Is it true that most women in college are promiscuous?

NJFlowerchild · 2022-10-16T20:10:42+00:00

Most people are sexually active at that age when it's defined as having had sex or a sexual experience at least once. Most aren't having multiple partners or ridiculous amounts of casual sex. You won't have a problem finding women if you're looking for someone that has had 1 or 2 serious bfs and no other experience.

Ppdebatesomental · 2022-10-16T22:13:54+00:00

No, in fact gen z is having much LESS sex than previous generations

https://phys.org/news/2021-03-young-adults-casual-sex.html

https://www.buzzfeed.com/daily/gen-z-having-less-sex-than-previous-generations

And Losing their virginity later

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/college-virgin-average-age-losing-virginity

PhilosophicalCPU · 2022-10-16T20:18:41+00:00

No but women who are conservative about that sort of thing are often less visible because they stick to particular communities (e.g., religious) or aren't that big on socializing in general.

Example: my friend who didn't date at all until she was like a junior in college. She could've been a poster child for perfect Christisn tradwife material, but if you wanted to find her she'd be at church or at her apartment doing school work and drinking tea. Her first BF is now her fiancé and he hadn't dated anyone before her either.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-10-16T20:03:08+00:00

There is certainly more promiscuity at university than a lot of other settings. But there's no age, and hardly any settings, where most women are promiscuous. Some sleep around, but most are in relationships or celibate. (As a side note, I met someone who had a similar thought process to you at university. I'm currently cuddling him. So yes, the right person can be found.)

3timemom · 2022-10-16T21:29:47+00:00

No, the majority are not promiscuous. I graduated from college 6 years ago and I knew a handful of women that hadn’t had sex at all (basically all my friends). There are women that are promiscuous in college but I wouldn’t say it’s the majority. I will tell you that your virginity is very valuable. My husband and I have only had sex with each other (we lost our virginity to each other) and it’s the best thing ever. We were together since high school so almost 13 years and married for 4. We have two kids with a third on the way. Very happy, faithful marriage and good sex life and I believe a lot of that has to do with us not having any other previous partners. If I could do it over, I would have waited til marriage (the only way you can guarantee that you and your spouse will have had no other partners) but I’m glad it worked out. I wasn’t religious until the last few years, so that’s why I didn’t value it as much, but like I said, glad it worked out for us anyway. Even from a secular point of view, waiting till marriage decreases your chances of being cheated on and of divorce (there’s studies on this). The temptation to cheat is just not there because you have only been with one person and being with other people is foreign to you, compared to people who have slept around so sleeping with someone else is not that big a deal and they may often compare their spouse with previous sexual experiences with others. I recommend joining a good church and meeting a nice girl who is a virgin. Good luck!

hungrychick404 · 2022-10-16T20:55:17+00:00

Depends on what you count as promiscuous. I know a few people of any gender who go through a “hoe phase” for like a month or two after a bad breakup, then want to get with someone more serious. I know a lot of people (mainly women) who aren’t the best at telling if a guy they are sleeping with wants to be serious, and end up raising their n counts in hopes of a relationship. I know some people who are waiting until after they get their degree to seriously date. I know some people of all genders who have trouble meeting people of their preferred gender.

There are women of all sexual experience levels at college. While I would say culture kind of pushes hookup culture on young people of all genders, I still think plenty of people have the ability to make for good partners. If that’s not your preference, there are women out there though lol

mistressusa · 2022-10-16T21:17:35+00:00

OP, since you don't have difficulty talking to women, why don't you just ask your women friends in your college? That'd be more accurate than social media.

Upstairs-Rip-604 · 2022-10-16T20:28:21+00:00

I don’t know. What I do know is that I’m a 20 year old virgin woman in university.

Edit: I’m not religious.

2022-10-16T22:41:14+00:00

The question you should be asking yourself is 'how many woman have similar values as me, and where do I find them?'.

Being sexually inexperienced doesn't mean they align with your values.

Some women might be 'late bloomers" simply because they're busy with work, anxious around men or haven't found the right guy.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2022-10-16T20:25:55+00:00

What I can say is that most people I know have explored sexually in university at least one or twice.

