In the few months I’ve been here I’ve been pounced on by extreme groups of people (I get called white knight for saying we need to do better as men to call each other out if they interact wrongly with women; and a misogynist for sympathizing with my fellow men being fustrated) who would say that their gender have it worse than the other (thank God most of you are reasonable), but for the people who are adamant that their gender has it worse, this is how to meet in the middle.

  • Use a dating app with the profile of the opposite gender. It can be either thru your friends that you have permission to use their face for (so be careful if you are a guy using your female friend’s picture, creeps have no boundaries) or using an AI generated photo. Find the most average looking person, the most 5/10 looking person you can get (so no supermodels, no celebrity looking people, nobody above 7 outta 10).

  • Create the most generic bio (no conceited shit like “entertain me” or “bad texter haha”), play around for 30 days.

  • Record how many matches can you get, and what kind of interactions you have. Do not just focus on the positive (e.g. I got a fk ton of matches that's my experience), record any negative feelings you have from being in the app.

  • Go back to PPD or dating subeddits to check if the other gender’s complaints are valid.

Sometimes actions and experiences can change perspectives and provide empathy more than just word debates. Lemme know what you experiences are being the other gender on dating apps.