People need to stop saying men are lonely because of their personality.

Seeing this repeated over and over is irritating to say the least. There's a lot of posts on the internet by men who complain about their lack of success in dating and whenever they display the slighest hint of frustration they are told they're needy, entitled and have to work on their personality. I don't know why this is even a thing. Like, yes, personality plays a role in matchmaking, but working on your charisma will not make you more physically attractive. Personality is primarily sought when we look for friends, not mates. I understand that "looks get the door open, personality lets you stay" and that there also plenty of men with terrible personalities in relationships. I understand both of these points quite well. I guess what I'm trying to say is that too many people incorrectly analyze the situations of most lonely men and assume they are unable to get a gf because of their bitterness instead of inferring that they're bitter because they can't get a gf. I think we should try to understand the particularities of each person and avoid cliche reasonings.