There have been a few posts recently about women withholding sex from men they see as potential longterm partners. Here's the post from today. I don't see many people denying that women do this, though there is some disagreement on why they do it.
A long time ago, I happened on an article that I'd like to share with you: One More Condom in the Landfill
tl;dr it references an advice column where a young man laments that a girl he likes, doesn't like him back. His situation is not relevant to this post. What's relevant here is the advice he's given, and how it relates to the recent posts here on PPD about women and longterm partners.
The writer of the advice column admits that girls bang "bad boys" and then (here comes the point) tells the young man to keep being "nice"! Even better, in the comment section a girl says that she too dumped a "nice guy" but then he changed into a cad and has sex with lots of women. "Dont do what my exboyfriend did" she admonishes.
Yes! Definitely! Under no circumstances should you change yourself from a guy who doesn't get sex because you're nice, because you're "boyfriend material," into a guy who does get sex. No!! Anything but that!!
*facepalm* - this is the best example I've ever seen of the Blue Pill, and it is implicit in many of the comments from women in the various PPD threads on this topic. "Take it as a compliment that you're LTR material!" they say. "Well no, we wont be having sex, why do you ask?"
This is what drives young men to TRP. This shit right here. Because, (are you ready to have your mind absolutely blown?) as a man you actually increase your chances of being her boyfriend by not being in this "boyfriend material" category. That's right! If you could choose between (a) being boyfriend material or (b) being boyfriend material but acting "bad" so that you don't get put into the boyfriend material category
...option (b) is more likely to get you into an actual relationship with her. Plus, you had sex on the first date. Plus, quite frankly, the relationship will start off on a more healthy footing. That guy in the PPD thread I linked above just had his girlfriend, whom he loves, tell him that she banged other guys while making him wait. Big oof.
Hey /u/KomSaaDeHvie imagine you had behaved more like a "bad boy" on that first date and had sex with your now-girlfriend that night, then after that, you showed her those "boyfriend material" traits and progressed to a committed relationship. Imagine the story she tells of meeting you was, "yeah I was all over him the moment I saw him - we slept together on the very first date!"
How does that alternate reality make you feel vs. the reality you're currently in?
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