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Dread vs Anti-Dread. Anti-Dread (cheating while pretending everything is fine) is safer than hard dread when you're married. CMV

March 15, 2015
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This thread will be in the context of married couples; and by dread I mean hard dread.

Hard dread IIRC is instilling a sense of doom in your spouse that you're gonna leave her/cheat on her, but not actually cheating on her.

I'm gonna define anti-dread as cheating on your spouse, but going out of your way to pretend everything is normal. This old post is a perfect example. Its a post by an old married guy in a deadbedroom who's cheating on his wife. He goes on to make a step-by-step guide on concealing affairs.

CMV: A properly concealed affair is less dangerous for the husband than hard dread. Hard dread can be construed to be emotionally abusive in court (if not as evidence of the man cheating even if he hasn't) and that could cost him a pretty penny in divorce.

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Title Dread vs Anti-Dread. Anti-Dread (cheating while pretending everything is fine) is safer than hard dread when you're married. CMV
Author TomHicks
Upvotes 3
Comments 12
Date March 15, 2015 7:14 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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[–]soylentblueissmurfsSoylent Red10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

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What is this?

[–][deleted] 3 points3 points | Copy Link

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[–]anti_erection_man1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

How the hell can this be a fair discussion if mods have the power to just delete anything they don't agree with? What's the point of even taking part in a discussion bitch?

[–]cuittlerಠ_ಠ-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It was removed because I thought TomHicks was a RPer, not because I personally disagreed.

Watch the language.

[–]anti_erection_man0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Right. My bad.

[–]TomHicksAntifeminist sans pills[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What?? You serious?

[–]adrixshadowIndigo Pill(aka dark and evil occult pill)1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That doesn't help you much.

If you leave her to her own devices what happens is she gets tired of you and divorces, you haven't solved anything.

So if you want to save the marriage dread is necessary.

What you are looking for is probably a more subtle form of dread.

[–]ReginleiferOnly Zombies want female brains1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

How well can one conceal infidelity? Most men don't have the spare income to support a mistress without it being noticed.

So the money trail is going to give off a huge hint. There's time, what man has the time to properly love a woman much less two? There's 8 hours of work, recommended 8 of sleep, pretty sure a lot of people commute, there's kids, and you got to eat somewhere in between.

A workout/dread combo while time consuming would probably end up costing you less time than having another woman.

It seems that infidelity is only a good solution to men with the disposable income to hide the act, the flexible hours or authority a job like a self-employed person would have, or the income to survive a divorce proceeding without becoming homeless.

If your argument is "don't get caught" then you may as well suggest "win the lottery" as financial advice.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You gendered dread game - even though its more commonly and mainstream, a female tactic.

[–]exit_sandmanstill not the MGTOW sandman FFS1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This old post on the other hand is fairly impractical if you aren't very loaded.

Besides, the dynamic of this marriage is exactly what TRP is warning guys about.

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[–]HelenBeck0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hard dread might make a partner have insecurities and cause them to cheat. Thus fulfilling the red pill idea that women cheat. No human likes to feel expendable. A wife might try to save the relationship for a short time, but eventually she will search to find a loving mate.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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