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Men, describe in detail your process of finding a partner

November 3, 2019

What does it take? How long? How many hoops do you have to jump through? Whether it be for a hookup, LTR, or anything in between, how much effort is required.

For me it goes like this:

  1. Find attractive girl online through a dating app
  2. Match or message her on Snapchat
  3. Conversation either flows or dies depending on how often she responds. Most times it doesn't lead anywhere because she has 100 other guys in her DMs.
  4. Set up date. Half will flake, the other half will go through with it.
  5. We go out, have fun, and she's usually sold from there.
  6. We date, hookup, whatever.

This entire process can happen in days, weeks, or months depending on the girl. Its akin to filling out job applications but worse.

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Title Men, describe in detail your process of finding a partner
Author _Neon_Shadow_
Upvotes 4
Comments 64
Date November 3, 2019 12:45 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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[–]wub123416 points17 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

Christ, it's laborious and thankless enough actually doing it, I'm not going to invest time in describing it.

[–]ontherailstoday8 points9 points  (13 children) | Copy Link


Nobody but you is going to thank you for going after the things you want.

[–]wub12349 points10 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

I don't have any problems achieving my goals in any other field or area of life. When I rely on myself, everything works out fine. As soon as other people come into the loop, that's where the problems start.

[–]_Neon_Shadow_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Pretty much

[–]flamingoinghomeIs three lizards in trench coat0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy Link

None of your other goals in life concern other people?

[–]wub12344 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

My other goals are:

  • To become a writer - DONE
  • To become a published writer - DONE
  • To have a reasonably lucrative career as a writer - DONE
  • To buy a house with my own money - DONE
  • To live in the countryside, in a beautiful part of the world - DONE
  • To look after my dog and make my dog happy - DONE / ONGOING
  • To make the best of every day that I wake up alive, and be grateful for what I have - DONE / ONGOING

There are some minor goals as well. I've been teaching my friend's daughter to play chess recently, and it's been really rewarding, while I've also become a pretty strong player, so I'd like to teach chess in schools. I'm not sure if that's feasible.

I guess I have some goals about having good friends in my life that could involve other people.

But, generally, my goals are to write as many books as I can between now and the time that my heart stops beating, for which I suppose I am reliant on others to some extent, but it is mostly reliant on my talent.

And to enjoy life and enjoy every day, which I try to do.

The only goal I have or have had that really requires the acquiescence of others is to have successful relationships with women, and possibly have a family. I've manifestly failed to do both of those things. Probably, almost certainly, that is partly my fault, maybe even mostly my fault. But it doesn't help when you get dumped and rejected over and over again.

[–]flamingoinghomeIs three lizards in trench coat1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ahhh---you're more introverted than I am, so this makes more sense. Having a lively and loving social circle is definitely one of my goals.

[–]wub12341 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You will definitely achieve it if you put the effort in.

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[–]flamingoinghomeIs three lizards in trench coat0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

As I said in another comment, I have nonsexual social goals and just sort of figured most people did too.

[–]wub12340 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Just to clarify, I did have a good group of friends when I was younger, but they tend to drift away as you get older. The older you get, the more life tends to centre around families.

Having said that, I could and should have done more to have a social life, but in my opinion this is kind of a pretence anyway, as people pursue a social life, until they find a partner, then they drift away from their social life.

For example, if I was going to go to a meetup group, I would want there to be women there, and, realistically, attractive women, and, realistically, attractive single women, or why I am attending?

[–]flamingoinghomeIs three lizards in trench coat0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't know how old you are, but my point still stands that having a healthy circle of platonic friends is one of my goals, and fwiw, I'm 27.

[–]wub12340 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's a good and healthy goal to have, but by the time you get to my age it's not a central part of life or socialising any more.

[–]King_Loser270 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Goals that rely on other people for success often don't work out imo. They involve way too many variables. At the end of the day, the only person you can 100% rely to get shit done is yourself.

[–]_Neon_Shadow_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

True enough. I feel you pain.

