There’s always so much scorn and gaslighting towards men who vocalize issues with relationships and sex. People will always say “I know a guy who’s 5’2 and ugly and he has a beautiful girlfriend so the problem is YOU.”

Now I’m not saying that self improvement isn’t important, but acting like every single person who is single is solely in that position because they don’t shower or have a terrible personality is just flat out discrediting people’s life experiences. There’s people who put a ton of work into themselves and still don’t get success.

Somehow I feel these same people would sing a much different tune if someone said “I grew up poor and black in an inner city neighborhood and now I’m a wealthy entrepreneur! Clearly the reason you’re still working at McDonalds is your laziness.”

I feel like people just don’t want to admit that some people have problems dating because of reasons that are no fault of their own. People like to believe in the just world fallacy. It’s hypocritical because people will also turn around and say capitalism failed them, and it’s not their fault they can’t pay rent or anything like that.