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Do people underestimate how much society's lack of proper raising of boys leads to most of the problems that get brought up here, particularly in regards to the proper utilization of the male ego?

May 27, 2020
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I think one of the most underrated reasons for why we see an influx of socially and sexually stunted men has to do with the demonization of the male ego and lack of ignition that is given to the male competitive drive. It seems in my generation (born mid-90s); we faced a huge influx of you-go-girlism with an equally yet opposing force of telling men they’re complete shit regardless of how great their accomplishments are.

Case in point, my little cousin got into a top business school, and he’s talking about he’s hoping he can get rich. One of the guys my girl cousins was dating was congratulating him and telling him he’s going to accomplish great things. My girl cousins (rather seriously) scold him and tell him to notprop up his ego so much etc. Fortunately for him, the guy has seen a lot of success in various aspects of his life through competency, and he’s been positively validated/reinforced that he likely won’t ever have an issue with someone giving him shit at this point in his life. It’s one thing when you have an established ego by positive reinforcement of healthy competitive male behavior and accomplishment for most of your life, but if this is tuned in at a very young age (which it has been done so more and more over the past two decades) — it’s not surprising why there’s a plethora of men with zero confidence and horrible self-image and self-esteem. I especially fear this is the case with ultra-feminist mothers who have such a dynamic where they’re raising a son and a daughter.

Now the irony in this all is there is a delicate balance to this, you need to validate the ego to reinforce positive behavior and increase one’s esteem. However, with boys in particular, one of the most motivating factors can be teasing them just enough to the point where you’re nearly telling them they aren’t shit. Anyone who’s watched some Michael Jordan clips or the recent documentary knows what I’m talking about — here’s a good sample of that specifically:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bn3a2gs3E0I

It’s a push and pull, if you reinforce too much, you create arrogance in incompetency (which I personally think is what's lead to the high amounts of narcissistic women in younger generations). If you scold and belittle too much, you create men like we have in today’s society lacking confidence and natural male bravado.

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Title Do people underestimate how much society's lack of proper raising of boys leads to most of the problems that get brought up here, particularly in regards to the proper utilization of the male ego?
Author banned_by_cucks
Upvotes 217
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Date May 27, 2020 9:50 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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