[–]farttmistress7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

  1. Friend-zone myself in with a female who is a social butterfly. This could be a cousin or a friends girlfriend. Be the fun friend too, it shouldn’t feel like some sort of utilitarian friendship although it kinda is.

  2. Let her know my intent is to hook up with girls, some might be casual some might not be. If she is bothered by this, it’s not gonna work. This is why you’ve gotta be fun, you’re kinda a man slut but your also the one planning a lot of fun stuff to do.

  3. Have her point out prospects for me and introduce me to girls, I mostly go with ones she only sort of knows, not ones that are real close to her. If a girl with a good reputation introduces you you’re pretty much already in.

[–]TheJim66Red God-Emperor of Slut Country2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Devilish....I approve

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OK, I'll play.

  1. I a busy with my life, my (small) company, my job (consulting), pursuing my interests, involved in my industry, volunteering, playing guitar and stuff
  2. I am in social setting 2-3 times a week. There I talk with anyone and everyone who has something interesting to say: males and females, young and old, pretty or fugly. Some of them happen to be female with whom there's a mutual attraction.
  3. Then we engage into a longer conversation, exploring each other... I alway cut my conversation short with the somewhat excuse that I need to talk with someone, and there and then I make plans to continue the conversation over coffee.
  4. We either make plans or exchange email/phone so that we can pinpoint a day/time to continue the conversation
  5. We decide to meet at a Starbucks near my place in a few days usually 7-10 days
  6. during those 7-10 days we chat and flirt often ending up exchanging nudes and talking about out likes and dislikes when it comes to sex
  7. We meet at a Starbucks near my place, continuing the topics of conversations that we're into.
  8. After an hour or so I ask her if she wants to come to my apartment so that I can show her something that we talked about (a book, music, art, object, my place...) and have a drink or two; and see what else it happens
  9. We go and... we talk some more, and often end up having sex.
  10. if she doesn't come to my place because not enough chemistry or not what she was looking for, we part ways.

That works for me, YMMV.

[–]decoy88Black Male in London5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

  1. Find average-attractive girl online through a dating app
  2. Trade numbers (fuck a snapchat)
  3. Conversation either flows or dies depending on how often she responds. Don’t really think about what other niggas are doing with her
  4. Set up date. Half will flake, the other half will go through with it.
  5. We go out, have fun, and fuck at the end of the night.
  6. We set up a regular casual thing, until that stops or develops into something serious

I enjoy the whole process because I don’t tie my self worth to any part of it

How long?

1 week

What does it take?

Filtering out women who aren’t DTF by being very blatant about my intentions

How many hoops do you have to jump through?

Like planning a date? I just flirt (fun), ask if she dtf (easy), and reserve table at bar (simple). So erm... 3 hoops

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[–]decoy88Black Male in London0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link


[–]wub12340 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link


Could you be more specific?

[–]decoy88Black Male in London0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

There are two numbers I have in my head. On of them excludes two threesomes I had and one doesn’t.

[–]tramanda1212 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dating is so abysmal in this day and age.

[–]_Neon_Shadow_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Its physically painful.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When I'm single I'm single and making no pretence of finding a partner. What usually happens is I'll wind up with a few girls I'm dating and a few on the periphery. Then I get tired of juggling, and one will usually start to stand out. Then it'll be a gradual drift into a relationship.

For hook ups, it's a bit random. That's just kind of part of the entertainment of single lifestyle, looking for sex. I'll make some kind of move on the second or third date to gauge interest, and if nothing is doing then I'm likely to lose interest.

I'm a bit reckless though, I don't have time to feign romantic interest early on, so I lose more chances than I take. It's all part of the fun though.

[–]TheJim66Red God-Emperor of Slut Country1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

1.Hit on random chick on the club or through daygame.

2.Get her social media

3.Try to set up a date .This is the part where most of the flakes happen.

4.Go on date.95% of the time if I get on that stage Im getting laid.

5.Get laid ,usually by date three.

