Let's say you're dating this dude, and he made great efforts on multiple dates, even paid for everything.

The reward for that can't be sex.

If you have an orgasm, (as a woman, during that sex) then it's not an equal exchange.

You were pleasured. So was he. That's an equal exchange.

"But you need a woman to let you have sex with her"

Oh yea? Daisy will suck me off for 50$ in the back ally.

Men don't need a woman for pleasure. We have our trusty hands to do it for us. Even sex toys if we wanted to. So do women.

So sex, is NOT by any means an equal exchange if the dude makes effort and pays for a date, and then pleasures you in bed aswell.

You need to step it up. Make him breakfast in the morning.

This idea that a dude paying for a date, and you "allowing" him to have sex with you, pushes a false narrative that women don't enjoy sex.

Why else would it be called an exchange? Giving money away for groceries is an exchange. You'd rather not pay for groceries, and have them. Because you don't LIKE giving money for them, but since it's a fair exchange, you got no choice.

Same as a woman giving sex to a guy because he paid and made effort for a date. Right? Wrong. Because women enjoy sex too. They enjoy the "sex they're giving away".

To those women, that think it's a fair exchange (men paying, women giving sex), do you not like sex?

And if you do? How is that an equal exchange?

P.S. - If the dude doesn't make effort in bed, and just has sex to cum, he's not worth your time. I as a man am saying that. There needs to be an equal, both sided effort. And that is in context for this post.