I see so many woman here post about “my husband doesn’t want to have sex anymore, wtf” or “my boyfriend would rather watch porn than fuck me”. What people need to begin understanding is that men are not a monolith and a lot of them can’t get off to simple starfish sex, which a lot of woman don’t want to admit to doing. If the dude feels like you’re doing him a favor and catatonically sitting there while he “has his way”, he’s not gonna be comfortable or have a good time.

Additionally, if you shut him down every time he asks for sex and then he eventually just learns to blow a load to a porno instead of trying to make you feel sexy or whatever, it is YOUR fault entirely. It’s not the idea of the “toxic porn industry” that makes your evil boyfriend jack off to porn of woman getting abused that exists inside your head. Men are naturally going to be more horny, and there is nothing wrong with turning them down when they are, I’m all for enthusiastic consent. But if a man is met with a consistent string of rejection and failures when he tries to have sex with his own girlfriend and eventually just runs out of options that aren’t jacking off or cheating, don’t even try to blame porn in that situation LOL.