Are most hopping on a dick every other weekend/month with the dumb cock carousel of ppd? No

But also, there will be those who are virgins or share your values but will have a harder time being seen because those girls are most likely those who don't party, aren't particularly extroverted, or are religious.

Barneysparky · 2022-10-16T19:48:46+00:00

The average woman has 7 sexual partners in her lifetime.

Your answer is no.

toasterchild · 2022-10-16T20:26:44+00:00

What is "high" to one person is nothing to another. Outside of a few religions there aren't many people who want to wait for marriage these days. If you are saving yourself for that one and only then you are bets to look for them in religious places.

AstronautLoveShack · 2022-10-16T20:31:53+00:00

I wasn’t. My daughter wasn’t.

I didn’t become promiscuous till my 40s.

saraimarsena · 2022-10-16T19:51:31+00:00

some are, but i wouldn’t say the majority are, no. if you don’t want to be with someone who sleeps around, that’s fine. there are plenty of women who don’t.

gymbro718NYC · 2022-10-16T19:52:43+00:00

Yes, I have personally checked.

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2022-10-16T22:35:21+00:00

Not really, no. There ARE girls out there bringing a new guy home every week, but they're the minority.

Your median college girl is probably somewhere in the 3-5 range (usually 1-2 long term relationships plus a casual hookup here and there). But if you're looking for girls who only want to have sex while in a committed relationship, they're not all that hard to find- it's actually much harder to find the type of girl I initially described.

learn2earn89 · 2022-10-16T20:29:12+00:00

I wasn’t, none of my friends were. We aren’t great looking though

lewdakuma · 2022-10-16T22:31:53+00:00

anecdotal, but i and some of my other friends are virgin or low n, and in college and non-religious.

these women are just way less likely to be at bars, parties, clubs. try looking for commuters; they don't live on campus so late night socializing is difficult.

i would say most women who live on campus are, or are religious/too shy to do participate.

Flightlessbirbz · 2022-10-16T22:50:35+00:00

No, most are not virgins but do not have many sexual partners. They are monogamous or serial monogamous.

Jarxius · 2022-10-17T03:07:29+00:00

All my college friends are virgins… Myself included. But we do lean more towards the traditional side of things.

ConcentrateOk1933 · 2022-10-17T03:11:39+00:00

The whole hookup culture in college is not what people think. I used to think it was an out of control orgy every weekend, but once I attended and hung out in the night life the only people who would hookup were couples who were already dating. Most people couldn't hold their alcohol or they'd just stay in their own friend group. Most of the time it was groups of young women clowning simps into buying them drinks and once the well went dry they'd all leave and go to the next bar to repeat.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-10-16T20:04:32+00:00

If you’re only polling girls on the strip on a Saturday night then of course the answer will be yes.

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2022-10-17T01:06:49+00:00

Most women get their bodies by serial monogamy. Only really low self esteem women are truly promiscuous because they equate sex as validation. No, college women as a whole arent anymore promiscuous than average.

2022-10-16T22:01:39+00:00

I wouldn't say most. There's a significant minority who are hoeing around.

It's possible to find someone who's also a virgin at your age. However, she's probably locked away in the library or is religious. Finding these girls is harder because the ones who are more social are going to bars.

Most women have one or two drunk hookups then date for a relationship. Some go through long periods celibacy either voluntary or involuntary depending on how attractive and social she is.

tinasnow-poty · 2022-10-16T22:03:30+00:00

Lots? Yes. Most? No. I think most girls will only sleep with 1-3 people during their degree. Most of my friends met someone in first year and ended up together the whole time. But there is a good amount that are trying to hit a new high score

RocinanteCoffee · 2022-10-17T01:52:26+00:00

Most people (US) will not be virgins by age 17.

Some women have no sex in college but quite a few do.

By the time a woman (or man) is 22 globally they are not likely to be a virgin. You are limiting your dating pool to a small minority, but there are still some who will meet your criteria.

szclimber · 2022-10-17T03:27:21+00:00

No. Most women are serial monogamous. If they have a "hoe phase" it is brief

elganador0 · 2022-10-23T08:54:13+00:00

Definitely not most. That's literally impossible. If a University has 3,000 female students, do you really think 1500+ are promiscuous? I would ask you to define promiscuous.

