How Should Forever Alone People Live a Happy Life

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-11-07T15:18:24+00:00

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passepar2t · 2021-11-07T09:14:39+00:00

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Romeo_Is_Bleedin · 2021-11-07T09:14:01+00:00

Why are we normalizing this FA shit in the first place? We're being told that there is "shitload" to do, but what exactly? Jerk off to porn? Bungee jumping? Watching Marvel movies? Indulge in even more product consumption to cope with the fact that pure basic things such as intimacy are getting out of reach now? The sex heavers who give the advice that 'sex is overrated' are like well off people who say 'money isn't everything'.

insertcredit2 · 2021-11-07T08:17:38+00:00

Take on some kind of responsibility. Maybe volunteering at a charity and offering to take on responsibilities there or help with organising a hobby you're interested in.

Like you've said people value relationships more than anything else. Putting yourself in a position where you are doing something people value particularly something that's more personal.

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TheBookOfSeil · 2021-11-07T05:43:45+00:00

There's a shitload of stuff to enjoy in life. People that base their happiness on receiving external validation from strangers will probably never be happy until they get past that mental barrier though.

Uglinessisreal · 2021-11-07T09:50:07+00:00

Being miserable alone is better than being made miserable by a partner. If good relationships aren't an option for you, you're much better off alone.

Jakes1967 · 2021-11-07T06:37:55+00:00

How Should Forever Alone People Live a Happy Life

We've got a "forever alone" guy at work, who's retiring in a few months, he's definitely happier than most and has a large number of friends, not to mention a ton of hobbies.

2021-11-07T08:56:35+00:00

they're supposed to shut up and stop complaining. they can be happy or not, either way, no one cares. once they shut up the "problem" is solved.

hardallthetime666 · 2021-11-07T06:17:34+00:00

By being grateful for what you have and detaching from your desires

I also think people need to have a concept of the divine incorporated in their lives - the material is nothing more than illusion that will lead to misery. The love of a man/woman in some ways is divine in nature but even still, the idea of a higher purpose and faith is very powerful

PopularBug5 · 2021-11-07T07:31:38+00:00

Do what the monks do, worldwide:

1 - Eat healthy food

2 - Be physically active

3 - Meditate / pray every single day.

4 - Engage in philanthropy.

5 - Stay chaste.

6 - Refrain from using drugs, alcohol, smokes, hashish and the like.

yungthrowaway97 · 2021-11-07T09:14:05+00:00

Get therapy/medication instead of just quitting

SaBahRub · 2021-11-07T09:17:09+00:00

With other relationships and interests, obviously

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-11-07T13:00:31+00:00

I have always said that true in-cels and crew forever alone people do deserve compassion. As far as what these people can do, there's only so much they can do if they have a strong need for that romantic relationship in their life, they either need to be with somebody in the same position as them or find a life that they are content with in other ways, maybe they volunteer, take up multiple Hobbies, drugs, Jesus, become a monk, whatever the case with the occasional prostitute in between

-Giga- · 2021-11-07T07:33:44+00:00

When I was living this, I concluded that if I was going to die alone, I'd die snuggled up in mink, extremely comfortable after a life of creature comforts and a string of achievements that meant something to me.

I addressed needs for touch, service, family, creativity, health

I'm a person who really loves to be in love but I do find fulfilling (almost) parallels when I've successfully helped someone no one would have noticed, when I submerge myself into art, try to be a positive data point in the lives of certain types of people, etc etc

No, romantic relationships cannot be perfectly replaced with one things but life can be tolerable if you're not too depressed to do the work. You do still find connections and you get to stumble upon a different plane of beauty with people out in the world. I'm guessing this is what widows and spinsters and cat ladies have long been doing.

Also, I'm anti poverty in a very complete way. Yes, I'm sure it is soul stirring to live simply in a straw hut and a paper plate or whatever these cringe MGTOW say they are doing but that is not my life. So career fulfillment that pays me really well was a long term strategy that filled in some blanks.

Think about it. If you're a lone trucker for miles and miles with no social interaction, that's going to hurt even more than the highly involved professional who mentors and networks and builds a roster where are least some people come to your funeral one day

Or how about this? You underachieve with not a friend in the world to care about you, your ass gets hit with cancer or a truck or a nerve disorder. You can't afford care, you can't afford to cry at home on clean sheets, and no one to hold you bc no one checks for poor people.

No thank you to hard mode.

This topic is what bigger than it seems but you get the point. Fact of the matter is there are genuinely lonely people in the world where "tinder" will never be a genuine solution. There are ways to make it through but ngl, there will always be a hurt that takes your breath away available without some kind of family (including your love) in your life.

A person can build a good life and even find joy without romantic love but it's not a replacement and has lots more extra steps.

syxtaly · 2021-11-07T07:53:45+00:00

Too many drugs to numb the pain.

Not seeing one more day after hitting age of 35 i guess?

Siukslinis_acc · 2021-11-07T09:06:51+00:00

Say for whatever Reason You can't Find A Romantic Connection with Anyone and You have decided to give up

You can still have platonic connection. So you can just have platonic relationships and find sources of happyness that don't depend on other people (books, video games, hobies that you can do solo). Also, a pet can help.

VanillaSkyPie · 2021-11-07T12:20:01+00:00

I have not totally given up yet but I am close. I am well-known in my workplace and like being a mentor to younger people, I also do some volunteering as well. At least for me, as much as I have wondered why I have not found romance, I do have other types of relationships and connections that are still worthwhile. I also have plans to adopt a child when I am older if it has still not happened to me that I was able to have my own.

John_Oakman · 2021-11-07T12:31:42+00:00

Find a purpose, there are both secular and religious methods to do so.

AvatarReiko · 2021-11-07T11:29:04+00:00

What makes you say that humans will be miserable without connecting? Does this statement ave any scientific backing?

PepperBusy1464 · 2021-11-07T13:32:46+00:00

Make your life about yourself not other people! Being “alone” is one of the most free feelings I’ve ever had personally. I gave up dating and relationships after a few bad experiences and have told myself I wont be investing time and effort into anyone other than myself. Got a better job, found some friends, got my own place, bought myself cool shit, traveled etc. I know this comes off as narcissistic but I’m not telling you to stop caring for family members and friends just stop chasing after women that are literally comparing you to all their other options while reaping the rewards. I think men get caught up in the idea that they have to be having sex to be happy but some of the most miserable men I know are dating or in a relationship with a horrible women.

Title	How Should Forever Alone People Live a Happy Life
Author	Losvadanya
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Date	November 7, 2021 5:37 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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