6.plate , relationship ,whatev.

How long depends on how often I do step 1 and on how many flake on step three .

[–]rus9384Aromantic but cuddly0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Hit on random chick on the club or through daygame.

Have you ever left the club with the girl you met in that club with the intention to hook up?

[–]TheJim66Red God-Emperor of Slut Country0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Yes plenty of times.But the more usual scenario is getting contact info and then scheduling a date.

[–]rus9384Aromantic but cuddly0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I agree. But then, limiting yourself with one woman at the time is... limiting yourself.

[–]TheJim66Red God-Emperor of Slut Country1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If I don't want a relationship I plate.And I don't do these steps for only one woman at a time.

[–]FreevoulousPurple Pill Man0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Interesting, I get the exact opposite. I can usually pull a girl to fuck me the same night we met, but if I only get her contacts and wait, she WILL flake 99% of the time. I only had same night lays or no lay at all, and I run on similar n-count to you.

What is your exact technique, If I may ask?

[–]TheJim66Red God-Emperor of Slut Country0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah flakes are common but that's expected .It's just that same night lays are too rare for me to depend just on them.I usually just go have a fun convo ,say we must get together for coffee and then get her social media.I then send her a text a day later ,have a mini convo with her (like 5 messages) and then ask her out for drinks(not coffee) today or tomorrow.

[–]FreevoulousPurple Pill Man1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

sounds like you and I simply do the same things in a different sequence. I have the coffee, fun conversation and trade social media with them in the morning after sex.

Given your and mine stats seems like there is no practical difference.

[–]Barely-moralMostly red though1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

1-Realize that I am not attractive to someone I didn't meet yet just because I exist. So I will have to become attractive in someway. (This took me 18 years at least)

2-Become attractive, both by getting money and by improving my image. (The time this takes will change depending on how you get your money and how hard do you lift. In my case this took me around 5 years)

3-While I was improving my position in life I decided that it would be good if I actually did some introspection so I actually know what I want in life and what I want in a partner. This also took place during those 5ish years.

Results of those years: -I have enough money and status to be a beta bucks.

-I am as fit as I can be and people don't want to throw up when they see me. I will never be a model but I take what I can get.

-I know the kind of woman I want to have by my side. I know about the most important quality she needs to have in order to be considered as an option. "I should be her best choice. She shouldn't have any option that is better than me."

4- Start helping in charities and homeless shelters. While doing so, start looking for a woman I am interested in. (This took around a year)

5-Find miss moral. Befriend her. Look for mayor incompatibilities. Make sure that she knows that I am looking at her. Wait for IOI. (This took around a month)

6-Once is clear that she is interested in me. Hire a private investigator to find something about her that she is likely to hide. (Around a week)

7-Ask her about the things I find through the PI. If she is honest to me, I can trust in her. If she hides it, then I can't trust her to be honest and I start again from point 4. (This takes just a few hours)

8- Confess my interest and what I have done. Offer a deal. Either we both get what we want from a relationship or we both get out with nothing.

9- Miss moral accepted. Because I am literally the best option she has and will ever have.

[–]Orange_PaisleyOrange pill is best pill[🍰] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I would have been repulsed.

[–]goatismycopilotcatladycatladycatlady🐐🐐🐐🐐3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You aren't a homeless woman in a developing country though.

[–]Orange_PaisleyOrange pill is best pill[🍰] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link


[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah. I know his story well and it skeeves me out every time. That being said if they treat each other well and are happy.....

[–]rus9384Aromantic but cuddly0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So I will have to become attractive in someway.

And accept that someone is not attracted to you and try more to find those who are.

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[–]Barely-moralMostly red though0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

We are not married. I call her miss moral because that is how I call her on reddit. Also, I treat my relationship with her seriously. I have seen plenty of marriages get treated with disrespect, if those disasters can use that language then I can too.

