Every pill fails at properly addressing the biggest issue guys face when dating. Anxiety.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-09-29T14:51:28+00:00

Pretty sure that’s the point of cold approaching. No TRP Elder God actually believes (I hope) that men will have much success approaching random women on the street. The point is that it’s supposed to in inoculate you from anxiety about rejection, by being rejected a million times.

GoldenHornyChicken · 2022-09-29T13:54:00+00:00

Did you try Xanax ?

platinirisms · 2022-09-29T13:46:25+00:00

What do you suggest a guy with anxiety do then? I actually believe the Redpill thinking of “Fake it till you make it” works. The more you pretend the more you get used to it.

It’s like joining acting class and playing a character, the first time it’s uncomfortable and embarrassing and you wouldn’t want your friends/family watching you. 2 years later you’re at a theatre playing that character in front of everybody like it’s second nature, and that feeling of uncomfortableness and embarrassment is completely null and void.

Except in this case, you’re not pretending to be someone else, you’re just pretending to be a more confident version of yourself.

Smitten_Squire · 2022-09-29T20:44:41+00:00

The biggest issue is the after affects of rejection, guys don't care if she says no, that's fine. The anxiety is from if the girls ignorant or if she has a bad personality and then calls you "creepy" even tho you did everything correctly, are hygienic, and actually wasnt creepy.

Once the creepy card gets pulled, good luck with that label in ur social circle lol.

That's what causes anxiety for most guys.

Imo its probably similar to a girl being labeled a "slut" in her social circle even tho she isnt one, but the rumor started so it sticks

ohheyhi99 · 2022-09-29T18:31:59+00:00

Anxiety is a big issue for men, but keep in mind that women are probably no less likely than men to be anxious and depressed, and some research says that women are actually more likely to be anxious and depressed. There’s something else going on.

Correct-Warthog-9061 · 2022-09-29T16:45:14+00:00

Tbh, those people that act like they don't care really do care about rejection. We all care about rejection. We all feel it to a certian degree. Tbh, I wouldn't recommend going out there and putting urself asteem on the line. Enough rejections and it will bleed on to ur normal life and you won't have any self confidence for anything. Stop giving another person jurisdiction over your self asteem.

darkvalleys · 2022-09-29T15:33:09+00:00

That is a good part of the advantage of OLD.

Unfortunately, it’s too much of an advantage, thus the sausage festival it’s become, ruined by a relentless tide of male thirst

5x69fq29d0f6m33k17b0 · 2022-09-30T08:30:11+00:00

It's not so much fear of rejection but the real social consequences of rejection. The anxiety is reasonable and substantiated.

urukshai3 · 2022-09-29T15:34:50+00:00

No wonder women end up with psychopaths... they are the ones that do not care about rejection.

Women just make their own dating hell.

ConcentrateOk1933 · 2022-09-29T15:26:35+00:00

Anxiety is just the realization that you're not liked by people.

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flualpluvr · 2022-09-29T18:59:58+00:00

xanaxpill

RocinanteCoffee · 2022-09-29T21:44:42+00:00

Just a note, working out sometimes makes anxiety worse. If that's the case best to distract yourself while working out (watch a show, listen to good music/podcast, or work out while doing an activity you genuinely enjoy like skateboarding, surfing, dancing, swimming or what have you).

Anxiety is a very large interruption to successful dating, on all parts of the gender spectrum it's true.

risdeveau · 2022-09-29T23:25:39+00:00

Well, yes, of course they do

Because a solution already exists

It’s called alcohol.

And we use it for all sorts of psychological anxiety, not just dating related. I use it all the time, whether I’m single or not

ClaraBow01 · 2022-10-01T07:11:20+00:00

I think this issue is something that can’t be solved by any kind of gender politics. I am a girl with social anxiety. I basically haven’t had a friend outside of my family in years. I think genuine communication coaches and advice can be helpful. I think Charisma on Command and Max Beaumont are good channels for communication that actually give advice without it being toxic.

rivetcitymayor · 2022-09-29T16:22:51+00:00

OP you think guys who are successful are anxiety free ?

