For starters: this is all speculation, nothing confirmed yet.

I'm not trying to shove some narrative down people's throats. I'm just trying to find explanations for the phenomena I see.

I do NOT support slut shaming. I just try to understand people’s behavior.

Alright, let’s begin.

It’s unfair to shame sluts and celebrate studs. On paper, it’s injust. However, we need to consider the rest of the equation to really understand why people display this “hypocritical” behavior. We need to consider how we got where we are.

1 - Men try, women judge.

Women’s sexual standards are high, men’s are low. “Girls are picky”, “guys will fuck anything that moves”. To a certain degree, that is true.

Consider [this] (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24910472): female standards towards men are higher than male standards towards women.

And [women consider 80% of men are unattractive and the other 20% are between neutral and attractive] (https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a).

This has been the law for all of human history. [8000 years ago one man would have children with 17 women and the other 16 men would have no children] (https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success).

Even if you consider recent history, [only 40 % of men and 80% of women who ever lived had offspring] (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201202/why-men-gave-polygamy).

And that responds to human nature: [men are biologically designed to mate with as many females as possible: women are biologically designed to mate with the best man alone] (http://web.simmons.edu/~turnerg/MCC/Matechoice2PDF.pdf).

In general, sex is seen as something men do to women. He performs, she judges. He asks her out, she decides wether he's worthy or not. He fucks, she is fucked.

2 - Sluts are harder to please than female virgins, studs are not harder to please than male virgins.

Take a look at [this interesting study] (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2733220/Women-don-t-sleep-wedding-happier-marriages-men-play-field-without-worry-study-finds.html). For women, the more sexual partners they have before marriage the less likely they are to be satisfied in marriage. For men, there is no difference: men with lots of sexual experience are just as easy to please as men with no sexual experience.

[This big compilation] (https://i.imgur.com/jqIt9ao.jpg) is also big evidence in favor of this theory.

And [the higher the number of sexual partners the higher the chances of divorce] (https://i.redd.it/yfp6l9kjwdi01.jpg).

This could be one of the reasons why many men avoid “sluts” except for sex but women don’t avoid “studs” even for long-term relationships.

It’s not a coincidence that [lower numbers of sexual partners before marriage results in happier, more stable marriages and lives] (https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability).

Also [this study] (http://www.nber.org/papers/w10499) and [this other one] (https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/21/more-sexual-partners-unhappy-marriage_n_5698440.html).

3 - Women dream of studs, men don’t dream of sluts.

Consider THIS: [women really, really don’t like male virgins] (https://imgur.com/a/mVYRo). They want experienced men, and the more experienced the better.

In fact, [men who have a partner are considered much more attractive by women for the fact of having a partner] (http://digital.library.okstate.edu/etd/umi-okstate-2649.pdf).

But what about the dick-crazed girl fantasy? Don’t men fantasize about a super-horny, disposable partner who loves sex with them all the time?

Correct. Sex with them. Only. Not with any man who shows up. Those fantasies depict women who are terribly disgusted by the idea of sexual contact with anyone other than their guy.

Sex is usually seen as something the man performs on the woman. More experience and practice will make the performer (male) better, but the receiver (female) won’t make a difference depending on her sexual past. See next point to expand this concept.

4 - Experience improves men’s sexual performance, but not women’s.

LET ME EXPLAIN THAT. Of course women can improve their performance through practice, but it doesn’t pay off.

Male orgasm is easy to achieve because it’s necessary for reproduction: all men orgasm during intercourse (it doesn’t stop until he finishes) and quite a few men have problems climaxing too soon, too often. Women don’t. Only 25% of women reach orgasm through intercourse, and about 20% almost never orgasm even with manual and oral help.

A man will cum no matter how unexperienced the woman is. But for women, the guy better know what he’s doing or she’ll never climax.

Studs satisfy women more often than non-studs, but sluts don’t necessarily satisfy men more often than non-sluts.

5 - Women fantasize about being virgins.

Consider the book [A Billion Wicked Thoughts] (http://www.billionwickedthoughts.com/index.html) by neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. It’s about the countless internet porn searches done by women and men. Let’s look at the visual (videos/films) and literary (written fiction) porn that women consume.

The female characters are young, well-meant, innocent, pure, often virgins. The male characters are dominant, careless, masculine, experienced.

Also consider PornHub’s Year In Review lists: [the one for 2015] (https://www.pornhub.com/insights/pornhub-2015-year-in-review), [the one for 2016] (https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2016-year-in-review) and [the one for 2017] (https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2017-year-in-review).

All the categories that celebrate or fetisize female youth, innocence, virginity and lack of experience (teen, schoolgirl, virgin, rookie, young, first-time, step-daughter...) are more popular and consumed by women than men. Women fantasize about female virginity more than men do.

6 - The Frankenstein's Monster Sexual Theory.

Viktor Frankenstein built a creature off many people's body parts. He selected the best parts he could find because he wanted his creation to be physically and intellectually perfect.

This might be what women do with their previous partners. And it would explain why women feel less satisfied the more partners they have but men stay the same.

Theory: women pick their partners' best traits and compare their new partners to them. If a woman dates a tall man, any partner who comes after him will feel short for her. If she dates a funny guy, any man who comes afterwards will feel boring. And so on.

She will eventually build this imaginary man in her mind who presents the best traits of her previous partners: this guy’s sense of humor, this other guy’s face, that guy’s height... no man could ever meet up to this imaginary figure she’s built in her mind.

This would explain why the higher the number of sexual partners the more difficult it is to satisfy a woman.

7 - How men respond to this reality.

Men seek virgins. For all of human history. In all societies. And this might be the response to both female sluttiness and women’s more judgmental character (on sex).

A slut is a woman many other men have conquered. A man’s conquest of her has no value; anyone can do it.

Also, the more partners a woman has had in the past the harder to please and the more judgmental she is.

I wrote [this post] (https://www.reddit.com/r/writing/comments/7h54d1/the_clueless_goddess_and_why_im_tired_of_it/?st=jfflbxgc&sh=2e668257) on r/writing a while ago about a phenomenon in media I call “The Clueless Goddess”. Female characters in fiction who, despite being important or special in some way, are talkess, clueless dolls. Usually virgins, always docile, always playful, easy to impress. Basically, a child in a woman’s body.

I despise this fantasy as it fetisizes a childish personality. But I understand why so many men feel attracted to it: the male character is the first and only man she’s ever met, so she’s “purest”.

On a final note, I’ll share [this video] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NyzCJx4IiI): former female porn star Bree Olson laments her porn career and advices girls NOT to join the industry.

Any thoughts on this whole thing?