Female sexuality is often thought of as more receptive or passive than male sexuality.

I'm wondering if this only SEEMS true because women don't find enough men sufficiently attractive to generate more active desire.

I just recently had this thought. When I was young and fit, I used to be able to get a sexual charge off of women I considered below my league flirting with me. After all, it was a compliment. But looking back, I think it was a actually more of a passive type of sexuality that is usually associated with women. I wasn't going to sleep with them, but it was a sexual charge to feel wanted.

This all occurred to me when I saw some Youtube videos of females obsessing over super hot male celebrities like Henry Cavill and the like. Their sexuality seemed as predatory, visual and typically 'male' as any man's.

I'm wondering whether both genders have similar balances between passive and active sexuality. When dealing with someone you don't find attractive, passive sexuality will dominate. But when someone really pushes your buttons, you become more active.

One hypothesis is that only reason women are typically more passive is because men don't typically meet the active desire threshold, either because women are pickier or men are innately less attractive. Or both. What do you think?

Note: Being in active sexuality mode does not necessarily mean you initiate. It's about your desire. It's about your desire being more focused on THEM and less on how hot you might be TO THEM.