For context, I'm a (nearly) 32-year-old single male who's never had kids, not an incel, not a PUA or RP. Pretty much an average dude.

Porn in general never did much for me. In fact, I find the vast majority of it vomit-inducing. Why in the world would I enjoy seeing another dude ejaculate all over a woman's face? Literally the only part of porn that ever turned me on was watching girls take their clothes off. But even so, it feels so disconnected.

Enter camgirls. This is like entering bizarro world, because the second I log in to MyFreeCams, I have girls messaging me. Now obviously they're interested in extracting money from me, because that's their job, and I respect that. But I want to actually get to know the girl before we get sexual. I give them a tip so as not to waste their time, and if we connect, I tip them more to take the conversation to Skype.

Here's the thing: I frequently form genuine friendships with these girls. We keep chatting months, even years after I've even given them any money. I even had a relationship with one who lived close to me.

The reason I bring this up in this subreddit is to contrast my experience with camgirls to my experience with your average dating site. On a dating site, women do the selecting, and as a fairly average-looking guy in a suburban area, my match rate is around one in a few thousand. I don't even get the opportunity to send them a message or have a conversation.

Now when I go to a camgirl site, I get girls swarming me. The exact same people who would swipe left on me in a heartbeat. Don't get me wrong, I'm not criticizing at all, I'm just pointing out how the dynamic changes. And when I get a chance to talk with many of these girls, we often end up having a lot in common and getting along really well.

When women are put in a position where they have to ask men for things, instead of having it automatically done for them, they let their guard down, and their standards of "talking to you at all" decrease dramatically. And once they actually talk with you, it turns out that wow, sometimes you actually get along well!

This reinforces my belief that Tinder has had a massively negative impact on male-female interactions and relationships. So many couples that would have gotten along so well together swiped left on each other because of the simplicity of the app. You don't even get a chance to talk to each other until you've both decided there's a mutual physical attraction, and the differences in the way women select men versus how men select women have resulted in a ridiculous imbalance.

What do you guys think?