Where to begin...

You linked a divorce statistic that means little and says nothing about marital satisfaction. That statistic exists amidst context like "Sexually conservative women are less likely to see divorce as an option especially in Christian communities" You linked a girl being completely ignorant of her own behavior with regard to cultural and family pressures and racism that doesn't come from white people as an example of "Alpha Fucks Beta Bucks" and you talk about the bad boy stereotype without the context of that's what has been the idealized and romanticized form of man in media for a couple of generations. We are still making bond movies for a reason and that reason is not entirely about women. Bond is a male power fantasy. The bad boy is a male power fantasy. And women used to have little to no control over what was shown in media anywhere so portrayals of men have been male approved and as much or more for men as for women.

Next you talked about how most men are sex limited betas.

This one is true and false I think. I think that by your standards yes most men are not leaders or alpha personalities. That's a subset of the population not what most men can or should try to shoot for. I think that straight people and sex have...issues... and that you can't see outside that community because it's where all you unfortunate people have to fish in for dinner. I think that straight men are raised to be what other men want them to be and not what women want them to be in many cases and when women have relative freedom of choice lots of straight men are finding they are not what women want.

But the men who are what women want to any significant degree are in high demand and have alot of options. They get snatched up quick. So a woman settles. She picks a guy who wasn't really raised well for intimate, mature romantic relationships and work on him and see if he can change a bit.

And he doesn't really because he's perfectly happy with himself, meeting all off his own goals for his masculinity as seen by other men, and her sexual desire for him can't run on nothing but whatever looks and initial chemistry was there. He has no idea how to be in a relationship or build intimacy, trust, or communication. Shit dies and she finds herself either just giving up on sex or cheating. And he finds himself in the same boat.

I gotta be honest yall it's a shitshow and we LGBTs sit on the sidelines fucking each other silly and eating popcorn in between orgasms alot.

Me? A virgin is an unknown quantity. Entirely unknown. When you're the kind of person who has actually pissed on and then bathed a girl before tying her up and it wasn't like some weird drunken shit that happened with a stranger at a party it was tuesday night after my girlfriend got off work you don't want to start off with someone who you don't know if she will or won't be down for that later but you sure as fuck know she can't handle having an open conversation about it with you because she's never had sex of any kind before.

Women who have been around know whats up. They know what they're into. Like, I cannot tell you the relief I felt the first time I asked out a girl who was able to have a casual discussion about hard and soft limits, kinks, and experiences doing fucked up shit. Some of yall get in such a twist over your significant other's past and you can't imagine my perspective where I see the sex a woman has had before as a fucking resume lol.