That's the conclusion I've drawn from the increasing complaints by women on social media about being harassed by guys in their DMs, while observing their interactions. You still reward the loud, persistent assholes with attention and sometimes more. I think everyone here is familiar with the famous Boomhauer scene from King of the Hill. A guy who approaches you respectfully and backs off when told (or if he simply doesn't get a green light to proceed) will be viewed as boring, or most likely not even register on your radar. But at least he'll sleep alone with the knowledge that he's "one of the good ones." Am I wrong?