[–]dmoneycrowgodRed Pill Man1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Find potential girl, check out Instagram. If her page gives me hoe vibes which most do I next. If not I take on date, from the date if they’re feeling me we keep going on dates lol

[–]Gravel_RoadsJust a Pill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Before I do anything, I have to decide what sort of relationship I want - ie, what do I have time for? What can I commit to responsibly? What sort of partner would suit my current life style? (I'm a bi dude, so for the sake of the question I'll assume a.) that I want to date a woman and b.) that I want to date casually/ONS/short term/primarily for sex.)

1.) Figure out what target demographic my "type" of chick would be likely to fit into. Broadly speaking, I like high-empathy, high-artistic, high-curiosity types, so I'd probably look for meet up groups for gardening, hiking, museum-going, while also networking amonst co-workers and meeting their friends and the friends of their friends (I work in social services with counselors and emergency responders ect.) This part is the biggest pain because there is no way around it - it takes a lot of extra work to meet new people, and the more selective and picky you are, the more people you outright reject as a potential partner, so the more people you have to meet just existentially.

2.) Invite over the people that pass my screening. Something low-pressure like watching a movie or having dinner, or going for a walk at a park nearby. This is around the time I will divulge information she'll need to make an informed hookup decision (ie I'll tell her honestly that I was a former sex worker, that I'm in a committed open relationship and will not be able to give LTR commitment, I'll tell her that I'm trans ect.)

3.) If they're DTF on their own, awesome. If things feel relaxed and she seems open to advances, I legit have found going straight to semi-jokingly going straight to "So like, you wanna make out?" covers a lot of ground, gives her the chance to disqualify herself from the hookup list, and also gives her a chance to sign right up for it. (If "No", I call it a no-harm, no-foul and shrug it off to do something else that night. But I probably don't invite her over again, if I'm looking for something more; I don't bother telling her this, if so. I just ghost. She'll figure it out or she won't.)

4.) Forget aboutit afterwards. I have a really full life and have found most interactions don't really need to be re-examined. That's just needless hamster spinning. As long as no one seemed upset and everyone was roughly on the same page, I see no reason to think about it further. I already got the reward for it.

At maximum, between the time you meet someone you click with and the time you hook up should be a week. And even then, a week is dragging it out. The greatest excitement about hook up culture is immediate gratification, and if you wait more than 48 hours after first meeting/first significant interaction, your and her memory of each other will already have begun to go stale.

[–]thjn1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not a believer in online dating. People present an idealized image of themselves.

If you really want to get to know someone, don't plan a candle light dinner. Instead drive with them into the next big traffic jam.

Hanging out in places where it is likely to meet people with my interests - concerts, galleries, theater.

Getting into a conversation about the venue, the peace, the artist. Never about myself!

Sometimes having a 2. or 3. date for a dinner or drinks.

No. 1 learning - don't show honest interest as this is a mayor turn off for most women. Don't share yourself too much or better not at all! Play this stupid, pointless game because that is the way people work.

Had several LTRs and enjoyed them and that is what I am looking for. Neither a red- nor a blue-pill person.

Always be respectful and friendly but watch out for all the shit tests and other crap.

Tedious? Big time! Worth it? Not sure.

[–]MubutuDeezNuts1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I look on Craigslist, find the second lowest price, and haggle from there.

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[–]diffdedbedGreen Eyed Devil0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Find a profile on an online site such as SDC.

  1. Make sure shes not fat.

  2. Pray he's not fat and make sure hes not bi.

  3. Email profile on site.

  4. Open our pictures so they can see what we look like.

  5. Wait for a response. Get a response (70% of the time).

  6. Set up a time to meet at a club, meet and greet, nor dinner/drinks.

  7. Meet them, make sure they aren't insane, catfishing, etc.

  8. Set up a second date, if its at their house we are going to be having sex, if its at a restaurant or party maybe. Odds are if we aren't screwing by the second date its not going to happen.

What does it take? - 30 minutes to a year trying to find the time.

How many hoops do you have to jump through? - Hoops are for newbies unsure about non-monogamy. We've given up on people with hoops.

