This is something I've seen more then a couple times on this subreddit. Men venting about being rejected and blaming it on women not finding them physically attractive.

But is that really the issue?

Speaking from experience, I was the one that used to blame everything on my looks, and womens standards. (M18, used to be average weight, became fit, and then gained a ton of weight after tons of rejections from women, now I am very overweight).

After a lot of rejections (maybe 10-15, each on I spent weeks/months trying to get something to happen) I concluded that my personality was what was troubling me.

More accurately, I would try to make women feel bad for me. I wasn't confident, I was shy. I didn't have friends, I was socially retarded. I ignored compliments and attempted to put myself down, while in the same time over compliment them.

I would ignore the fact that we are worlds apart, and just wanted them to be my girlfriend.

The problem was right there. I wanted a girlfriend. Instead of wanting a particular girl to be my girlfriend. If you get what I mean by that, you understand there is a difference.

My attitude towards dating was really bad. I looked down upon people that hopped in and out of relationships because I couldn't even get a girl to like me. I never thought a girl would like me, and breaking up with one was unthinkable.

At one point I even said I wouldn't mind if she was a bad person, I just wanted a gf. That's how low of an understanding I had of women and relationships.

I think a lot of guys on here blame their problems on women's standards and their own looks. When it's probably their personality and attitude that's wrong.

On here men seem to willfully ignore things like confidence, politeness, funniness, making women feel valued and needed. It's not all about how you look.

Think about how you make the other person feel when you are trying to get something to happen with them. And are you giving them special treatment?

If you are, that's the wrong move. All women think when you are being nice to them is "he is nice but is he like that in general or is he just trying to get in my pants?". Being an open, confident, nice person to everyone will make women come to you. Looksmaxing is also a thing, but not as necessary.