But at University there certainly are women who freely have sex with numerous men they are attracted to. I can tell you firsthand that the most promiscuous women I've ever seen in my life I met in college. Nightlife, social scenes and clubs, proximity to cute boys/girls, independence, time to blow, not many bills. It's usually the easiest time to have sex with little repercussions.

But most women, and I really mean most, want a relationship. Sex without intimacy does nothing for them. Surely a fair amount have had a one night stand, cause horniness, cause social pressure, and to at least experience it. Others are worried about STDs and others never felt an urge to be promiscuous. But by any reasonable definition of promiscuous you're talking about less than 5 percent.

funlightmandarin · 2022-10-16T19:56:12+00:00

I want to be with someone who thinks the same as me.

I'm saving myself for my first relationship

That's not the kind of person I want to be in a relationship with

Makes it sound like your idea of "sleeping around" is not being a virgin past age 20. Is it?

Exotic-One3381 · 2022-10-16T20:14:14+00:00

Absolutely. Most of my friends hoed about a ton in college. But a lot of them also met the guy they eventually married home they were at college or soon after They lived together for a 5-10 years in general then married. If you want to find some who aren't like that, then there are some of those too, mainly library types or religious

prizefighterstudent · 2022-10-17T00:23:34+00:00

It's overblown, and limited to a certain demographic. But the 304's they have on Fresh and Fit, by the grace of God, are a minority.

Few of my buddies from college rolled in fraternities, and told me that the girls who racked a ton of bodies were a minority, and had their own "sub-group" of girls who had the same lifestyle. I find this mirrors real life in many communities.

Regular-Loser-569 · 2022-10-16T19:45:31+00:00

How many is "most"? How many sexual partners is "extremely high"?

You can probably try to look up some surveys.

alphasupremacy5555 · 2022-10-16T21:28:24+00:00

Yes, women in college have an extremely high number of sexual partners. There's a lot of young hoes in college and those campuses are breeding grounds for sexually transmitted infections and venereal diseases. Especially girls who were in grade school with sheltered and came from very religious backgrounds as soon as they go to college they become full on whores, straight up sluts and they sleep around with a lot of guys in the dorms. Hook up culture is very much prevalent in college. That's where girls sleep around ride the cock carousel very hard and vigorously. I understand and completely respect that you don't want to sleep around you don't want to be promiscuous and you only want to be with one woman but what you have to understand is in today's world today's society there are way more modern women then there are traditional women. So you can't be a traditional man with women who don't want to be traditional women you have to date like how women date to have a moral of a level playing ground. Is more than likely that the girl that you get is not a virgin at all and has slept with her fair share of guys. Not saying that she's going to be a whore or a slut but almost. What you got to realize that hoe culture is going on on where young girls are encouraged and conditioned to want to have sex with a lot of guys because they are led to believe that it's cool and there's nothing wrong with that and that couldn't be further from the truth. You chose to remain a virgin but you were one of the very very few lucky guys who were capable of losing it. Whereas there are almost completely no sexy virgin women like at all not even in the slightest.

BrummieAMN19 · 2022-10-16T21:19:38+00:00

Isn't this subjective? Like what one considers promiscuity the another would be prudeness? For example I would say 15-20 for a woman is nothing yet most people my age and on here think that's bare.

calfshrug · 2022-10-16T22:53:44+00:00

It seems to me that a lot of girls will have 1-4 vaginal sex partners which aren’t LTRs, and will have a few non vaginal sex hook up buddies, and 1-3 LTRs before they get married. Promiscuous chicks or girls that like to party I’m college will likely average about 10-30 sex partners cumulatively by the end of their tenure in school. You can research people and their sexual history by talking to people in college, using dating apps (is she on tinder?), and meeting her family and friends if you go into a relationship with her.

Also, observe her behavior.