Whether it be for a hookup, LTR, or anything in between, how much effort is required. - I'm not sure how to quantify effort but this isn't a chase.

[–]Salty-Bastardjust an excitable boy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I usually just hang around the discharged door of this place.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't really have one.

When I was in university the pickings would have been easier, but having recently graduated and moved across the country for work I keep to myself and I don't have many friends. I also refuse to use online dating services because of their data-trading practices and the fact that coworkers and search engines can easily discover my profile, and that participation on them is a losing proposition for men.

Even in university though I didn't take advantage of the opportunity. I came from a dysfunctional family where I did not learn to socialize properly, so I was woefully behind in matters dating. If I saw a girl in one of my classes who I was attracted to, I did nothing and let the crush fester until I awkwardly approached them telling them I "liked" them. Horrible in retrospect, but I didn't know any better.

The one relationship I had I managed to start by not following this strategy, and probably by luck. I took some RP advice and rather than sit on a crush and let it become oneitis I asked her out immediately. We went on a few dates, and I made sure to escalate. That was a fruitful 1.75-year relationship that we ended amicably three years ago when she moved to another country.

Answering your questions one by one:

What does it take?

Meeting an interested single woman, which is not possible now due to the market and sibce I'm well below ideal male attractiveness but would have been easier in college.

How long?

Took about two months between meeting my ex-girlfriend and our declaring a relationship.

How many hoops do you have to jump through?

Don't know honestly.

how much effort is required?

More than it's worth tbh

[–]SDW1370 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

  1. Go on dating apps.

  2. Get maybe a few matches over the course of several months. Matches who never respond and/or aren't that attractive.

  3. Reset Tinder, and maybe change my bio and add new pictures.

  4. Repeat steps 1-3.

  5. Try approaching girls in clubs.

  6. Stops approaching said girls in clubs after getting rejected.

[–]welcometothejlRed Pill Man0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Let's count the hoops. 1. Initiate contact 2. Drive conversation. Usually about two weeks of texting and a few phone calls before a first date. Rarely does the conversation flow with good back and forth, at least not at first, so that initial push is all me. 3. Ask out 4. Think of something fun to do and plan it. 5. Pay 6. Ask out again 7. Continue to drive conversation 8. Pay again 9. Initiate physical contact, not based on explicit consent, but obscure signals. 10. Announce loudly and clearly my intent of putting my hand on their thigh, and asking with mood ruining clarity whether or not this is acceptable. 11. Get turned down 12. Go home and whack off.

Obviously this is embellished, but it's such a hassle. And if you do finally get to where you want to be, and the woman starts opening up you realize, yikes, there is a lot of baggage here. Debt, horrible habits, substance abuse (pharmaceutical, alcohol, or drugs), kids, ex's, some other weird medical issues. Oh I'm not just going to walk away if I went through steps 1-11, I'm going to try and hit it. After that I'm gone. But the older I get, the more it makes sense to just skip right to step 12.

[–]erman880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Mines the exact same although I haven't found girls to be "flakey" exactly, to get a first dates its a bit hard. They always have excuses or other plans that make them seem like the most popular people in the world but once I get a commitment they generally don't cancel.

[–]prodigy2throw#Transracial0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you go searching for gold in a landfill you’ll just end up covered in shit. Snap and Dating apps are a cesspool. You need to legit hit the lotto to find someone worth wifing up. It’s not efficient

[–]reluctantly_red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Drink in public and watch for indications of interest.

[–]ifelsedowhilelocal cop - cherry top0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I go to and look for a nice girl. I have to be careful as the pics are sometimes deceiving. typically you have a curvy looking girl in the photos but once you meet her IRL she's overweight.

[–]AdolfGandi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're a legend, isn't that illegal af though? All the callgirls on r/escorts are really bitchy when you ask questions, they sound like they read the Mean Girls script one too many times. Hopefully they aren't all rude and stuck-up?