Ohyarlysmiles · 2022-09-29T19:44:03+00:00

Every single pill addresses the fear of rejection

What do you think 'just be yourself' means? Just go up and be authentic. What do you think 'it's just a numbers game' means? Keep trying and it will work out. Blue Pill has it covered.

TRP = "men are the aggressors and must initiate," "fake it til you make it"

Black pill = do whatever you can to make it into [arbitrary percentile] of looks. If you can't, then avoid the situation. Avoidance is a coping strategy for rejection.

RabidusRex · 2022-09-29T20:22:16+00:00

IDK I feel like men and women wouldn't fear getting rejected so much if some people weren't so cruel and insensitive about it..... And if you're asking someone out that you don't know very well, it can be difficult to gauge how they're going to react.

HazyMemory7 · 2022-09-29T17:29:09+00:00

You are incorrect.

TRP tells men to get off their ass and actually talk to women, in person. There's even a term/thread flair for it, "field report"

When people say these things they should at least spend 5 minutes lookin into the ideologies they are critiquing. Professional help will NOT fix the anxiety and fear of rejection in the context of dating. There is a place for professional help for people who suffer from generalized anxiety, but you absolutely have to get out of your comfort zone and talk to women. A lot of women. There is no other way to stop getting anxious and hung up over rejection.

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-09-29T19:41:52+00:00

Red pill says to spin plates to reduce anxiety.

CameronJohns88 · 2022-09-29T14:45:23+00:00

Anxiety isn’t the biggest issue guys face while dating. Especially when it’s OLD

It’s womens hypergamy

anonymous-platypus1 · 2022-09-29T16:01:36+00:00

I agree.

Almost every woman I know has encountered at least one guy that got violent or threatened violence in the face of her rejection. The number grows when you account for the number of times women have been verbally harassed/insulated by men they either expressly told they had no interest in, or ignored.

All of these things should and would cause dating anxiety. But few women I know have that much anxiety surrounding rejection to where they behave like some men here do.

I think it is a question of being psychologically healthy and not internalizing what’s said to you by someone you may not really know. I think the best course is getting to a healthy mindset.

BaiKingu · 2022-09-29T16:21:24+00:00

Literally this, but how anxiety often works is that the mind will try and find any angle but straight through it.

debatelord_1 · 2022-09-29T18:01:52+00:00

Incels talk about mental issues like high inhibition, social anxiety, depression, autism etc. all the time wtf.

trail22 · 2022-09-29T20:14:56+00:00

Why would you keep trying at something you fail at that you dont enjoy and you make no progress in.

ruboyuri · 2022-09-29T16:36:37+00:00

We had a perfectly good solution, but you guys ruined it with your impatience and thirst, as you ruined any previous attempts to make things easier.

I daresay any subsequent solutions will face the same problem: Dudes are so horny that everything devolves into a rude and crude sausage fest, which of course drives women away

JoeRMD77 · 2022-09-30T01:32:09+00:00

I guess I've already been living red pill then because I'm confident and don't care if women choose me.

HobbitShaker88 · 2022-09-30T04:07:02+00:00

Most of the men Ive dated IRL dont seem to struggle much with dating anxiety...even the ones who dont date much. I think this only applies to men online...

RootingRound · 2022-09-30T07:39:03+00:00

Best thing to address anxiety is exposure therapy. If you're clinical, go to a psychologist who will do it, if you're normal levels of nervous, self administer rejection in manageable doses until it's not a big problem any more.

notquiteright519 · 2022-09-30T16:08:14+00:00

So question then...what about 'fear of rejection' in other areas of your life? Like your job, your community, your family....do you suffer the same fear of rejection or is it just with women? If you can be confident in your job but not with women, then what is the difference here? It's not a 'your confidence' problem, it's maybe understanding the realm in which you're playing. With your job, maybe you fully understand what's required. Maybe not so much with women? So...learn more? Be open to ask questions, then be yourself. You shouldn't have to change who you are for anyone.

billsull_02842 · 2022-10-01T22:38:51+00:00

hard to believe these smiling faced wonderful women make men nervous?

Title	Every pill fails at properly addressing the biggest issue guys face when dating. Anxiety.
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