To simplify the title I believe that most problems both men and woman complain about in regards to the dating market are all from this is the shifting view towards valuing sex over a committed healthy relationship in our younger years.

For some anecdotal evidence I am noticing growing numbers of younger teens posting "I haven't Lost my Virginity yet is Something Wrong with Me", "When Should I Try and Lose my Virginity by?" and so on and so forth. The most worrying thing is these are coming from young teens and is mostly due to open access to pornography and media which encourages promiscuity not even covering it's many faults such as increased link to depression, greater chance of marriage failure etc... promiscuity doesn't benefit anyone in the long term and yet it is glorified for all these men. We are seeing traditional masculine values being replaced with these shallow ones and young men are being exposed to things that are unhealthy for their development.

However I guess this leads into me talking about women too, women can always be broken down into two categories when it comes to their contribution to the issue at hand, either they get just as horny as men but due to men's obsession with just wanting sex they have a greater range of people they can easily obtain. Then there is the more unhealthy one which I have read a few women claiming the only real reason they are promiscuous is due to the attention it gives them and it is the only way they can find value for themselves. This I guess comes down more to openly accepting sexuality of all kinds in open discourse which harms both men and women, it both celebrates both men and women who get a lot of sex all this does is create a poor set of role models for younger generations and create resentment within those who cannot obtain any sex.

I guess my main takeaway is people aren't being taught to value a committed romantic relationship anymore they are taught that they need to give into the throws of passion and sleep with whoever they want, which is unhealthy in the long run for themselves and society as a whole, people are significantly happier when they are a part of a relationship which they value however people do not realise this until they hit the wall or settle down with someone they have no real attraction to.

People have gotten so much instant gratification nowadays that anything they have to wait for is simply a barrier which they overcome as quickly as possible, despite the value of sex increasing emotionally the more you wait with someone for it, you really do begin to value that person more if you just wait and see if you are really right for each other and then finally having sex. (I am not advocating for waiting for marriage as this is a completely different topic)