As someone else said, less promiscuous women often don’t hang out in seedy areas and aren’t big on the social scene, but I’ve personally known a chick who was painfully awkward, religious and homeschooled who joined the armed forces, and in the time she was in the navy, she at least lost her V, and started drinking and taking vain Snapchat pictures of her and a guy engaging in underage drinking. So, she seemingly made a 180° in less than a year

RahLyt · 2022-10-16T20:04:41+00:00

Yes absolutely. If they are not fucking you, they are fucking someone else. The moments I fucked more in my life was in Uni and Erasmus. Still I didn't fuck one third of what the girls in my residence did.

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-10-17T01:42:04+00:00

I won't say most, I don't have the statistical and truthful information to say that but I will say I've seen a couple gangbangs turn into "oh I just had a couple boyfriends in college" lol, my advice to guys is if you're dating a pretty girl that went to college, if it's not something that's going to eat at you, you just have to assume that she's had a few more dicks in her than she'll honestly tell you🤷‍♂️

Blitted_Master · 2022-10-16T20:06:38+00:00

Yes, and they will lie about their body count to hide this fact.

zazaman94 · 2022-10-16T22:01:36+00:00

Who cares what the “manly” thing to do is? Lol

You can have many many partners in college and never be considered “promiscuous”.

extrachromie-homie · 2022-10-16T20:06:29+00:00

no_bling_just_ding · 2022-10-16T20:22:09+00:00

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Short-Fingers · 2022-10-17T02:31:59+00:00

Idk, but I was friends with a frat guy who says he’s had sexual relations with over 100 women, and yes, most were in college. His personality is very rare though.

Pastakingfifth · 2022-10-17T02:41:08+00:00

I don't know what kind of social media you're consuming but there are plenty of virgin girls in college lol. Even if that number was still 5-10%(which the stats backup) that's still hundreds if not thousands of girls depending on the size of the school you go to.

vtribal · 2022-10-17T03:31:06+00:00

As a man in college YES!

2022-10-17T04:04:08+00:00

Most aren’t gonna be virgins.

FrostieTheSnowman · 2022-10-17T04:18:01+00:00

It is common. I don't think the vast majority of college-aged women are sleeping through the football team or anything, but college is about the time most people start truly dabbling. Like, you may not be able to find many virginal women at that age, but there are plenty of gals who aren't going buck wild, and treat relationships with care.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-10-17T07:21:22+00:00

Yes they are, it's one of the reasons I'm excited to go back to Uni next year.

RedPill115 · 2022-10-17T07:29:23+00:00

There's sort of a distribution.

1. Promiscous girls who are sleeping with lots of people.
2. Girls who sleep with a handful of guys -mostly boyfriends - then stay attached to one person.
3. Girls who sleep with 1 guy and stay attached to him for the rest of their life. 4. Girls who aren't sleeping with anyone.

Your problem is you are at the top of the curve for when you should be getting with a girl, and it's generally downhill from here if you want a girl who's not interested in sleeping with other people once you're dating. The kind of girls who are in group 4 in their senior year of college typically just...never like sex. There's something broken in their brain about it. They can even want to want sex but they just...don't.

Group 3 those are generally gone by the end of their freshman year already attached to the guy and there's no chance with them any more. Group 2 girls, some remain after college but it's a dwindling supply.

Most of whatever post-college virgins (in women) are women who are very unnattractive or just don't really want to have sex ever. Sry. The good news is that you're still at a decent age, it's pretty standard for guys to date a girl 2 years younger than them.

medlabunicorn · 2022-10-17T13:44:28+00:00

Neither myself nor any of my close friends did. We were all science nerds, and kind of like you said, we all had better things to do.

analt223 · 2022-10-17T15:30:45+00:00

Most are bi or lesbian now

MistyMaisel · 2022-10-18T18:15:07+00:00

No. Most of the women I knew in college did not have sex or only had sex with their boyfriends who they were committed to typically for years. Including me. Yes, we dated more people, but no, sex was not a part of dating.

Boston5500 · 2023-01-02T00:29:58+00:00

My son is a freshman in college and he told me the girls are super aggressive and want sex. He showed me some text messages from some girls. Wow!

Title	Is it true that most women in college are promiscuous?
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