[–]goneaway2thewind0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Process of finding a DATE

Unlock phone

Either answer my last message from your average thot looking for attention or shoot shot on tinder with an average thot

Act like I hate her but remind her she's cute

Wait for her to fall for the typical asshole chad stick

Sex her

Rinse and repeat

Process of finding a PARTNER

Give up

[–]EsauTheRed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I work on myself, find someone and sweep them off their feet, have a crazy and intense relationship that eventually blows up and sucks the life out of me and reenter the building phase

[–]Flareprime0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same process as OP but I do real life rather than online.

[–]mabev435680 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

-Find a good looking woman

-Approach, talk, arouse her, invite to my department, escalate, have sex.

-If she like the sex, and want to pursue a relationship, is her problem. My problem was to seduce her into bed, so I gave the sex.

Her problem is to seduce me into a relationship, so she has to give the relationship, demonstrate commitment, respect, and give the security that if there is a baby, it is mine.

She does not have the benefit of the doubt.

There is not such a thing as a permanently won love. If she becomes insufferable, uncommitted, untrustworthy, disrespectful, disobedient, the relationship ends.

I'm here for my own benefit. I'm with a woman to have a good time. If she is a pain in the ass, it is over.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

And so? Many things in life are worse than job applications but that doesn't mean they aren't important.

[–]FreevoulousPurple Pill Man0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

  1. Go out drinking with friends. Preferably a house party or a dive bar/pub location.
  2. See if there is any woman who gives me the "vibe" that she might want a guy like me. It is usually the women with style matching to mine, and who give me a lot of eye contact.
  3. Be the "man of the party" in front of her: jovial, friendly, cocky and fun.
  4. Either wait until she starts flirting, or flirt first myself. Use a lot of push-pull. Frame the situation as if she has to win me over, not the other way around. Act cocky, confident and a bit of an asshole.
  5. Wait for the "touch signal": this is usually when she either punches me mockingly for being an asshole or touches me durign flirting. I found out it is better if the girl breaks the touch barier.
  6. Flirt very heavily now with a lot of touching, but push-pull still (like, hug her and then walk away, sit her on my lap then chase her away etc)
  7. Repeat point 6 until either she initiates a kiss, or looks eager to be kissed (eye contact, face very close to mine, raspy, emotional voice etc)
  8. Make out, and try to get away with as much necking and discreet petting as the occasion allows.
  9. Once the party starts dying down, take her to my place, or go to hers.
  10. Keep acting casual and confident even as we undress.
  11. Fuck her. Make absolute sure she enjoys it and cums (or at least gets close to that). I don't do One Night Stands, I rather try to invest my time and energy on the first time to make her want repeated sex with me, and be FWB. It does not matter if I cum the first time, or even enjoy it much, I treat it as an investment.
  12. Be super friendly to her on the next morning (afterplay, cuddling, making breakfast), but keep it short and do not linger.
  13. Contact her after 2-3 days to set up another meeting. Keep it causal and sexual. Do not go on "Dates" meet to have fun and fuck.
  14. repeat 13 until I find someone more interesting, or grow attached to her, and "upgrade her" from a FWB to Girlfriend. Keep looking for other girls beside her, never promise or expect monogamous exclusivity.

My Stats and facts:

Im a 33 year old dude. Mostly white with some Asian genetics visible in my face. 5'11/180 cm tall, on the better looking end of skinnyfat. 6/10 looks, 7/10 when groomed and polished to go out. Long hair/beard/tattoos combo (a certain subset of women dig it, so it gives me additional point with them).

Been using the same system and technique for picking up women since 2003. Only night game, only while drinking, only strong cocky-funny asshole style. Making the girl initiate steps, but always following up on these steps with escalation of my own.

Going after girls younger than me, using the "worldly older dude" mask to appear cooler.

[–]G77R23DNeomasculine TradCon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm ready to get married so I only date women I meet at church and church functions. I say hello, we chat for a while, and I ask her out. Then we date and we meet each others families around date 5 or so. Pretty simple.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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