Hi Everyone,

One of the things that happen round here that I see a lot of people jumping to conclusions about other people’s motives for “writing that”.

It often seems to me that people have a picture in their mind of who “the other person is” and ascribes motivation their words that are self-serving for “that” kind of person. Among the guys this is often “a fat blue haired feminist with a face like a magnet dragged through a scrapyard”. Among the gals this is often “a fat spotty teenaged neckbeard with moderate autism”.

From what I can see, those mental images cause a lot of confusion, misattribution of motive, and cross-talk (where neither side understands the other) on PPD.

For example. I am fairly sure many of your mental images of me are effectively this or perhaps something like this. Edit: Apparently it's this.

This causes you to jump to the conclusion that I say what I say because it’s something a person like the above person “would want to believe” in order “to reassure himself that he’s right and the world is wrong and he’s going to get the ladies someday, just as soon as they all hit the wall and my status goes up because <reasons>”.

Now, there is not much on here we can do to correct this, given almost all of us do not wish to dox ourselves openly. And I was thinking of ways we could help overcome this barrier (as we did in the purge week “anonymous pic swap threads” to some level).

Here what I came up with. I found two sites at which you can upload a picture, and it gives you a “celebrity that looks like you”. This may serve to give people a “better idea of who you are” than their current mental image, without a need to expose a real photo of you.

Here are the sites...

https://www.celebslike.me

http://www.pictriev.com

I’ll comment my results below,

So.... what I’d like to ask is....

  1. Please go to these sites, pop a good selfie in, and post photos of your matches here.

  2. Let us know (similar to how I will Below) what the match % is and how you feel about whether the photos actually reflect “your look”

  3. Obviously, as these are models/actors this is going to give a false impression of how great you look within that face shape, try and let us know how much to adjust this down (in your biased estimation) to get somewhere around how you look

  4. Please comment on the pics other people post, and tell us how reflective this all is of the “mental image in your head” you had of them before

Hopefully, we can all have a bit of fun, learn a little about each other. It might also help us stop “talking past each other” because we realise a “fairly normal guy is talking to a fairly normal gal” when we argue, rather than (as now) having the mental image of a giant blue haired fatty on one side and a fat greasy spotty neckbeard on the other and talking way past each other all the time as a result.

Have fun.