With all the obsession about looks, people seem to forget one that irrespective of a man's looks,
- He will not be satisfied if he does not become a respectable member of society. There seems to be something intrinsic to a man that wants him to achieve something. It satisfies a man's soul.
- Nobody wants to marry a chronically broke or mentally unstable hot guy. Even outside of marriage, women who got shit going in their lives get very bored of men who aren't interesting.
- Competence (in all areas of life) is far more important for men than looks if the man is not seriously disfigured or signifcantly below average. If you're a man, nobody's here to save you.
Competence is multifactorial and matters in all areas of life. Interpersonal competence (social skills), professional competence, emotional competence (values, psychological health and integrity). Professional competence is not enough.
It's probably all deeply evolutionary as well. Men's status is determined mainly by their behavior. Their courage, integrity and ability.
Ironically, even with regards to dating, I have never seen men who check all those three boxes struggle with women. I have however seen good-looking men who lack these qualities struggle and not be respected by women. I'm sure most guys here have had the experience once of thinking "I'm way better-looking than this guy but he's still way more succesful than me with women".
Take the competence pill.
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