Preamble

I'm not arguing that gender relations and expectations are in any way fair or balanced today. I'm only dealing with the current reality. And by 'average' guy, I meant in terms of appearance and capability. I realize that simply having the ability to resist wasting your time makes you not average. But we won't get sidetracked by that.

Main Point

We all need to relax sometimes. But the mating market is super competitive for average guys now. If you want to get a decent girl, you need a leg up. And the key to getting that leg up is all about using your time wisely. Men still bear the burden of performance despite women having equal opportunity. That means you have to outperform both other men, and women who are your equals and have equal avenues for success. There is only one way to do this: use your time more effectively than everyone else. And that means accepting that THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FREE TIME.

From an early age, a successful guy needs to find ways to relax that still improve his standing. There should be no video games ever. Masturbation is done quickly in the shower when you need it; no porn and no making a sensual production of your masturbation. Bust the nut you need to bust, then get back to things. Drink and socialize in a way that effectively creates networks that help you, be it personal support networks of friends or professional networks. Don't waste time with people that hurt you. Social media is purely used to support work or in a minimalist way to support the logistics of maintaining your networks. You don't text or DM casually. It's needed information only. When you need to communicate with people in more depth, you call them or e-mail them or meet them in person like a fucking real human being.

At all times, think of killing at least two birds with one stone. You need to be fit, so have physical hobbies that you can do in groups with good people, like hiking or cycling. You get relaxation, fitness, and build a network all at the same time. You don't watch TV or films except with other people as part of a social function. When you read, you read things that help you in some way. No shitty, guilty pleasure books. Become active in the community in a way that can be relaxing, help make friends, meet your moral and spiritual need to do good and contribute, and maybe even help your business all at the same time. Over time, you become a leader. You have groups that you can introduce prospective female partners to. It shows that you have things to offer, do not depend on her to provide entertainment, and casts you in a high status light all at the same time.

If you use your non-work time wisely like this, you will never need to use dating apps. You will meet women naturally and in an environment that casts you in the best light. And dating apps waste time anyways.