Have you ever suceeded after being persistent with a woman who clearly wasn't interested

BoogersAndSugar · 2020-03-16T10:55:59+00:00

No. Persistence was ultimately met with rejection, every single time. With the girls I dated, every single one of them were clearly interested right from the get-go. If her interest isn't obvious, I move on immediately.

TheJim66 · 2020-03-16T09:41:35+00:00

Yeah .It's one of the reasons I believe game works and it's not just about looks.They would be uninterested the whole time but I would magically end up banging them.I wouldn't recommend trying to make a relationship happen with these girls but you should definitely try for sex.

Edit:By persistent I don't mean needy or anything like that.More like I continued escalating despite her lack of interest.

DeuxPistolets · 2020-03-16T13:27:53+00:00

I’ve never persistently pursued any woman that I could tell wasn’t interested in me. If I think I woman isn’t interested, I simply won’t try at all. Why would I?

Pastelitomaracucho · 2020-03-16T15:37:58+00:00

I do NOT recommend being persistent with someone who does not show interest or that is not consistent in showing interest.

In my experience, the only moment I changed their mind was when I stopped pursuing. The rest is just pure frustration, exahustion and putting yourself in a position of ridicule.

Look, its very easy: attraction is so complex and sporadic that you might as well assume is it almost a random event. If you meet someone and there is no click (no matter how attracted you are) abandon the effort and walk. If you really want to get some closure and move on, directly ask what level of attraction is there. Get your answer and act in consequence.

Any woman that will play manipulative games to keep you reeled in does not deserve your time.

satanic_hamster · 2020-03-16T09:48:57+00:00

I succeeded more with women precisely because I wasn’t persistent.

Being unavailable cultivated an aura of attraction far more than being persistent and heavily invested on making something happen between us.

Sir_manalot · 2020-03-16T11:04:35+00:00

Women do not like men who invest in them (they prefer going after the men that treat them like shot).

So I doubt you will get many “yeah, it worked” besides maybe one or two exceptions.

And it definitely didn’t work for me.

passepar2t · 2020-03-16T12:52:17+00:00

No, I only managed to change their mind when they were on the fence, not 'clearly disinterested.' And I didn't do it through persistence.

I did bang a few girls who had once been 'clearly disinterested.' But that was years later, after getting involved in some death-defying international hijinks that made me appear more attractive.

LadyFerretQueen · 2020-03-16T13:15:48+00:00

Well guys have managed with me. It was just becausenI was guilted by others in to thinking I was being picky. I really regreted it. So do you want to risk taking advantage?

2020-03-16T14:13:06+00:00

She don't want me? Cool. Let me just leep on doing me. Gym, boxing/MMA shit, learnin' stuff, etc.

That way she'll be like "o shit i think i lost an orbiter my gravitational pull ain't shit anymore" and her friends will be like "he's hot AND single AND with no kids!".

A handful of them will succumb to their thoughts of me all up inside them.

But to answer your question it has worked for me. In a weird way.

wtknight · 2020-03-16T15:16:03+00:00

No. Every woman I’ve been successful with was crazy about me (at least initially). It seems like too much work to try to make some woman who isn’t interested in me interested.

thedeadpill · 2020-03-16T15:25:41+00:00

I can't think of when this has ever worked. While it isn't black & white, if they're interested, they'll let you know.

2020-03-16T16:39:27+00:00

Dunno, I believe that flirting is a 2-way street and I don't believe in pursuing a woman who shows no - or too little - interest.

If then she "plays hard to get" I am even less interested, mind games are indication of mental illness.

DubsPackage · 2020-03-16T16:47:04+00:00

Yes but it's generally not worth the effort.

vainCiel · 2020-03-16T20:06:55+00:00

As a woman who has given into persistence, it is the worst form of pain.

Reasons I wasnt interested at first- they seemed like they wanted to just hook up, or they were too desperate that put me off or they were unattractive/stingy/pretentious other reasons. But they'd pursue me for months, like crazy!

Subsequently if I gave in to their persistence, it backfired on me after they hurt me emotionally or just gave me no attention at all or abused me in some other way. Now this could happen in any case, but I hate it when it happens after I went against my own initial better judgement.

Nowadays I trust my gut instinct and if I don't want to say yes at first, I will never revise that decision.

dylang92 · 2020-03-16T21:13:51+00:00

Nah, in my experience their mind never changes about me. They either find me attractive enough or they don’t

superincongruent · 2020-03-16T14:18:59+00:00

Yes, married to her now.

Theres a difference between a woman who is fully disinterested in you and one who is interested, but has reservations or internal conflict. As long as actual attraction exists and she hasnt given you a hard no I think its fine to pursue a woman aggressively.

germophobe123 · 2020-03-16T15:30:19+00:00

I have (altho this was mid 2000’s so texting wasn’t huge and it was a bit different.

Both times was long term friends.

Both times they were super hot

Both times they never full ghosted me (cause we already we’re such good friends) but gave clear signs they didn’t find me that attractive, but also didn’t want to let me go as a friend (i rarely provided resources so i think it was emotional)

Both were the 2 worst relationships of my life

Both wanted to Marry me after and I dumped them (tho stupidly going on-off for a while)

I don’t try to convert women anymore.. if they’re new and on the fence thats one thing, but if they’ve given clear signs they are legit unattracted and ive known them for a while, then I move on (Altho i had to learn valuable skills to convert those first 2 that im glad i learned.. but in the end the most important skill i learned was not techniques to convert them but knowing how to emotionally move on when someone doesn’t like you ‘like that’)

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factorfactorfactor · 2020-03-16T13:30:10+00:00

no, and the guys I know I insist it "works" for them conflate it with getting settled for

women decide whether they like you or not within seconds of meeting. you can only go down from there (eg say something stupid to turn off). if a woman doesn't react with interest to you immediately, move on! do not simp, do not jestermaxx

G77R23D · 2020-03-16T13:30:49+00:00

No I dont think so.

abaxeron · 2020-03-16T14:56:33+00:00

Have you ever suceeded after being persistent with a woman who clearly wasn't interested

No, thank God.

statusincorporated · 2020-03-16T15:56:14+00:00

(1) No. Never.

Why?

(2) I never put that kind of effort in.

Why?

(3) Fuck yes or bust. Don't waste your time.

Plus, if she's difficult now, just wait until later. That's another weird thing about 'TRP.' If you had to wear her down to begin with, can you be that surprised that she's holding out for something better? Stay in your lane.

sadomasochrist · 2020-03-16T17:09:03+00:00

Of course. This is basically male 101.

truespirit89 · 2020-03-17T01:10:29+00:00

That's assault brothaaaa.

Celestial_Europe · 2020-03-28T21:12:08+00:00

LazerArray · 2020-03-16T11:41:16+00:00

Yeah, some women want you to be persistent. It risky though because a woman who wants you to and a woman who doesn’t act the same way when you attempt it. Men are scared of being accused of being a creep because women only think men are creeps if they don’t find them attractive. There’s no way for the man to know whether or not she thinks he’s a creep without trying. That’s why more and more guys would rather just not try.

Title	Have you ever suceeded after being persistent with a woman who clearly wasn't interested
Author	nasuits90
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Date	March 16, 2020 7:41 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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