These are the two scenarios in which a betabux situation can happen

  1. Guy is significantly older than woman
  2. Woman is significantly more physically attractive than the man

In both instances, the man is in a financially good place while the woman isn't.

The average age difference in the west between couples in the west is 2-3 years so this almost never happens. Certainly not among university educated crowds.

We get it,you're an an unappealing stem guy, of course beta bucks, gold-digging, etc make all sense from your perspective. But most men aren't them so we need to stop acting like your situation is ubiquitous.

People delude themselves into thinking men in relationships are "betas" . This is them trying to get away from the fact that they're single most people who are social are able to form loving relationships. The truth is that if a western woman is willing to enter a relationship with a man, she is probably attracted to him.

This is you trying to get away from the fact that you're not getting any action and by avoiding to accept that you're in the minority (significantly below average), you think that it's most men who have trouble dating. A sense belonging and commonality is created to ease the pain. But it's not most men. It's you.

If you have trouble dating, you're not average. You're the bottom of the barrel. Either really ugly, poor or no social skills. Or just stuck in a bad spot in life that makes it hard to meet women. The sooner you accept this, the better you can target your problem areas. Improve yourself, adjust your standards, do whatever makes sense in your situation. Just stop saying dumb shit like 20% of men get all the women to feel better about yourself.