cmv: Women who strive to be with one man for life (aka marriage) are as rare as HVM, which are about 1% of the population.

Noodles_R · 2022-09-06T17:12:14+00:00

I think most want to in the end.

They just don’t want to necessarily marry the first guy they date.

Sad_Entertainer6312 · 2022-09-06T18:48:34+00:00

I disagree, the vast majority of my friends are happily married, and I have both a niece and a nephew that got engaged in the last 6 months.

I will agree that many younger people seem to be shunning the idea of marriage, but many seem to think they'll still be with their partner long term.

no_usernameeeeeee · 2022-09-06T17:50:46+00:00

This isn’t true. Us women are taught about prince charming and living happily ever after since we were toddlers. Most of us seek that to some level. I have a feeling you just made this statistic up or you just don’t know women in real life (who are in relationships esp). I know so many girls literally waiting for their partners to propose & start a family with them.

Plus, wanting marriage and wanting a long term commitment with one person are two different things. I am sure many women also fall in that category.

Financial_Leave4411 · 2022-09-06T18:53:07+00:00

I don’t think it’s that the majority of women don’t want to get married to one partner for life; I think it’s that women are looking for a good partner if they’re going to be with just one for life and they’re not finding one.

Most men don’t want to settle down and commit to just one woman. Most men seem to want a main chick to have their kids but then they still want to spin plates on the side too.

This is making a lot of high quality women who want to be with one person for life thru marriage run away from dating completely as it’s safer to stay alone than risk being lied to. More women than ever before have completely given up on ever finding a spouse and as such no longer go on dating sites or out to clubs/bars which is why you don’t see them anymore and assume all women want to play the field.

back_in_blyat · 2022-09-06T20:36:04+00:00

If that were the case then successful marriages would be 1% or less as well. The end.

pro-frog · 2022-09-06T17:24:38+00:00

What makes you believe this?

ruboyuri · 2022-09-06T17:12:12+00:00

Counterpoints:

Twu Wub

Happily Ever After

Average wedding cost $28,000 + average divorce cost $17,500 = $45,000

What do you think we are —- made of money?!

southern_dilettante · 2022-09-06T18:20:23+00:00

I know women who are just like this, and I'd guess they're not that rare either.

Valuable-Marzipan761 · 2022-09-06T20:18:03+00:00

So do the rest get married by accident? Why would marriage be so common if this was the case?

Bekiala · 2022-09-06T18:42:55+00:00

It would seem that the 50% (more or less) success rate of marriages would somewhat argue that some women want to have a life long partnership.

I may have a skewed vision as divorce is super rare in my family.

TodTheRod01 · 2022-09-06T21:18:16+00:00

Are we saying, good looking women, who are under 30, not on some ho shit behaviour (online and in real life) who are looking for a long term relationship/marriage are 1% or you just mean ANY women looking for marriage?

poppy_blu · 2022-09-06T23:43:14+00:00

53% of Americans 25-54 are married. Add another 10% who are cohabitating and an unknown but likely sizable percentage in LTR.

This is pretty basic. What everyone wants more than anything is love. Companionship. Partnership. Someone to share your life with. Someone to be your cheerleader. Someone to make you stop being immature and experience the sense of purpose that comes from putting someone else first.

People will always want that. Always. Angry people on the internet aren’t going to change that.

ClaraBow01 · 2022-09-07T07:05:05+00:00

Most women I’ve met want to find Mr Right and be with him for life.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-09-07T14:08:24+00:00

I have every intention of being with my husband for the rest of my life, though he isn’t the first man I have been with, to me that would of been dull.

Virtue_signaler2 · 2022-09-06T17:17:35+00:00

Let's start with movies and fictions that have women as their target audience have that happily ever after component in it.

FlyV89 · 2022-09-07T04:22:56+00:00

Ok so all the women's posts here are saying they don't want to get married and that ceremonies and rings and pappers suck but they are eating my liber in another thread just because I said I haven't met any woman worthy of my bows if front of God...

What's the problem with women here?

You remember me all my exes who "were not looking for something serious, take it easy" and them bam "what are we?"

vanishingly-orca · 2022-09-06T18:20:17+00:00

1%? That's unfair. Most women will be happy in the top 5%.

Although sure, they'd love to get the guy making millions, they'll accept some poor shrub who only makes $250k and is only 6'1".

Women settle for that all the time.

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shydude92 · 2022-09-06T20:00:50+00:00

I think there's two important points to be made here:

The percentage is highly culture-, religion-, and socioeconomically-dependent. If you're living in a major city on the East Coast, looking for a white woman with a higher degree working in the corporate sector as an executive making 6 or 7 figures, you may be correct to some degree. If you're looking for a woman from a small town in the Deep South, who grew up in a religious household, wants to be a housewife and stay-at-home mom, and probably didn't go to a 4-year university where she would live in dorms rife with hookup culture and casual sex, nor makes that much money, your chances will be much higher. The same may be true if she grew up with an immigrant background, where mores on sex are more traditional and sex before marriage is not as common or accepted, or with strict parents, who instilled traditional values in her from a young age, etc.
As others have pointed out, a far higher number of women start out with this view as well. Many women desire to be with only one man for life, and dream of meeting their knight in shining armour, but change their mind after life forces them to revise their expectations. Women who only want to be with one man are more likely than others to remain virgins later in life as well, simply because they won't give it up to just anyone. In other words, there're both a selection effect and cognitive dissonance that affect the discrepancy in the proportion of "one man women" among virgin and non-virgin women, but as women get older, the total number of women with this mindset will drop off, as more women have lost their virginity to the wrong man or been burned in bad relationships, and told themselves it never really mattered or they are somehow better for their past to avoid feelings of guilt, disappointment, or regret. The number of women with this attitude at 20, when a significant number are still virgins, will be much higher than at 30, by when most unmarried women will have lost their virginity and more often than not already had multiple sexual partners, such that having one partner would no longer be possible.

prizefighterstudent · 2022-09-07T01:24:55+00:00

Nah, most women would prefer it. They've either gotten burned badly or wouldn't want to put up with a dude in general if they think otherwise.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-09-07T14:10:17+00:00

I have every intention of being with my husband for the rest of my life, though he isn’t the first man I have been with, to me that would of been dull.

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itmethrowaway12 · 2022-09-07T23:03:18+00:00

false nearly all women strive to only fuck the hottest guy ever their whole life

HobbitShaker88 · 2022-09-08T03:56:38+00:00

Women strive to be with the one man who makes them happy and whom they are compatible with long term so they can remain happy. It is not an easy task BTW.

Both genders have people who are unable to be with the same person for the rest of their life.

Title	cmv: Women who strive to be with one man for life (aka marriage) are as rare as HVM, which are about 1% of the population.
Author	_Duriel_1000_
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Date	September 6, 2022 4:35 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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