life as well, simply because they won't give it up to just anyone. In other words, there're both a selection effect and cognitive dissonance that affect the discrepancy in the proportion of "one man women" among virgin and non-virgin women, but as women get older, the total number of women with this mindset will drop off, as more women have lost their virginity to the wrong man or been burned in bad relationships, and told themselves it never really mattered or they are somehow better for their past to avoid feelings of guilt, disappointment, or regret. The number of women with this attitude at 20, when a significant number are still virgins, will be much higher than at 30, by when most unmarried women will have lost their virginity and more often than not already had multiple sexual partners, such that having one partner would no longer be possible.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Many women desire to be with only one man for life, and dream of meeting their knight in shining armour, but change their mind after life forces them to revise their expectations.

Desire and dreaming are NOT equivalent to striving. Men desire and dream about being 6'0, big Dick. They can dream and desire til their hearts content.

The point is striving is an action towards a desired outcome.

[–]prizefighterstudent 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Nah, most women would prefer it. They've either gotten burned badly or wouldn't want to put up with a dude in general if they think otherwise.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nah, most women would prefer it.

Most men would prefer to be taller and a baller. I specifically said striving to be...

They've either gotten burned badly or wouldn't want to put up with a dude in general if they think otherwise.

Then that would mean they are NOT striving to be.

[–]prizefighterstudent 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I misread. Right on. They're pretty much non-existent.

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have every intention of being with my husband for the rest of my life, though he isn’t the first man I have been with, to me that would of been dull.

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[–]itmethrowaway12 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

false nearly all women strive to only fuck the hottest guy ever their whole life

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

lol okay

[–]itmethrowaway12 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

what do u think hypergamy is?

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

what do u think hypergamy is?

Did you even understand my post? You may be to re-read it again ;)

[–]itmethrowaway12 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

yeah im saying most women cant a HVM and to stay with him why wouldnt they want that? they dont like hoeing around its just they cant accept the reality that the men they want dont want them

[–]HobbitShaker88 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Women strive to be with the one man who makes them happy and whom they are compatible with long term so they can remain happy. It is not an easy task BTW.

Both genders have people who are unable to be with the same person for the rest of their life.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Women strive to be with the one man who makes them happy

This is way off. Happiness is an emotion. Happiness is internal. A person chooses how they feel, whether consciously or not. No person can make you feel a certain emotion. You can choose to be happy or not.

and whom they are compatible with long term so they can remain happy.

Again, this is so far off from my post. "long term" is NOT the same as marriage. And far from striving for marriage.

It is not an easy task BTW.

Choosing to be happy is easy. Looking for an external, magical person to make you feel happy, is not only "not an easy task", it is IMPOSSIBLE.

Both genders have people who are unable to be with the same person for the rest of their life.

This post is about the small number of women who actually STRIVING to be with one man for the rest of their life. Not sure why you even mentioned the last point.

[–]HobbitShaker88 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes, happiness is somewhat internal, but its more than that. For instance, when I have a guy consistently insulting me, acting selfish towards me, being too critical, acting superior to me, etc. I wont be happy. Telling me to CHOOSE to be happy in these cases is crazy. Also, me having to NOT act like myself to make them happy...no amount of "choosing to be happy" can overcome that.

Men expect women to make them feel happy btw- you reverse these genders and no man would follow you. So I guess its just women who have to "choose to feel happy?"

A large amount of women actually strive to be with one man for the rest of their life...finding a good fit is the problem.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, happiness is somewhat internal, but its more than that.

No. It's literally 100% internal. You cant stumble over a pile of happiness- EVER.

For instance, when I have a guy consistently insulting me, acting selfish towards me, being too critical, acting superior to me, etc. I wont be happy.

That is still your choice. He isn't MAKING YOU feel a certain emotion inside yourself. A man/person says words that you then interpret what you think those words mean. If the person says "I HATE YOU" with a big smile on their face, you wouldn't be mad or angry. The point is, you choose how to feel.

Men expect women to make them feel happy btw- you reverse these genders and no man would follow you. So I guess its just women who have to "choose to feel happy?"

This applies to every person on this planet. We are NOT dogs and robots. We as humans have the ability to interpret things, and we also choose how we feel. If you are in a bad mood, all you have to do to be happy is change what you are thinking about. Put on some music, think about your last trip to the beach, think about all the possibilities you have... and BOOM, you are happy. Why? Because you chose to be.

A large amount of women actually strive to be with one man for the rest of their life...finding a good fit is the problem.

False. Dreaming and hoping for one man for the rest of their life is NOT the same as striving for. Dont conflate.

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