For this OP let’s assume NAWALT and NAMALT. I don’t feel like qualifying every sentence. Every time I say “women” or “men” just assume I mean “many women/men” or “enough women/men have that’s led to a notable trend or pattern.”

Most people won’t deny the following:

  • Women have a responsive sexuality. Their libidos aren’t constant. Sex isn’t always or mostly isn’t on her mind. Thus she’s not immediately moved into a lusty state.

  • Being the penetrated individual is a more physically vulnerable state, and thus being penetrated when not horny is just plain weird feeling. Being licked and slobbered and pumped and felt up when you aren’t in a sexy or lusty state is quite unsettling. Trying to force enthusiasm about the sex when you aren’t horny is harder than rocket science.

  • All the same, many women engage maintenance or duty sex to keep the relationship strong.

  • Problem is the more sex like the above she has, the more she associates bad feelings with sex. A negative feedback loop regarding sex. She never gets a chance to experience craving sex. And sex you crave is the sex that’s delicious.

Ladies who have experienced this, what do you do to keep yourself in the mood mentally on a regular basis?

Men, what have you done to ensure she stays not just receptive to sex, but that the sex she does have is sex where’s she’s also turned on?